Broken Heart, how to deal with it?

[dandan]

So yes, in recovery, doing fine.
I've met a girl, fell in love..... she asked me to create a life together.
I denied, because she did not knew that 5 weeks before meeting here I was going to drink my N.
Then found TRT and found recovery , then met her....

But I did not dare to invite her to join my life, because what if I ended up killing myself? I tried to saved her the troubles....

But Im fine.... im still okay.... She did found someone else.... but I fucking hate loosing her so much, she was a perfect couple, now I cant fall for nobody else... I try but they are so different and I dont like new people I've met so much.

How can I deal with a broken heart? Missing her?

 

[BeansOfRequirement]

I rejected girls during school since I was proverbially high on my own supply. Never got around to the whole girlfriend thing, but I'll try to help out. First, separate suicide from this failed relationship. If you're like most people, you'll have "hookups", several "exes", and so on before you get married and start breeding. So this is just a bump in the road on your "love journey", even though it may pack a punch at the moment. If you're not like most people, you were fucked to start with and this doesn't change anything.

Sending positive vibes.

 

[Life.Journey.Unknown]

A broken heart is one of the worst things ever. It's hard and it takes a long time to recover. I've been in similar situations. Many times actually!
But you WILL get through this.

When I had my broken heart I could barely eat, hearing certain songs reminded me of times and made me sad again.

Sad in a sort of cold empty feeling in my stomach. Waking up in the morning and the first thing on my mind the girl who I miss etc etc. That feeling is horrible. Maybe you can relate with those feelings?

I understand completely the way you wanted to spare her emotions. I've done the same in the past.

I can't really give advice to help you feel better, because words and advice are no match against emotions and heart break.

It will take time. You say you're fine and you're still okay - I'm glad to hear that, it gives you something to build on. Focus on yourself. Focus on you're recovery.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

Try making up reasons why it will never work out between you two. I mean you rejected her initially because you're trying to save her the anguish of your potential suicide right?

Then again, who am I to talk? I was in a similar boat once and only made it worse by trying to bring it back. My reason to CTB now is over a more recent heartbreak. I think it's true that only time can heal it but for those like me with no patience, I can't afford to wait another ten years.

 

[Sherri]

Well a broken heart is what contributed I would say 50% to my depression, it takes time, it took me 3 years to forget me, and did suicide attempts to just go and not feel this pain I felt, I'm not gonna lie, I do have a new bf now, but he will always be the love of my life, despite all the cheating, stealing. I was such an idiot and still am to think about him. People used to tell me only time will heal, and I would get very upset. But in this they were right, try not to attach so much to him like I did to mine. 3 years was not worth it.

 

[dandan]

damm Sherri, yup, im attached cause she is great, but damm she rather be with someone else, and still, she says: "I need to see you, such a long time."
a long time yes, long time she's been with some one else, yes..... damm...
I did not call her to meet this weekend.

 

[wordsonscreen]

Sorry for this long list but I hope some of these can help. They helped me. May or may not resonate for you- everyone is different. Feel free to ignore it too :) Take from it what you will.

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHQ4lSaKRap5HyrpitrTOhQ

 

[dandan]

Ill watch but i do think shit of that guy , but lets watch with an open mind, thanks

 

[LONE WOLF.]

A broken heart is worse than being shot! I know l took 3 bullets while l was in the infantry, l met my soulmate when l was 17 and lost her 2 years later so joined the army to get myself killed but l survived to do 2 more tours-5 all together and left at 30 when my time of duty was up! I'm now 47yrs old and still think of Yvonne all these years later, certain songs trigger my grief and my anger to be bluntly honest but the best thing to help you forget a lost love is a new found love! I feel your pain dandan,and send you positive vibes and a friendly hug and my Staffie 'Max' sends you a friendly Woof! Will be thinking of you today, be well my friend, Mike PS I find Freddie Mercury 'These are the days' helps a bit :-)

 

[BeansOfRequirement]

A broken heart is worse than being shot! I know l took 3 bullets while l was in the infantry, l met my soulmate when l was 17 and lost her 2 years later so joined the army to get myself killed but l survived to do 2 more tours-5 all together and left at 30 when my time of duty was up! I'm now 47yrs old and still think of Yvonne all these years later, certain songs trigger my grief and my anger to be bluntly honest but the best thing to help you forget a lost love is a new found love! I feel your pain dandan,and send you positive vibes and a friendly hug and my Staffie 'Max' sends you a friendly Woof! Will be thinking of you today, be well my friend, Mike PS I find Freddie Mercury 'These are the days' helps a bit :-)

 

[LONE WOLF.]

No idea what that's supposed to mean? GenesandEnviroment.

 

[BeansOfRequirement]

No idea what that's supposed to mean? GenesandEnviroment.

You remind of the punisher at times, it's a fictional character who's family gets killed and then he seeks revenge.

 

[LONE WOLF.]

You remind of the punisher at times, it's a fictional character who's family gets killed and then he seeks revenge.

The Punisher! My favourite character! THANK YOU for the compliment GenesandEnviroment :-)