Eviction is Imminent: How would you handle the lies?

[Bibotik470]

Question:

So my neighbor has made attempts to get me evicted. Now of course I plan to provide context if pressed further but my mind is spiraling horribly that all I feel is numb. There's feelings of CTB hasn't been this strong in what feels like years now.

Apparently my neighbor claims I've attempted to break into their home thinking it's me because they heard my door slam? Now I've been served a lease violation notice that could lead to charges of domestic violence and of course an eviction.

While I didn't make any attempts of breaking into my neighbors home, I might as well take the fall for something I didn't do because how would I prove it wasn't me? No cameras. No witnesses. No evidence whatsoever. Guilty until proven innocent.

This has really sent me into harsh PTSD flashbacks involving an incident to which I was punished harshly for something I didn't commit, unrelated to housing of course.

So the inner defeatist in me, while not willing to "admit" to something I didn't cause, has got me feeling like shrugging my shoulders and just going with it because what could I possibly do to protect myself.

There's a constant guard I've always had up for moments like this is just too exhausting that I basically say "fuck it, might as well take the fall because how else would I prove I'm innocent with no evidence to back me up. why would anyone believe me. they/you weren't there."

There's so much more to the story but I just wanted to vent while gaining some input on what you guys think based off my post.

 

[SoverignDreamer97]

So be it.

1. "You cannot please everyone; control the things you can control." ~Suncha Ferreira (Victus Group)/Mark 8:36, Matthew 13:12

2. The grass withers, the flowers fade, because the breath of the Lord blows upon it; surely the people are grass.
The grass withers, the flowers fade, but the word of our God stands forever. (Isaiah 40:7-8)

3. The world hates liabilities, and would rather they not exist, as much as the rules dictate that all life is inherently valuable. (Proverbs 25:17)

• Even in a community of liabilities, there is no place for a liability. (John 15:18)

Therefore, as much as I desire to live, and that a world without me would be awfully dull and grey, this isn't up to me; if I die, I die; though my father, mother, and the whole world forsake me, the Lord will bring me up. (Esther 4:11, Psalm 27:10)

 

[volo]

Can you just deny it? Tell them that you didn't do anything like that, and ask them what proof they have? Because you really didn't do it.
Why take the fall for nothing?

 

[skiski_what]

Question:

So my neighbor has made attempts to get me evicted. Now of course I plan to provide context if pressed further but my mind is spiraling horribly that all I feel is numb. There's feelings of CTB hasn't been this strong in what feels like years now.

Apparently my neighbor claims I've attempted to break into their home thinking it's me because they heard my door slam? Now I've been served a lease violation notice that could lead to charges of domestic violence and of course an eviction.

While I didn't make any attempts of breaking into my neighbors home, I might as well take the fall for something I didn't do because how would I prove it wasn't me? No cameras. No witnesses. No evidence whatsoever. Guilty until proven innocent.

This has really sent me into harsh PTSD flashbacks involving an incident to which I was punished harshly for something I didn't commit, unrelated to housing of course.

So the inner defeatist in me, while not willing to "admit" to something I didn't cause, has got me feeling like shrugging my shoulders and just going with it because what could I possibly do to protect myself.

There's a constant guard I've always had up for moments like this is just too exhausting that I basically say "fuck it, might as well take the fall because how else would I prove I'm innocent with no evidence to back me up. why would anyone believe me. they/you weren't there."

There's so much more to the story but I just wanted to vent while gaining some input on what you guys think based off my post.

Honestly, I'd see if I can fight it, just to take the possibility of not being evicted, but I'd also hate to have my ass handed by a neighbor, especially with how little I personally interact with my own. For instance, if it's your door that was slammed, what are the basis exactly you were attempting to go into their home? You could've been rushing to inside or outside for an emergency. This isn't very moral, but there's countless possibilities you could even use as an excuse. On the flip side, this also means you might be able to find somewhere more affordable(?) But yeah, I'd definitely attempt putting in some fight, because there are some things you can gloss over and take defeat for granted, but basic living necessities isn't something I'd personally take lightly. Best of luck to your situation, feel free to update.

 

[Bibotik470]

Can you just deny it? Tell them that you didn't do anything like that, and ask them what proof they have? Because you really didn't do it.
Why take the fall for nothing?

I ask myself that question too yet still wonder why. Like I said, what proof would I even have to defend myself? There's nothing. Best to just shrug and go with it. Granted, I'll let 'em know it ain't me but still. Remain calm and just give them what they want. They need someone to blame, okay. I'll volunteer as tribute. Still plan to ask questions in order to make sure their accusations line up with their story or whatever but eh, just, alright.

Honestly, I'd see if I can fight it, just to take the possibility of not being evicted, but I'd also hate to have my ass handed by a neighbor, especially with how little I personally interact with my own. For instance, if it's your door that was slammed, what are the basis exactly you were attempting to go into their home? You could've been rushing to inside or outside for an emergency. This isn't very moral, but there's countless possibilities you could even use as an excuse. On the flip side, this also means you might be able to find somewhere more affordable(?) But yeah, I'd definitely attempt putting in some fight, because there are some things you can gloss over and take defeat for granted, but basic living necessities isn't something I'd personally take lightly. Best of luck to your situation, feel free to update.

You make some pretty excellent points. My thoughts are might as well try cause what else have I got to lose? Aside from my housing of course. It's just soul crushingly exhausting to constantly be paranoid of what I'll be suddenly blamed for next. I can't be a victim because why would this happen? I gotta be at fault for something. I'll try to update on what's to transpire but I'm sure the spoiler alert will be me ending up homeless one way or another.