Venting Does having roommates help with your suicidal thoughts?

[lwovely]

I'm thinking of having roommates because it might help with my suicidal thoughts. I feel like they might stop me from committing suicide because of the fact they might call someone on me which pushes me further into recovery. Do you guys think this is a good idea?

 

[Apokryphiel]

A lot of the stories I hear regarding roommates are usually depressing as hell. It sorta seems like two people utilizing each other to get by than actual friendship, in a lot of the situations I see anyways. I'd imagine if you have a true friend that it can help living with them though. I know loneliness all too well, and it's not fun.

Also I love your profile picture.

 

[SomewhereAlongThe]

Noooooo, my roommate actually makes me wanna kill myself more. They are obnoxious and annoying in so many little ways it just makes one big way. They are rude too, and will groan about every little thing you do.

 

[Quietist]

It seems irresponsible and selfish to acquire a roommate for the sole purpose of having someone as a buffer between you and suicide.

That's a lot of stress to put on another person, and someone else shouldn't have to be responsible for your well-being.

 

[lwovely]

It seems irresponsible and selfish to acquire a roommate for the sole purpose of having someone as a buffer between you and suicide.

That's a lot of stress to put on another person, and someone else shouldn't have to be responsible for your well-being.

I guess so but like I am not trying to put them on stress. It's putting me on stress cause it'll push me to recovery by making me act normal yk. When I have a roommmate I won't have access to stuff that'll make me harm myself.

It's just that it'll give me the fear to do so due to being worried of getting caught.

 

[Quietist]

I guess so but like I am not trying to put them on stress. It's putting me on stress cause it'll push me to recovery by making me act normal yk. When I have a roommmate I won't have access to stuff that'll make me harm myself.

It's just that it'll give me the fear to do so due to being worried of getting caught.

I understand, but you have to make the choice for yourself to take the steps towards recovery.

You can't base your inhibitions from CTB upon the premise that another person would be there to stop you or that you would be scared to try if they're around.

What happens if that doesn't work and you have a really bad day and decide to impulsively make an attempt, and then the roommate has to find you?

The desire to get better has to be totally self-willed, not contingent upon these artificial barriers.

 

[lwovely]

I understand, but you have to make the choice for yourself to take the steps towards recovery.

You can't base your inhibitions from CTB upon the premise that another person would be there to stop you or that you would be scared to try if they're around.

What happens if that doesn't work and you have a really bad day and decide to impulsively make an attempt, and then the roommate has to find you?

The desire to get better has to be totally self-willed, not contingent upon these artificial barriers.

You're right, the roommate stuff will help me short term. I need to rely on myself for recovery and push myself even further. I just really needed to hear this, thank you!

 

[belowaveragefish]

I'm thinking of having roommates because it might help with my suicidal thoughts. I feel like they might stop me from committing suicide because of the fact they might call someone on me which pushes me further into recovery. Do you guys think this is a good idea?

I didn't help me. It just gave me more people to hide it from. I guess it depends on who you are.

 

[ConfusedClouds]

I haven't a room mate in years but living with others (randoms) in a house share/housemates definitely gives me accountability for a lot of self care stuff. Having to clean up after myself in kitchen/do washing up. Being vaguely hygienic to avoid complaints or questions. Feeling judged on food choices so eating marginally better. Things I would really struggle with the motivation or worth for if living on my own.

 

[alongertripbackhome]

I think it could help but you definitely shouldn't rely on it as a solution. My roommates ended up becoming some of my closest friends and have definitely helped me. Having someone to come home to is really nice, too, especially when you feel like shit. But you might not feel that way about your potential roommates and if you haven't lived with roommates before it can be a stressful thing to adjust to. Getting more socializing time in general can help too like joining some sort of organization without having to change your living situation. Or maybe consider a pet or something if you can afford one and take of it?

 

[Phosphorous 4]

My roommate is directly responsible for foiling a couple of my suicide and self harm attempts. He has no idea. Just being in the house was enough. When I get super miserable, I have people in the house that I can go to, to game with or watch a movie with. Just to bullshit with. It does matter, it does make a difference. Ya just gotta pick the right person for the right reasons. A good roommate is a good friend, a good support system, that happens to live in the same house as you. They have to be those things first and foremost, or the whole shebang goes.... well, bang.

Having a roommate has helped me maintain my living environment when I get extremely depressed. I don't become a giant pig like I would if I lived alone. Having someone that relies on me for stuff keeps me on some kind of track. I wish you luck and I hope you find a sick ass roommate to have a ton of fun with.

 

[ConfusedClouds]

Maybe I'm misunderstanding 'roommates' and 'housemates' as different when I think we are actually talking about the same thing - own bedroom but shared communal areas.

It can definitely be hit and miss. I've struggled living with friends I knew from (e.g.) uni but got along really well with randoms. And vice versa.

I would love to live on my own but being in a houseshare (with en suite) is probably sensible staying put for the bigger picture. Until some point in the future where I will no doubt have a huge wobble/tantrum about being mid 30s in a big house share. Happened before, everything imploded, I ran (full tantrum and flight). Here I am again! Can never win!

 

[Alek1=]

I'm thinking of having roommates because it might help with my suicidal thoughts. I feel like they might stop me from committing suicide because of the fact they might call someone on me which pushes me further into recovery. Do you guys think this is a good idea?

Kinda, not at night tho. It makes me scared to walk around the house a little so I kinda just freeze in the spot im in when they are around.

 

[6lackstar]

Yes i definitely think i would've ctb a long time ago without housemates. I don't talk to them a whole lot but just knowing they're there brings me a bit of comfort, i dont feel like im completely alone.

 

[Life'sA6itch]

I'm thinking of having roommates because it might help with my suicidal thoughts. I feel like they might stop me from committing suicide because of the fact they might call someone on me which pushes me further into recovery. Do you guys think this is a good idea?

As a depressed introvert, having roommates would hasten my ctb efforts by not allowing me the solitude I need just to recharge and get through another day. I have seen and heard how negatively mediocre and bad roommates can affect your life and will never get one. Too often roommates do things that drive you crazy or refuse to be responsible in varying ways, multiplying your problems.

I have literally stayed at hotels or motels to avoid living with others, even "family." I need privacy and the ability to not worry about cleaning up after others and living around other people's schedules, quirks and moods. I don't want to share a bathroom or compromise on the many things you do when sharing living space. I've never had the issue of being so depressed that I don't keep my home clean but I'll be damned if I would be cleaning after others, chasing down rent & utility money, dealing with people bringing randoms over, eating all the food and not buying groceries, etc. Just nope.

 

[mossrabbit]

It made things worse. Part of that is we just brought someone in who's using recreational drugs and brought guns in the house (frustratingly, he's good about locking them up, or I would've ctb already), tons of random people in the house. Late on rent all the time. My other roommate is now leaving and I am so worried about how things are going to go.

I think my roommate situation tipped me into a "I can't function anymore, time to let go, I've been struggling for too long" mentality.

Kinda, not at night tho. It makes me scared to walk around the house a little so I kinda just freeze in the spot im in when they are around.

I do this too.