Discussion How do you cope with having no friends?

[gayboy300]

My journal and being okay with doing things alone.

I've journaled for years now, sometimes very sparsely but for the last few weeks I've been daily journaling out of habit and to decompress. Everything I would tell a friend (and things that I wouldn't) gets written into the journal.

I have had multiple friendless periods in my life, so I've gotten used to doing things alone no matter how weird people may think I am for it. I get out of the house and do my hobbies alone.

 

[Liebestod]

I don't. I just mindlessly go through the motions everyday.

 

[yesi]

I don't, it's pretty painful, I make online friends sometimes but those friends still move like irl.

 

[unsaiddes]

I distract myself by any means necessary, especially just rotting on the couch on my phone or playing a game. I do get out of the house sometimes and have family and plenty of acquaintances, but no actual friends. It doesn't help that I tend to sabotage all my relationships by never reaching out first or replying in a timely manner. People don't tend to want me around for anything more than a shallow conversation once or twice a year. It definitely hurts but I've gotten good at repressing my feelings and pretending everything is good. I lie to my family about having friends so they don't worry. The lying is the hardest part.

 

[yesi]

I distract myself by any means necessary, especially just rotting on the couch on my phone or playing a game. I do get out of the house sometimes and have family and plenty of acquaintances, but no actual friends. It doesn't help that I tend to sabotage all my relationships by never reaching out first or replying in a timely manner. People don't tend to want me around for anything more than a shallow conversation once or twice a year. It definitely hurts but I've gotten good at repressing my feelings and pretending everything is good. I lie to my family about having friends so they don't worry. The lying is the hardest part.

I hate having to lie to family, it also hurts to pretend but they keep going with questions because you're smiling and saying it's good haha

 

[Lady_V]

I have a highly social job. I am still depressed and alone when I go home, but throughout the day I get little dopamine hits that keep me going just another day.

 

[Macedonian1987]

I have been friendless for all of my 38 year life, I accepted it as a default state. I don't even have the need for friends. Actually I'm happier when I'm alone.