Degrees of abuse/trauma

[Life_and_Death]

Im not disagreeing that wrong is wrong and that it emotionally kills (some cases literally considering its a suicide site) but the emotional degree and how it feels.

After my abuse, ive told myself for years "it wasnt that bad". Im part of another forum and im fairly confident i belong there but i dont say much. It wasnt that bad, it could have been worse so i feel its best to not say much. They had it worse, who am i to say anything.

And its the other way around to. My problem was/is worse than yours so again i feel its best to say nothing to avoid them feeling the above paragraph.

Does anyone else feel left out one way or another so they just dont say anything?

For me i typically fall under the "it wasnt that bad" (probably partially my fault) but sometimes i fall under the other one.

It sucks. People shouldnt have to feel like its wrong for them to talk.

 

[Largeletters]

Yeah, I understand... I had two exes but one in particular that had classic signs of a codependent, covert narcissist. She was manipulative, controlling, just a horrible person (I don't buy her shitty fucking excuses as to why she acts the way she does. She's a terrible person and a bitch), and my therapist told me she was emotionally abusive to me, but I would never define it that far.

 

[TooConscious]

Most decent people demean their experiences, shitty people exaggerate looking for sympathy off those whove had it shit. The way you're concerned that you haven't suffered enough makes me doubt you a bad person as they would only worry about being found out, not others feelings.

 

[logan]

Narcissistic partners are the worst thing that can happen to you.
The only thing that helps is a quick, strict and final separation.

 

[Life_and_Death]

Most decent people demean their experiences

I personally tell mine the way it is. The page/chapter in the story im telling would look like swiss cheese otherwise plus i wouldnt get all of my thoughts out.

shitty people exaggerate looking for sympathy off those whove had it shit.

No. I question some of the words i use but in those cases im still processing it myself. And the posts i do make, im not necessarily looking for anyone to respond so i couldnt be looking for sympathy, although i wont lie...a message now and again so i know im not alone is nice.

The way you're concerned that you haven't suffered enough makes me doubt you a bad person as they would only worry about being found out, not others feelings.

I typically dont bleed when i cut, so it was nothing. He only threatened me, what am i freaking out over? It just....wasnt that bad.
Thanks btw

 

[suicidesheep31]

When I discuss with some person, I also fall in one or the other group.
I think that some part of my life was not good but also think that it could have been worst.
But, it is not a reason to minimize what touched you personally.
It is not useful to compare the story of each other.
However, it is useful to share and see that we are not alone, see that there is a diversity of stories and people behind the stories.
HUGS

 

[TheDevilsAngel]

I feel so left out and alone, not lonely but alone. At times I go over in my head if I should post anything here like my opinion does not matter I'm here to please others well my kids. I'm even too worthless to have a irl friend I just wana disappear....