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Leopard2023
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- Sep 24, 2023
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Is it ok to say the reasons why you wanted to ctb without placing blame?As someone who has been the recipient of a "bad" suicide note, please just avoid placing blame. Even if there is that one person who has driven you to this, it's an awful burden to be left with. The template above seems good. Talk about the good times with that person, leave them with happy memories, something joyful. It's something worth putting a lot of thought into.
Thanks for the formatDear X,
Thank you for ___, ___, and ____. I'm sorry for ___. I need to die because ____. I wish whoever finds this and me peace and I am sorry u had to see me in this state. (if u feel that way)
Goodbye/Goodnight/Nya Pokka,
Ur name
obv not like perfect format but how I wrote mine. Add anything extra that you want.
Just express your self and the reason for ctb there is no standard format say all what's in your mind cause u may not get the chance againI need a template. I'm not sure how to get started.
I would think so. I plan on giving reasons in my note, although mine are pretty obvious to those close to me. The biggest question left behind is "why?" It's a cliché, but it's true. Taking steps to answer that in a compassionate way could help those we leave behind. As mentioned, my only experience is getting a note which blames me, so I can't say how much my ideas would really help our loved ones, but anything is better than that.Is it ok to say the reasons why you wanted to ctb without placing blame?
To be honest I don't know how completely freeing someone from blame could be achieved in some cases without straight up lying. For example I have written a note for my former girlfriend, and while I tried to make it more like a loving farewell than anything else, it's still painfully obvious what the reason is. And she already knows since I have expressed my thoughts to her before she completely cut me off. I don't even know whether she'll care or shrug it off but the best I could do was to explicitly state that no one is to blame in the note I left for my family and friends so that she hopefully doesn't get any heat from it.As someone who has been the recipient of a "bad" suicide note, please just avoid placing blame. Even if there is that one person who has driven you to this, it's an awful burden to be left with. The template above seems good. Talk about the good times with that person, leave them with happy memories, something joyful. It's something worth putting a lot of thought into.
I agree with you there. I guess in my case it was just that there were barely 2 days between our separation and his death, so the pain goes deep. With that timeline I don't think I'll ever recover, CTB or not. Maybe if it had happened a few months down the line rather than essentially the following day I wouldn't feel quite as guilt-ridden as I do now, but I'd certainly still be lumbered with blame.To be honest I don't know how completely freeing someone from blame could be achieved in some cases without straight up lying. For example I have written a note for my former girlfriend, and while I tried to make it more like a loving farewell than anything else, it's still painfully obvious what the reason is. And she already knows since I have expressed my thoughts to her before she completely cut me off. I don't even know whether she'll care or shrug it off but the best I could do was to explicitly state that no one is to blame in the note I left for my family and friends so that she hopefully doesn't get any heat from it.
This is how I think I will write mine. Problem is I feel like I might get too emotional attempting to write something so long like that. I want to leave my opinions and thoughts behind so the people I leave behind can understand, but I have a feeling even if do write pages upon pages they won't.My letter consists of 11 pages in A4 format, written on a computer. It is divided into 13 chapters, each dedicated to a particular person or a state of mind I experienced.
After the chapters, I added three sections: the afterword, the epilogue, and a final note, where I express my thoughts on life, death, and how all of this makes me feel.
Finally, I wrote a section dedicated to acknowledgments and a short list of wishes that I would like to be respected as my final will.
This is beautiful. OP can take a lot away from this.My letter consists of 11 pages in A4 format, written on a computer. It is divided into 13 chapters, each dedicated to a particular person or a state of mind I experienced.
After the chapters, I added three sections: the afterword, the epilogue, and a final note, where I express my thoughts on life, death, and how all of this makes me feel.
Finally, I wrote a section dedicated to acknowledgments and a short list of wishes that I would like to be respected as my final will.