Have you told anyone?

[lemmeeleev]

Have you ever told anyone that you're suicidal? If so, how did they take it? What happened because you told someone, was it a bad or good thing? I'm asking because no one knows that I am, so I'd like to hear other's experiences.

 

[anonymous23x]

Have you ever told anyone that you're suicidal? If so, how did they take it? What happened because you told someone, was it a bad or good thing? I'm asking because no one knows that I am, so I'd like to hear other's experiences.

I told a "friend" he immediately called the coppers, i was accused of making a "B***" and then the coppers failed with that accusation, they then accused me of making something which looked like a "B***" 'intentionally', and then my gf accused me of bullshit and then later regretted it and told the truth... i was found not guilty for everything, after half a year of dealing with courts and absolute hell.

 

[TheGoodGuy]

Yes several years ago back when I lived home in my childhood home with my parents and brothers I tried talking to them about suicide I did it all the time until they told me to stop because it made them depressed when I talked about it so I have kept my mouth shut ever since and told no one.

 

[anonymous23x]

Yes several years ago back when I lived home in my childhood home with my parents and brothers I tried talking to them about suicide I did it all the time until they told me to stop because it made them depressed when I talked about it so I have kept my mouth shut ever since and told no one.

Same with my selfish ass gf who caused me to have this mentality of ctb. I was able to get through severe depression without even a thought of ctb before she pushed me off the edge.

 

[anonymous23x]

My advice is never tell anyone who isn't A. One of us and B. A non-crazy, empathetic and decent person....UNLESS you want A. Someone to intervene somehow with your issues or B. Love drama.

99.9% of people who haven't been here aren't going to get it. Despite what wishes we have they aren't going to be all "Ok I understand and support your decision" like its choosing a career path or something. They are going to cope with how it makes THEM somehow and all of the things on the menu involve more stress and trouble for you. If you really want someone to make a choice for you, like get you committed, that you cannot make for yourself then it CAN have some utility. But it's a lot less likely to result in trouble if you just go and ask a doctor yourself. If it's all about being "understood"...not gonna happen.

The bottom line is, 99.9% of people have had an easy ass life without any issues. They will outcast anyone with a ctb mentality faster than they can pick up a phone and phone the coppers.

Also, Someone who intervenes somehow with your issues and Someone who loves drama (A & B) can be the same person. I was really lucky to meet one of these rare specimens... Funnily enough, i helped the evil bastard with his studies. He later scammed the university and delayed his exams by 5 months due to "mitigating circumstances" (he went to his doctor and said he was sick, he wasn't.) with his lies and evil actions, he now earns between £70,000 and £80,000. He also turned people against me by playing victim after causing me hell, he played the line "What if you actually did die, how would i be able to live without having done something to help?", the guy is a different level of evil.

 

[LastDay]

I've told my therapist, niece, and boyfriend but I also have BPD and joke about it all the time so everybody just takes it with a grain of salt.

 

[TheCrow]

I haven't told ANYONE. I used to talk about it before in the past, but now with this plan & knowing I'm going to do it & it'll work, no one can know. Otherwise someone is going to intervene. There is zero reason to tell anyone unless you want to have them stop you.

 

[GeorgeEastman]

I've told my therapist, niece, and boyfriend but I also have BPD and joke about it all the time so everybody just takes it with a grain of salt.

Pretty much the same here. They know it and expected me to do it years ago. Since I didn't, they no longer take it seriously. I hate that they are smarter than me on this. They have given up on me doing it. I still hold out some hope. I feel stupid.

 

[HellinHeaven]

Just don't tell concrete thoughts because your therapeut is getting nervous then :P
I used it as a form of pressure if nobody is listening to me in therapy, but only say you think about it, but important: Never say you have concrete plans!
Your parents/friend: don't tell them, write a letter, but you really have to be an enlightened human to tolerate, to understand and to bear it.

 

[Final Escape]

Have you ever told anyone that you're suicidal? If so, how did they take it? What happened because you told someone, was it a bad or good thing? I'm asking because no one knows that I am, so I'd like to hear other's experiences.

A couple of my friends know and sometimes I'm really annoying with my suicidality to them. One friend was terribly freaked out after the other day when I was trying with the nitrogen again. I blocked him :( like the whole day and most of the next. He thought I really went through with it. He was really worried but I've made it clear to him never call the cops on me please. I tell him how much that won't help me so he gets it. Another friend knows that I'm just suicidal and she pretty much doesn't respond when I text her my suicidal thoughts lol! Or she will respond being somewhat annoyed. I have a third friend who is also a borderline lol! She's more an externalizing bully type borderline. She will call the cops on me if I bring it up because she blows it out of proportion lol! I can never bring it up with her and always some degree watch what I say with her because she can be triggered. But when we hang out she's a blast most of the time. You really need to feel out people b4 u bring it up. I once told someone else I shouldn't have and that could have been bad. Thank God he didn't. He did mean well but still. People automatically think you're goin to kill yourself because you have suicidal ideation. I know they don't want u to die but god damn it don't call the cops please lol!

 

[HelensNepenthe]

I've ghosted from my friends. They say they care but it hurts me how often I've mentioned it to them.

 

[ThisIsTheEnd]

Have you ever told anyone that you're suicidal? If so, how did they take it? What happened because you told someone, was it a bad or good thing? I'm asking because no one knows that I am, so I'd like to hear other's experiences.

I said goodbye to a good friend of mine just before an attempt. I survived, obviously, and we talked about it, and he tried to talk me out of being depressed. Thankfully he hasn't told anyone that I'm suicidal, but sadly he just doesn't get what being depressed feels like.

 

[leaps]

I had told my intermediate family and close friends, I wouldn't recommend it unless you truly want the help and support; which I did, at the time.

 

[Thursdaysucks]

What

I had told my intermediate family and close friends, I wouldn't recommend it unless you truly want the help and support; which I did, at the time.

What happen when you told them?

 

[leaps]

What

What happen when you told them?

Therapy, psych wards, hospitals, and psychiatry. You should consider your families and friends emotional feelings as well before opening up to them

 

[Muri]

I was open about it but, I fear people will get too involved so I'm not going to speak about it to anyone again. I think it's obvious I am suicidal regardless. Most people think I'm joking... I feel some are catching on.

 

[Thursdaysucks]

I wish I had someone that cared like that...like the person above me people think I'm joking and don't do anything. I feel like if people cared then I'd have a reason to stay but it's all seeming to go numb.

 

[DoneFighting]

My guns taken away and all my meds flushed down the toilet.

 

[wanttodie]

no i have not

 

[Smashingairwaves]

No one has ever taken me seriously. Everyone thinks I'm joking

 

[Help_Me]

Yes, my friend knows that and he supports me in everything. As for others, I am probably surrounded with pro-lifers or just ignorant people, they don't need to know about my problems.

 

[HelensNepenthe]

I wish I had someone that cared like that...like the person above me people think I'm joking and don't do anything. I feel like if people cared then I'd have a reason to stay but it's all seeming to go numb.

At least in my opinion, surrounded by pro lifers is the worst thing.

 

[ParamitePie]

Nobody for a very long time, because I don't want the cops to make a "friendly visit" where I'm dragged out of my house, involuntarily committed at a hospital for a few days and have both my firearms license and possessions stripped away from me.

 

[Thursdaysucks]

At least in my opinion, surrounded by pro lifers is the worst thing.

Well that's where you and I differ. I seek death but long for life and if I had someone who cared and wanted that for me also I'd take it

 

[Kyrok]

I haven't outright told my wife, but she knows I'm struggling.

Pain is so bad some days, and I'm just not managing it any longer.
She keeps pushing me to get back to my book because she doesn't want me to give up, but I can't deal with how much more pain it causes.

She and I had a very serious talk today about my pain lately, and not only was she supportive, but it felt like we re-bonded some. Honestly, if your suicidal feelings are really "heard," it is a great comfort.

 

[Taylored]

People know I'm struggling they just refuse to take any reasonable action.

 

[dysfunctional]

My guns taken away and all my meds flushed down the toilet.

Yep

 

[Dor]

I might have unintentionally alluded to it at some point, but never straight up said it, I have though told about times I've had suicidal urges but that's after the fact, like really long time after.

 

[RedBuns]

I have only told my fiance sort of recently and we've been together for 8 years. He was sort of shocked at first but now he just gets mad when i bring it up, and i only bring it up in a "joking" way. I understand why he gets frustrated, but I wish he also understood me more.

 

[deflagrat]

I used to be very secretive about it, but I ended up telling to lots of people. Social worker, three psychiatrists, mental health nurses, a few friends, my parents... I guess it made my situation better with my disability because the social worker actually felt sorry for me. Besides that, I was able to talk almost freely with one of the psychiatrists, even though he was lazy (he is not being paid to solve my problems, he is getting paid to "work") and didn't really help me at all. I also told people in my group therapy sessions to no avail. I don't think other people knowing really makes any difference. If you are in the situation where you are going to kill yourself you are going to do it no matter what.