Venting Does lack of sex bother anyone

[SuicidalCurryBoy]

To me, that's the biggest problem. Since everyone around me is having sex.

Basically this:

 

[Darkover]

yes it's the reason why i become suicidal in the first place

 

[missedmybus]

Not really, I can't ejaculate when people are around. It's a big cause of stress for me.

I've been called a faggot a lot, or have made girls cry/very insecure about themselves because of this.

I used to have the same as you guys,but then once I actually had sex, it actually was worse, realizing how meaningless and embarrassing that was.

 

[Reflection]

Not entirely exactly, but the finishing blow to me is knowing that a person that I love abandoned me and is going to be living her life with someone else while I'll be getting cuckolded for the rest of my life, so I'd rather bite a bullet.

 

[hearball]

i have a gatekeeper who executes my emotions when they become too unbearable . sometimes in their infancy as well . my gatekeeper basically works as an emotional stablizer .

 

[IronGuard27]

By being a virgin is suicide fuel for me, I cannot take this anymore.

 

[Grav]

Yes, especially after coming up on 26 years of marriage. Many of those years with little/no sex definitely makes one of the "reasons to live" go away and ends what should be a supportive person.

 

[nails]

it's a difficult question to answer.
(i'm sorry if any of this comes off as bragging, i'm just trying to express what bothers me.)

i want to say yes, but that's oversimplifying it. i'm a virgin—sorta by choice? if i show myself to strangers online, i get a bunch of horny replies, or people trying to start a romantic relationship; which i can only assume is motivated by their horniness, lol. the same shit happens with people i meet irl, regardless of the way we met.

my issue is, i don't want to sleep with someone who is only interested in my physical appearance. even if they eventually become attracted to me as a person, i wouldn't be able to believe them. i don't even want to interact with a person if their main reason for walking up to me—or messaging me, in the cases of online interactions—is because of my appearance. it's all i'll be able to think about for the rest of our relationship.

i could only sleep with someone i am romantically interested in; but i could only be romantically interested in someone who genuinely liked me, like a friend—but even then, i hate the idea of dating a friend. i'm not joking when i tell people that i'm doomed to be alone, lol.

i could go on about the irrational way that my mind works in these situations; but i already feel bad for dropping such a long response to such a straight forward question.

tldr: yes, but my paranoia/overthinking is to blame. i don't think anyone who would want to sleep with me would also be genuinely interested in me as a person, and that's what makes me depressed.

 

[Namelesa]

I can be quite horny and sexual so it bothers me somewhat but masturbation is enough for me and I mostly use that as a way to cope. I have had been in relationships and have had sex before and while I do want sex, that isn't the most important thing to me as I mostly desire human connection but that's harder to get than a simple hook up and I am can like having sex just for fun but I can't even access that as I am trapped by my parents. If I had more freedom, I would definitely hook up with people as a way to feel temporarily better but I have to settle with sexting and sex video calls for now.

 

[Peter Skellern]

By being a virgin is suicide fuel for me, I cannot take this anymore.

Go and see a Pro perhaps (if you're a guy) ?

 

[cme-dme]

I am pretty much asexual. The thought of having sex makes me feel gross and uncomfortable. I am perfectly happy being a virgin for the rest of my days <3

 

[Gangrel]

Yeah, i really want to have a lot of sex but i feel so fucking gross and disgusting that i can't even imagine myself in these situations like other people do.

 

[NitrogenAfternoon]

The lack of intimacy and the loss of love is a big issue for me, and I know some take issue in CTB over something like this but the loneliness can be so tough to overcome. Especially when you get older and have to come to terms that soulmates, or relationships just arent in the cards in for me. Then you're also consumed with thoughts of the person you loved sharing that intimacy with someone else and it's enough to drive any sane person to go mad. It's just eternal loneliness. It feels helpless, but now I can take matters in my own hands, and find my closure my own way. Maybe in another life, but it wasn't this one.

 

[cme-dme]

Yeah, i really want to have a lot of sex but i feel so fucking gross and disgusting that i can't even imagine myself in these situations like other people do.

Yeah I have long since embraced these emotions. I have purchased sex toys before just to see what it was like and obviously it's not the same as the real thing but it made sex seem overrated. There was once a time a couple years ago where I was sexually intimate with somebody but I don't look back on those times fondly.

 

[muteallchat]

its kinda the other way around. i despise sex and everything related to it, because of how stupid, primitive and primal this thing is. we may be of a kind that builds rockets and computers, but sometimes, while affected by certain hormones, you are no different from a fucking stray dog, you walk around and think:
ooh ooh OOGA BOOGA ME MONKE ME WANT STICK DICK INTO VAGENA OOH OOH OOGA BOOGA OOH OOH OOH OOH
my worthless existence on this planet is the result of 2 hairless apes who just wanted to FOOK, le PEENEES in VUHGEENA feels LE GOOD
terrible things people do while HOORNY, literally this post: https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/my-father-and-brother-mainly-my-brother.194776/#post-2859258

yes you guessed it i was sexually abused as a child

 

[ConfusedClouds]

No. Not really. But my lack of interest in it kinda confuses me. But then it comes back to zero self worth - if anyone ever expresses interest I find myself trying desperately to work out why it might be or what the catch is - there's no trust there. But that then upsets others because I cannot communicate that without sounding like I'm just needy attention seeking for reassurance/compliments, which pushes me further into mistrust.

I have had sex but never overly enjoyed it, mainly one night stands around uni/travelling and never had a proper meaningful relationship. But I just get too self conscious/awkward with sexual contact even the few times I have known the person. I absolutely hate the idea of people talking/gossiping about any relationships. (I love a good friendly meaningful bear hug - I'm not averse to contact overall, just the more intimate stuff feels awkward). As the years passed I have become more and more conscious about being 'inexperienced' and 'incompetent' which is another level to the embarrassment and questioning why anyone would be 'interested'.

Isolation works best for me where I fail at communicating points the way I feel like I should or want or need to.

 

[divinemistress36]

No , Im female though sex is usually more important to men. Ive always just been used for sex so never been to crazy about it

 

[S like Siren]

Of course...i don't even feel human anymore

 

[bladeeluvr444]

It doesn't bother me really at all, Sexual things gross me out and make me feel unclean

 

[sinfonia]

No, but lack of romantic affection does. Everyone seems to have a partner and I feel like I'm missing out on something. I just want to know what it's like to be loved so I can finally be at peace.

 

[tiredash]

to me yes, it bothers me a lot, im virgin... altho it bothers me much more the lack of love and feeling loved and and affection and having someone to completely trust... this is the first thing, but sex is second...

 

[Manic Panic]

No , it's just the Loneliness and internal dread for me

 

[ShatteredSerenity]

Yes, it bothers me a lot. Lack of sex isn't the primary reason I want to CTB, but it is like pouring gasoline on the dumpster fire that is my life.

My problem is that I was married to a beautiful woman for 20 years and we had a great sex life, but now we're separated and I'm not in a position to find a new partner. Maybe I'm spoiled, but it really hurts intensely to loose our love life. It's not just about intercourse, it's more about the intimacy for me. I really miss just touching her, taking showers together, and sleeping together.

 

[Chinaski]

To me, that's the biggest problem. Since everyone around me is having sex.

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[blood-orange]

It's a lack of meaningful sex. Last time i had sex it was with someone i barely knew and it just made me feel dead inside afterwards. I cried and felt like i had cheated on my ex even though we've been broken up for 6 months.
Outside of the intimacy of a loving relationship, sex is just like any other coping mechanism like drugs. It fills the void in the moment but It won't make your life feel worth living.

 

[Rymrgand]

Not sex, but affection. Cuddles, intimacy, physical contact... Sex usually involves that, but if I had, let's say, casual sex with a different person each day, that wouldn't help me. Maybe I would feel even worse, like an object or a whore.

What I want is to love and to feel loved, an intimidating relationship with someone I love. Sex would be really fun, sure, but playing videogames with them would be really fun too, or doing basically any activity. I'm a virgin, but what it really affects me is that I never had a partner or a close friend (or family who actually care about me). That's the only thing that could save me.

Sadly, I have too many flaws and nobody would love me. Even if I dated someone, I am too toxic, they would be better with someone else.

And to those of you who desperately want to have sex, I recommended you to think about why you want to. You want love and intimacy, like me? Or you want pure sexual pleasure? Unlikely, since masturbation is often more pleasurable than sex. Maybe you want the "achievement" of having sex, maybe the social status? If so, I think this is one of the moments when therapy would be helpful.

If you choose to CTB, I respect your choice, but if you want to try to improve your life, self reflection is important

 

[death_bed221]

Sex is the most underrated and overrated thing in this world. When u have it with the right person it is actually probably the best thing ever. Its like the perfect drug. But with the wrong person its just boring and lowkey disgusting. Sometimes I don't feel anything doing it. But when u meet the right person it does feel amazing. Pure euphoria. I will never forget my ex for that. Maybe it was her and not the sex. Hard to tell

 

[JesiBel]

No, I don't know how to interact with other people. I'm too introverted and shy, and I don't go out much either. I've never had sex and it doesn't bother me. I would only do it with someone I love and with whom I can have a strong emotional connection..

 

[slamjoetry]

I haven't had sex for a couple years, and sometimes I feel sexually frustrated. But most of the time I'm fine. It's really not the greatest thing in the universe like some people idealize it as. It's maybe a step above masturbation. Honestly, if the most attractive woman in the world walked into my place right now and asked whether I wanted to fuck or just cuddle up and watch TV and talk, I'd take the latter. The emotional connection is far more important imo.

 

[Werewolf.]

I'm a 29 year old virgin, turning a wizard later this year. I never cared about that. If my problems were related to sex, I could have solved it ten years ago.