CTB and clueless family

[fox_wannabe]

What to do when you want to go but you have parents and grandparents and little brother.
They love me or love that I am with them sometimes, but I don't like being me.
Is their happiness worth my struggle? How do you feel about It?

Is there a way to minimize their pain?

 

[WaaaghEnjoyer]

I think it's quite hard or impossible to minimize their pain, but there are certainly ways to minimize yours.

If they love you then your permanent absence will be quite a sad thing to experience.

The only thing that is usually mentioned is writing a letter. I guess you could write one and make it clear it was 100% inevitable (like Thanos) and no one's fault.

 

[BreakTheCycle]

So I believe that there is no way to minimize pain. When you'r gone, you'r gone. Nothing can change this. Exspecially for parents it can be very hard to loose their child.

But at the same time I've to say that it's not worth living for others. At least it has never been for me. It actually makes things even worse and even more self hatred started to be inside of me because I've been thinking that I would be egotistical if I killed myself. But in the end it's something only you can know. Is this life worth it for you. Just for you. Do you have a reason that is strong enough to be here.
It's not egoistical if u kill yourself. And everyone has the right to take his own life.

 

[Smily]

Nothing really you can do to ease the pain for them, but you can try explaining yourself in a note making it possible for them to accept your decision and live with that further.

 

[FuneralCry]

I also have close family members. Personally, I could never suffer for decades just for the sake of others and it would be selfish of them to expect me to. The way I see it, I did not ask to exist so I have no obligations to stay alive.

For me, I plan to write a note saying there is nothing you could have done and it might provide some closure. There is not much you can do I guess, to end our pain, it passes it on to other people.

 

[Feeding Pigeons]

You can't make the situation better. A suicide is catastrophic. Its not worth toiling over. I know the people in my life who will understand, and those that will not. Can't change that.

 

[jusbug]

the only way to ease their pain is to write a note explaining why you did it or tell them before you leave

 

[Alwaysbadtime]

If they still care for you and love you perhaps you are still doing something right. I'm usually not anti going...but I don't know your story and perhaps it's not your time to go.

 

[CFLoser]

I basically conceded my unhappiness is worth the alternative of making my family suffer. It's not perfect but it isn't all bad when you reach a conclusion