NSFW First day of the year. By the end of this year I should lose my virginity

[Crematoryy]

Even though it's an unattainable goal, I can't let things continue down the path of loneliness. That's my primary objective: not sex itself, but the elimination of this pain. If that hasn't happened by 2027, I will have failed, and I will be one step closer to suicide.

 

[Lamentice]

Interesting journey to choose. You might be severely disappointed with the outcome of this one.

 

[maylurker]

it might be over

 

[Bootleg Astolfo]

I dunno man, sex is kinda gay.

 

[ipmanwc0]

I dunno man, sex is kinda gay.

FR

 

[hellogoodbye999]

Even though it's an unattainable goal, I can't let things continue down the path of loneliness. That's my primary objective: not sex itself, but the elimination of this pain. If that hasn't happened by 2027, I will have failed, and I will be one step closer to suicide.

Find someone you're actually in love with to have sex with, I promise you if you do it with someone you barely like it'll make you want to CTB even more. Also getting into a relationship with someone else whilst in this mental state isn't a good idea, it will sedate some of the pain you have but it will only harm you and the other person in the long run

 

[Liebestod]

 

[closetoyou]

I dunno man, sex is kinda gay.

even better

 

[Exhausted546]

Even though it's an unattainable goal, I can't let things continue down the path of loneliness. That's my primary objective: not sex itself, but the elimination of this pain. If that hasn't happened by 2027, I will have failed, and I will be one step closer to suicide.

That's not something to be suicidal over imo.....but anyway you do you

 

[SufferFox]

As a victim I hope you mean legally...

 

[Daphne]

Work on managing your mental state first. Yes, us depressed people put out vibes that put off potential friends/partners/hiring managers etc. And we don't even realize we're doing it.

 

[No_Body]

even when i was in a relationship i still experienced loneliness and depression, and noticed i was just dragging this person down with me. the question is, is it worth it?

i'd rather just be single and have loveless connectionless sex with the ladies of the night.

 

[TimingOut]

As a victim I hope you mean legally...

I am sorry to ask, does that ordeal cause you suicidal, and if so, do you think that counselling would help sex or violence crimes victims?

 

[lollipoppi]

I'm in a similar situation but honestly I think sex won't change anything if it's not connected to a meaningful connection. You might end up getting the opposite of what you look for.

 

[WeDontKnowTheFuture]

I advise you not to do it for the sake of doing it, you could feel dirty and soiled after it and for long time. Just did in a tent on a music festival with a random hot girl when i was a teenager, was 7.5 years ago and still feel dirty long time after.. The reason: No real emotional connection with the person and his personality wasn't compatible with mine and she had flaws that i couldn't bear. So she was hot and beautiful but it doesn't make the sex healthy. What person you have in front of you and the connection you feel with that person is what matter.

 

[Bootleg Astolfo]

even better

it's not gay if it's helping the bro out by taking his virginity

 

[Siamese Believe]

Good luck, I gave up any hope of that. There's just no point for me, I'm too ugly.

 

[Happy Cat]

Im dying a virgin. It's not something to cry about especially not in this centaury

 

[Deepdense]

Honestly, I wish I still had my virginity. But frankly, it's all a little embarrassing.

 

[monetpompo]

even when i was in a relationship i still experienced loneliness and depression, and noticed i was just dragging this person down with me. the question is, is it worth it?

i'd rather just be single and have loveless connectionless sex with the ladies of the night.

I'm in a similar situation but honestly I think sex won't change anything if it's not connected to a meaningful connection. You might end up getting the opposite of what you look for.

sex and porn makes me feel scared and like crying because i want the feeling of love i used to have, but also my old self before i hooked up with guys for entertainment. for a few months i thought sex was the most fun and coolest thing in the world but it honestly doesn't matter at all. i just want my best friend back and i don't want to be alone. sex is only fun when you feel good about yourself and you aren't grasping for a sense of identity or something to feel good about. sex is extremely idealized by society as the best thing ever but it makes me feel so detached from my body because i feel like i'm just having sex to make other people like me. having good or bad sexual experiences doesn't really matter if all the people you had sex with are just in it to have sex with you.

 

[sanctionedusage]

As a victim I hope you mean legally...

how people come to these conclusions is so beyond me. what the actual fuck lmfao

 

[SufferFox]

how people come to these conclusions is so beyond me. what the actual fuck lmfao

You are so arrogant... Its clear others could understand it but you...
"I am so stupid I don't understand you so you must be the wierd one"
You should harass someone else instead...

 

[idiotmother]

how people come to these conclusions is so beyond me. what the actual fuck lmfao

Because many people care more about losing their virginity than they do the actual person they're losing their virginity to. They want to lose it all costs not caring if the other person is drunk or not ready, leading to coercive or forceful "sex." I think that's what the poster was hinting at.

 

[Bootleg Astolfo]

I love how any thread relating to virginity or inceldom in general always devolves into the exact same kind of shitshow lol.

 

[Alpacachino]

OP, you're trying to stave off of loneliness, so sex need not be your primary goal. Find someone to talk to and have conversations with.That will be more helpful.

 

[sanctionedusage]

Because many people care more about losing their virginity than they do the actual person they're losing their virginity to. They want to lose it all costs not caring if the other person is drunk or not ready, leading to coercive or forceful "sex." I think that's what the poster was hinting at.

thanks for the explanation of what a rapist is; i get how and why sexual assault works. my post meant: i dont know when it became appropriate to imply that about someone simply talking about wanting to have sex. imagine if someone posted about wanting to be in a relationship and someone said "well i hope you wouldn't want to be in one so badly that you force the other person to be with you via abusive methods, like blackmail, emotional manipulation, and extortion." it's an oddly specific and fucked up, borderline accusatory thing to say. very obviously self projection of an SA survivor, but that doesn't mean it's not completely tone deaf and kinda delusional.

You are so arrogant... Its clear others could understand it but you...
"I am so stupid I don't understand you so you must be the wierd one"
You should harass someone else instead...

whatre you even talking about?

 

[monetpompo]

very obviously self projection of an SA survivor, but that doesn't mean it's not completely tone deaf and kinda delusional.

sa survivor clocking in (). the aforementioned message was very jarring and strange. there's really no reason to be so aggressive on a thread about a guy talking about being a virgin, because he didn't make any hints towards wanting to sa someone. people obv know that rape is bad and that you should only have sex consensually, so saying "i hope you don't become a rapist just to have sex" involves making a lot of moves in your head to get there.

i think people on sasu are prone to crazy yap sometimes. even when people can be good intentioned they can also just say things that are off the cuff.

 

[Ilovemyteddies]

What's wrong with being a virgin?

 

[darksouls]

What's wrong with being a virgin?

absolutely nothing is wrong with it

 

[Re62]

Im dying a virgin. It's not something to cry about especially not in this centaury

In the same situation, I am very much socially incompetent and have issues upholding conversations with really either genders especially the opposite gender though. I have tried to correct it repeatedly but I just can't. After much contemplation I have decided I am just not meant to be with anyone. I have become too comfortable being alone anyways. I am too much of a chicken to unfortunately kill myself. I will just continue to live like this till i eventually die.