How did you get the courage to leave an abusive situation?

[rotten]

If you've ever left someone who's been abusive towards you, whether it's family, a SO, or whoever....How did you get the courage to do so? Personally it's something I fear quite a bit, yet I'm tired of being treated like garbage.

 

[Largeletters]

I still never know whether to call it abuse, but I was in a controlling and manipulative relationship for about a year and a half. It wasn't an ideal situation, I had been through the tumultuous situation of trying to leave, but being manipulated into staying, so I know how hard it is to leave. When I finally, finally left for good (it has been almost three months since the breakup and we have not spoken since due to the measure I took) I had felt fed up for some time, things that my ex had done to me couldn't be forgotten and I knew the relationship could not be saved. When I left I was in the state of mind to do so and had the resources and support to do so.

I'm sorry you're in this situation, I truly feel for you.

 

[Lalala]

If you've ever left someone who's been abusive towards you, whether it's family, a SO, or whoever....How did you get the courage to do so? Personally it's something I fear quite a bit, yet I'm tired of being treated like garbage.

I done it at age 19. I tried a few times, always stopped for some shit reason. But eventually I just went. Was hard, I was homeless etc but better than that situation

 

[cantlive]

By connecting with my emotions and remembering who I was. and it was not easy because it took acceptance, but then when I bore it it was easier to see a pathway (& not just perceptions.)

 

[Makko]

By being a cheeky contrarian who enjoys other people not getting what they want

 

[Alwaysbadtime]

Leaving requires money and autonomy.

 

[logan]

This is often particularly difficult with people we love and who know us well.

The bottom line is empathy.
If you manage to put yourself in the other person's shoes, the problem is only half as bad.
And it is important to let the other person finish and to really listen to what is being said.

We all make mistakes and don't like to admit them.