Venting Confused about what to do now

[iLikeFrogs]

I never planned to live long enough to graduate from high school. Duh, I didn't even plan on graduating primary school, yet I'm somewhat here in 2025, not enrolled in any college yet even though I should be, and I'm just confused on what to do. I know I shouldn't have everything figured out at 20, but all the options are paralysing. For the last few weeks, all I did was rot in bed instead of doing something that would be good for my future. It all seems so surreal to be alive now, and planning for my future feels utterly unreal. It's so hard to see any of my plans, short-term mainly since I seemingly can't plan long-term, be realistic.
How does one see their plans as something that could happen and not just as an unrealistic dream?

 

[Unbearable Mr. Bear]

Hmm, why don't you get up and cook something for yourself. I know it sounds stupid, but it's more of a "do anything but lay on bed" thing. I also had the same feelings when I graduated high school, and you don't need to immediately go out for college. Just...do something that will satiate something you need rn. Action instead of inaction.

Sorry if the advice was kinda meh...mama bear is kind of dumb sometimes. But always loves her cubs, honey. *hugs and kisses*

 

[TheGoodGuy]

all I did was rot in bed instead of doing something that would be good for my future.

This line actually motivated me so thanks for that I often get too comfortable/lazy e.g. where watching YT videos feels preferable to do something more productive even if the alternative is just reading at least it´s better for my head.

How does one see their plans as something that could happen and not just as an unrealistic dream?

This is actually a very good question which I unfortunately don´t have the answer to but I hope someone will have a good answer for it since I have dreamt my life away and it would actually be very helpful to know if our dreams are objectively realistic and attainable or if they´re too unrealistic.