Does anyone feel lonely and if you do how do you cope with it?

[StillWaiting]

How do you cope with loneliness when you no longer have friends you can talk to because they left you or you push them away.
I feel very lonely these days but I don't know how to cope with it

 

[stellabelle]

You get used to it after a while. The chat box is always open, too. That helps a bit at least for me

 

[StillWaiting]

You get used to it after a while. The chat box is always open, too. That helps a bit at least for me

Guess I will try the chat box. Thanks for the suggestio

 

[Autumn Winter]

Summer camp helped me a lot. During that time i was shortly an extrovert and met a lot of great people. Maybe a new environment will help you too?

 

[lucines]

What somewhat helped me is to find people with similar interests on social media and engage them in conversation from time to time. Important is to follow people who mostly post about their interests and less about their personal lives if you're susceptible to comparing yourselves to others, otherwise you might end up feeling worse.

 

[Thoughtforms]

I feel lonely everyday. How do I cope? I don't.
I worry i will get lonelier.

 

[JustAboutDone]

Even though I have friends and people round me I've felt alone since I was a small child because if you grow up in a toxic, violent environment it takes away 'normal' for you and you just don't feel the same as everyone else. I don't feel that anyone will ever know me and how I feel so I guess even when I'm with people I'm always lonely.

 

[Trulysorry]

I come on here.. bust still feel unbelievably lonely

 

[MsM3talGamer]

I've suffered from soul-crushing loneliness my whole life. I can't deal with it.

 

[peachesNpoison]

I sometimes feel loneliest when I'm around people. I feel like i've only made headway into having any (still very small) social life by wearing a mask. I also constantly worry that when I'm speaking that I'm at risk of exposing myself as a freak, and this becomes way easier when my mental wellness slips farther down.
But in terms of loneliness, I think that not being able to show my true self to anyone without feeling judged means that having other people around just rubs it in my face that other people can feel free to be themselves and I can't.

I just deal with it at this point by opting out of most social activity, except what's needed to maintain a few friendships. I find the social situations exhausting and mostly pointless now. This of course makes things worse in terms of my socials skills wearing off from lack of use.

 

[JustAboutDone]

I've suffered from soul-crushing loneliness my whole life. I can't deal with it.

 

[Xaphous]

I spent most my life isolated and I still am. It becomes a trap because it's not so simple to walk out of it when you are so accustomed to it, as painful as it is.. and then it's like how do you even find people on your level to meet, talk to be with etc. I don't know so I remain put. I avoid what I need most and that is a relationship and strong connections with others. Meditation helps me since I can experience how I'm more than the body and the mind.

 

[msexit]

I am going through the pain of loneliness and loss right now, it's unbearable to keep trying only to lose people you care about

 

[Aesthler]

I cope by coming here posting non-sense all day on the forums, I also cope by occasionally connecting with people on other platforms. I went out in the world for my first coffee date yesterday, I love coffee and the human interaction was a nice change of pace. I'm still learning how to deal with it all, it gets truly overwhelming from time to time.

 

[21Neberg]

I am incredibly lonely. I don't really overcome it, I cope with it by playing games, being active on this lovely forum and cutting myself. Though I don't recommend the last one - it's addicting and you'll fuck your body up.

 

[JustAboutDone]

I cope by coming here posting non-sense all day on the forums, I also cope by occasionally connecting with people on other platforms. I went out in the world for my first coffee date yesterday, I love coffee and the human interaction was a nice change of pace. I'm still learning how to deal with it all, it gets truly overwhelming from time to time.

Fellow coffee addict here. God I love the smell of freshly brewed coffee.

Am glad you got out and about; it takes a lot of courage when you're feeling like this, you should feel really proud of yourself.

 

[15dec]

I just keep myself busy as much as possible. Working as much as I can, going into college on my days off, finding activities to do in the evenings and whenever I'm free. Whatever takes me mind off of how isolated I feel

 

[Pulpit2018]

Yeah,loneliness.I just accept it.
Reading helps,Internet helps.But i no longer fight it.Its my whole life.
I no longer care about integrating to this society i deem unworthy anyway.This country i live in,is intellectually bankrupt,and it shows!

If i was living in another country,maybe i would try to integrate.
Thats probably too late,or a topic for my past perhaps.Either way,i am pragmatic,i dont try to make connections that are going to be severed due to my CTB.Better for them,and perhaps better for me.

 

[RyanSuicide]

I can't cope with it at all and I have many friends but single and I just don't know what to do anymore. I am around people and feel lonely everyday

 

[kkatt]

My partner died 7 yrs ago from MND (ALS) and since then I've preferred to be alone.I generally enjoy the situation and when I don't,I just imagine how it is living with someone else. Yes,I do get lonely sometimes and that's a specific feeling of emptiness.
Recently I kinda started hankering after a certain person. But I don't think it's loneliness that's caused that.

 

[Guess]

I feel lonely too, but I think that's just the concept of the life we are living in. It doesn't really depend on people you know, like there's some people I speak to everyday but regardless of that, I still feel lonely. I think it's more the concept that you can speak to people but you can't be truthful with them either because you are ashamed of yourself or that they don't understand you. I know that I'm afraid people will think I'm a monster so I just bottle up my feelings. Other than that, I cope by coming on here or crying myself to sleep.

 

[creationisdeath]

Extremely. I long for a hand to hold. I'd like to find someone who is also pro-choice. And maybe out of the system. But I don't know how. I can hardly leave my tiny apartment. Every time I trusted someone I got destroyed. I want absolute trust.
Could have had primitive physical connections over and over. Sometimes I regret not accepting them. But that doesn't feel good to me anyway so it'd be just fake as everything else.

I waste a lot of time in my mind. Literal days can pass. I wish I could pass them with someone else.

 

[Dor]

I'm on such a high dose of antidepressants it has completely abated the feeling of loneliness, tried quitting this summer and when the loneliness came back I jumped right back on it, I really had to, I wouldn't be able to function otherwise :/

 

[JustAboutDone]

I'm on such a high dose of antidepressants it has completely abated the feeling of loneliness, tried quitting this summer and when the loneliness came back I jumped right back on it, I really had to, I wouldn't be able to function otherwise :/

If they are working well for you then definitely stick with them :-)

 

[ge0rge]

I cope by realizing I deserve the loneliness, just as much as I deserve all the other bad things that have come my way recently, and more

 

[Midnight]

One can be surrounded by 30 people and still feel extremely lonely. For me loneliness comes from the fact i have lost connection with everyone due to depression. I cant say what's on my mind therefore i am lonely. I can conversate all i want but always lie my ass my off for the sake of keeping up appearances. The years (or decades) have taken it's toll though ... Becoming more and more indifferent to being alone.

I don't ever again want to become a burden on someone's mind because i talked about how i feel. I destroyed a good friendship this way long ago. I don't even talk about feelings to the ones i pay for companionship.

 

[DeadlyLiving]

I don't know if I am happy to be alone or not. I am afraid of getting judged for basically anything in my life and avoiding people avoids being judged and I can live my life the way I want to without explaining myself. But I still feel lonely often and wish I had at least a few people to talk to but I tend to push others away anyway.

 

[Sundayafternoon]

How do you cope with loneliness when you no longer have friends you can talk to because they left you or you push them away.
I feel very lonely these days but I don't know how to cope with it

I'm not the best person to answer this question. I eat, drink, take wherever will put me sleep. Im just now realizing sex isn't a good option either. I feel more lonesome afterwards.

Try to read a book. Stsrt a journal. Anything you lose yourself in alone.

 

[BaconCheeseburger]

I force myself to go to spend time with people. There's a website I use which is made for like-minded people to organise meetups and hang out together, so everything is pre-organised by other people and it's just a matter of turning up (there's no obligation for me to go/I wouldn't let anyone down if I didn't go).

Sometimes it works out and I have a great night where I want to stay for hours, but more recently I've gone for maybe like two hours and decided that's enough for me. I guess it's the effort that counts?

 

[Sundayafternoon]

I don't know if I am happy to be alone or not. I am afraid of getting judged for basically anything in my life and avoiding people avoids being judged and I can live my life the way I want to without explaining myself. But I still feel lonely often and wish I had at least a few people to talk to but I tend to push others away anyway.

This is my issue. I like being alone but i like the company of like minded individuals. If i manage to someone i get a long with, it's only a matter of time i push them away. Or I'll convince myself they never liked or cared for me on the first place. And i leave before they can leave me.