Discussion Have you accepted your 'unhealthy' life/ habits or, are you trying to change them?

[Forever Sleep]

I was reading another thread about fictional crushes and the unhealthy aspect of them, and it got me to realising that many of my habits are unhealthy but, I'm determind to keep them!

I do in fact indulge in fictional crushes/ maladaptive day dreaming. I isolate as much as possible. Asides from working to pay my bills, I do very little to contribute to society. My diet isn't great. I don't bother with exercise. My appearance and living environment I neglect as much as possible.

Maybe the only things I may consider tackling are health concern related- diet, exercise, hygiene because I don't like being ill/ and/or exhausted. But, I don't care really if I have an unhealthy life because I don't want life regardless!

I'm not sure what I would be working towards- if I made myself be social, do more for the community etc. To feel better I suppose ultimately. To feel needed and appreciated. But then- do I even want that? If I'm more keen on dying and leaving it all?

What are your feelings though? Have you identified the things you do that may not be all that healthy? Are you trying to change/ stop them? Do you feel motivated to even?

 

[Pluto]

 

[zizzou]

Quit my job, drink, smoke, sleep at 5 am, eat very little, drink very little. I'm tired of trying and failing. I guess I'm really not giving myself a way out now.

 

[Anonymousa]

For me I don't see why I should quit things that others see as unhealthy like self harm as I don't see any negatives in it for me due to if its something like cutting I like the scars and I don't cut too deeply and clean them. The pain it gives helps me emotionally regulate. Some people call my current sleep schedule unhealthy which is I sleep a bit during the day and a bit during the night but I find it to necessary so I can do the things that are needed to be done early in the day and also things during midnight. It also makes life more manageable by separating the day into 2 chunks than one continuous thing I have to do.

 

[darksouls]

due to my poor health I gave up

 

[petmom]

I try to change, just because in my opinion what else can you do? But life always throws a curveball. I'm having the worst fall right now, and so bad, on top of everything before, that I realized 2026 might actually be my last year here…
I wouldn't say I accepted the bad habits. But just that it can be a very rocky road out of them. You'll wonder if you're even making progress sometimes.

I made progress on one thing recently (though I hope last 2 weeks didn't undo it ) and it's just made me realize, tracking the progress, wins and losses, is pretty important to get a picture of what's going on. And the results if applicable (and why not apply keeping track like that to other things? Just a thought). Then maybe after many months, you'll see a pattern (which is amazing!) even if it's small. Opposite is possible too. I've found that it's still a day to day struggle, with many many failures, and I'm not having a good time lowkey

In other areas of life though… yeah idk how I'm making it out of here alive lol

 

[Forveleth]

I am working on my bad habits because I want to have a better quality of life while I am alive. I want to be dead but so long as I am alive I am going to try to make things the best for myself that I can.

 

[Irisse]

I have a tendency to binge on food and I'm overweight as a result of that and meds so I'm trying to lose weight but sadly I'm not that successful.

 

[LaetumCat]

I've gave up trying to get better a while ago, and I don't really see it as wrong. Emotionally I feel better, since I'm not stressing over if I'm clean all the time or not...

 

[Forever Sleep]

I have a tendency to binge on food and I'm overweight as a result of that and meds so I'm trying to lose weight but sadly I'm not that successful.

You and me both. I'm going to have to do something about my weight soon. I feel rubbish.

I've gave up trying to get better a while ago, and I don't really see it as wrong. Emotionally I feel better, since I'm not stressing over if I'm clean all the time or not...

I relate to what you're saying. There is a relief, almost a positive feeling in letting go of things. I find there's still a limit though- when it can start to impact health. I guess I still care enough to try not to let it get that bad.

 

[calicocat07]

I accepted them, I honestly dont plan to really stick around. Scared of becoming a mom to kids I never wanted like my mom always puts in my head I promised myself to not torture myself like that. I rather go out young and after my dog dies of age so we can leave the world together.

 

[DarkRange55]

"The chains of habit are too weak to be felt, until they are too strong to be broken."
- Samuel Johnson or Warren Buffet

In Ken Verni's Happiness: The Mindful Way Through Stress, Depression, and Anxiety,
A bad habit vs. good habit is to, "Relive old emotions vs. have fresh emotions."

 

[Manaaja]

Well, I rather help people and call out wrongdoings than post cat memes on this site, so yeah, I do good deeds. My consciousness is clear. I'm done being lazy and selfish.

 

[OnMyLast Legs]

I've been giving up for decades. It really was moral failure (cowardice) that brought me here. But recognizing that won't bring any time back.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I've been giving up for decades. It really was moral failure (cowardice) that brought me here. But recognizing that won't bring any time back.

Not sure if you mean 'moral cowardice' over not wanting to live? Not sure I would term it that- or if it was something else. Do you feel too much time has passed to make amends?

 

[OnMyLast Legs]

Not sure if you mean 'moral cowardice' over not wanting to live? Not sure I would term it that- or if it was something else. Do you feel too much time has passed to make amends?

Yeah I'm 36 and I live at home. Dropped out of college. No money. I do have obligations and "work," but I'm too depressed to do it. Or I just got in the habit of laziness and that's my excuse now. It's gonna come to a head. I don't think I can handle next week. Maybe this isn't "offtopic" talk...