Venting How do you move on?

[lastappleonearth]

I can't seem to move on u know, it's been quite some time now and I still think abt her almost every moment, I still cry during the night. I know that she moved on and I think she is happy now and I'm glad for that, she deserves happiness, but I'm just stuck. She even still appears in my dreams and it's nice I guess, but when I wake up, it makes it so much worse. She was right abt everything in the end.
This summer has been so shit, I'm so fckin lonely. Like what are u supposed to do when u have no one left, I just don't know. Being all alone with my thoughts isn't good.

If u ever experienced sth similar, how did you move on?
I guess it'd be easier, if there were some ppl around me, but there's no one

 

[tonicer]

Who was she and what happened to her?

 

[alioshakaramazov]

You don't, you just keep on existing until it somehow stops being your number 1 thought overall. Or maybe you do. For me, it's been more than a year since it happened and I still think about her. It's not on my mind 24/7 but it definitely always is lurking. Anyway, it's just a matter of time until it becomes less insufferable. At least that's how it went for me.

 

[lastappleonearth]

Who was she and what happened to her?

A girl I could've really had a future with. Nothing bad happened to her fortunately, she's doing fine actually I think, she just moved on

You don't, you just keep on existing until it somehow stops being your number 1 thought overall. Or maybe you do. For me, it's been more than a year since it happened and I still think about her. It's not on my mind 24/7 but it definitely always is lurking. Anyway, it's just a matter of time until it becomes less insufferable. At least that's how it went for me.

Yeah I know, I just wish I could move on quicker, many ppl seem to move on rather quick. I just miss her, she was the only person who was ever close to me. I'm sorry your relationship didn't work out, hope it gets better

 

[tonicer]

A girl I could've really had a future with. Nothing bad happened to her fortunately, she's doing fine actually I think, she just moved on

That's a relief but also sad. I had that happening to me a bunch of years ago.

Her name was Julia and she was wonderful. She was smart and really nice and also very pretty but she never made it her entire character. Last time i saw her was in 2008.
She was a classmate at an evening school i attended back then to get my High School Diploma. I just hope she is happy and healthy.
I never thought for a moment i was good enough for her. I am my biggest enemy.

I still think about her almost every day. I doubt that there is a way to move on. If you find one please share it.

Did you think you had a chance with your love interest?

 

[lastappleonearth]

That's a relief but also sad. I had that happening to me a bunch of years ago.

Her name was Julia and she was wonderful. She was smart and really nice and also very pretty but she never made it her entire character. Last time i saw her was in 2008.
She was a classmate at an evening school i attended back then to get my High School Diploma. I just hope she is happy and healthy.
I never thought for a moment i was good enough for her. I am my biggest enemy.

I still think about her almost every day. I doubt that there is a way to move on. If you find one please share it.

Did you think you had a chance with your love interest?

I'm sorry man, yeah self sabotage is one of my biggest problems. I definitely had a chance and she was extremely patient and tried to make it work for a long time, but eventually she had to leave, I understand that. She begged me to listen to her, but I just wouldn't. Thinking that you're not good enough for someone and subconsciously self sabotaging can turn everyone away eventually, even if they love you very much. In that situation there's just nothing they could do

 

[Vacíø]

I'm sorry. Better things are coming, I mean it. I remember my first breakup. I thought I was going to die alone. Then I got a new girlfriend. We broke up, and again I thought I was going to die alone, but I got a new girlfriend later. We broke up again, and so on. And somehow, I've found myself being both loved and hated at times.
I'm telling you this because I know you're going to grow from that experience and find someone new. I mean, I'm short and boring, and yet, I was enough

 

[lastappleonearth]

I'm sorry. Better things are coming, I mean it. I remember my first breakup. I thought I was going to die alone. Then I got a new girlfriend. We broke up, and again I thought I was going to die alone, but I got a new girlfriend later. We broke up again, and so on. And somehow, I've found myself being both loved and hated at times.
I'm telling you this because I know you're going to grow from that experience and find someone new. I mean, I'm short and boring, and yet, I was enough

You're prob right, but yeah rn it doesn't feel like it. Doesn't make anything better that she rlly was the only person, who was close to me in this world, even though we lived far away from each other. Rn I don't even know where I would meet sb, but one has to cling on to hope ig

 

[Vacíø]

I get you. A breakup really hurts. I hope you get better soon, you can always reach out if you want.

 

[Off_Switch]

Only thing is time. In the meantime, if you have to think about her, ,maybe just think about all the things you DIDN'T like about her.

 

[lastappleonearth]

Only thing is time. In the meantime, if you have to think about her, ,maybe just think about all the things you DIDN'T like about her.

Yeah I try that, but tbh (in this case unfortunately) there weren't that many things I didn't like

 

[violetforever]

how long has it been? im sorry

tbh i never got over someone even after 2 years. i eventually got in contact with them again just to get hurt more by them and add onto the reasons to ctb now. if you can see yourself moving onto another person that will help a lot. my problem is im not open to anyone new. very stuck on this person for 5 years now…

 

[lastappleonearth]

how long has it been? im sorry

tbh i never got over someone even after 2 years. i eventually got in contact with them again just to get hurt more by them and add onto the reasons to ctb now. if you can see yourself moving onto another person that will help a lot. my problem is im not open to anyone new. very stuck on this person for 5 years now…

I'm sorry you got hurt so much. It's been around 8 months without any contact. You know at first, I didn't even comprehend it, like didn't process it completely. It started hitting me the second month tho. She was there for my whole adult life basically, in almost every moment

how long has it been? im sorry

tbh i never got over someone even after 2 years. i eventually got in contact with them again just to get hurt more by them and add onto the reasons to ctb now. if you can see yourself moving onto another person that will help a lot. my problem is im not open to anyone new. very stuck on this person for 5 years now…

I actually tried moving onto another person, well I didn't actively try or search for it, it just happened, but that made everything worse tbh. I just got hurt, used for attention ig and then discarded. But idk, mby if it would've been a different person, who knows