delayed emails for years after my death

[dolphin]

I was thinking of scheduling emails to be sent every year after my death to my family, sort of as a way of checking in. Is this a bad idea? Would it be really depressing to receive?

 

[ArtVandelay]

Sounds like it has the potential to be depressing, but if the emails are lighthearted and positive then they might appreciate it. Some email services disable your account if you don't login after a set amount of time though.

 

[dolphin]

That's true. I was going to keep them lighthearted.
I suppose I can set them up, and if the account is deleted then so be it.

 

[housecat]

So long as they know to expect them it might be nice, otherwise it might be a little upsetting? but yes, check that your account won't become inactive if you haven't already.

 

[Honigwaffel]

Just a cause of thought: I have set up my own email with a .com domain I own. I paid 5 years in advance. Since I "own" this email myself, there will no problem with inactivity.

I think sending one or two emails is ok, however I wouldn't do it every year.

 

[dolphin]

Just a cause of thought: I have set up my own email with a .com domain I own. I paid 5 years in advance. Since I "own" this email myself, there will no problem with inactivity.

I think sending one or two emails is ok, however I wouldn't do it every year.

How often are you planning on sending them?

 

[Honigwaffel]

How often are you planning on sending them?

I won't send emails to my relatives. I have prepared hand written notes for that.
However I need to send a few documents and messages to the authorities in about two years, that's why I created the email.

 

[dolphin]

I won't send emails to my relatives. I have prepared hand written notes for that.
However I need to send a few documents and messages to the authorities in about two years, that's why I created the email.

I see. Why are you planning on emailing them so long after the event?

 

[Walilamdzi]

I'm not sure on this one. It might be better to include everything in one note, it might be more upsetting to receive things that are delayed that you could have expressed all at one then allow them to grieve and reach some kind of closure.

 

[headinghome]

I was thinking of scheduling emails to be sent every year after my death to my family, sort of as a way of checking in. Is this a bad idea? Would it be really depressing to receive?

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Why....????

 

[dolphin]

I'm not sure on this one. It might be better to include everything in one note, it might be more upsetting to receive things that are delayed that you could have expressed all at one then allow them to grieve and reach some kind of closure.

Yes this was my concern too. I wanted a way to check in on them and reassure them that I will always love them but I think it might just be traumatic for them to receive

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Why....????

I wanted to let them know that I would always be thinking of them. I think it might just be upsetting though.

 

[Empty Smile]

I would send them to people who have betrayed me, or those I hate. I would send something that says, "Guess what fucker, I'm still around!"

 

[Kassender]

Thatd feel like reopening the wound over and over again.

Honestly they might feel you hate them for doing this

 

[dolphin]

I would send them to people who have betrayed me, or those I hate. I would send something that says, "Guess what fucker, I'm still around!"

That's hilarious.

Thatd feel like reopening the wound over and over again.

Honestly they might feel you hate them for doing this

You're right. I've decided not to do this. I think it's better for everything to just remain closed.

 

[Jean Améry]

I was thinking of scheduling emails to be sent every year after my death to my family, sort of as a way of checking in. Is this a bad idea? Would it be really depressing to receive?

I agree with Kassender: this is aking to harrasment from beyond the grave so to speak. If you want to be dead clearly you in effect no longer want anything to do with your family, for whatever reason. Why pretend otherwise? Plus there's no real communication here and you can't know how they will be doing so it's bound to be bland and generic.

 

[dolphin]

I agree with Kassender: this is aking to harrasment from beyond the grave so to speak. If you want to be dead clearly you in effect no longer want anything to do with your family, for whatever reason. Why pretend otherwise? Plus there's no real communication here and you can't know how they will be doing so it's bound to be bland and generic.

I don't want to leave my family. I have to go for other reasons. You're right though, I understand why it would not be helpful for anyone. I think it would just be weird.

 

[headinghome]

I don't want to leave my family. I have to go for other reasons. You're right though, I understand why it would not be helpful for anyone. I think it would just be weird.

why suicide if you don't want to leave your family