Help Dating after psych ward

[LittleJem]

I have a date. I have had just one happy and functional day - today - after psych ward and am dressed like a tramp as I have literally been homeless recently. My ex was horrible to me. Any tips/pep talk appreciated. It's weird dating as I don't have many/any girlfriends to support me and my mum has never been there. So excited/nervous. One day free of suicidal thoughts thanks to increase on Prozac. Don't know how long it will last..

 

[bury_my_lovely]

A happy day huh? That's some good shit, it means you're blessed, you could multiply these things.

Ayway I don't want to derail too much. My advice would be; try to have fun and look for a partner that would actually be good to you and not someone who would vibe with your destructive thoughts.

 

[Angi]

My tip for finding better partners: Think of someone you care about deeply, maybe like a little sibling. Imagine a good partner for them. What would he/she be like? Maybe this helps you with choosing someone who treats you better. You deserve to be treated well!

For seductive vibes, I second bury_my_lovely's advice to have genuine fun, if the situation happens to let you.

 

[LittleJem]

So date stood me up but I had a nice glass of wine, met the cutest dog and the dog's (gay) owner (he'd also just been evicted to streets) and then hooked up with someone I met in the bar as we got talking about depression. Two days out of psych ward (and years with hardly any sex in my ex-marriage due to mental illness), so it was nice. Then he left and I got to watch TV. And now, still obsessing about narcissistic psychopath ex. One tip apparently is to replace toxic ex with toxic parent in your mind. So I need to obsess about my mum instead? Which will put me off sex for life.

Anyway, thank you for the tips. I read abusive relationships harder with social isolation, so thank you for being a place to share