Discussion Are you a cold/ closed person?

[Forever Sleep]

I think I've become more that way. From isolating so much in part. It feels weird now to interact with people. Not so much here but, in real life. Plus, losing people in life has really hurt so, I got to a point it felt too risky to become close to new people.

I guess there's still a part of me that wants connection. There's still an excitement when I really click with someone. Seeing as I have also been prone to limerence in the past, I have to be especially careful if it's a guy.

It's all somewhat tempered now though- that niggling thought at the back of my mind reminding myself that people can be unreliable. That it's unwise to become emotionally committed or dependent on people.

Does this happen to you? Do you sometimes wonder what you've missed out on/ deprived yourself of? But then also, the hurt you may have spared yourself? Sometimes I think it's no way to live but then, it's also a far more secure way.

 

[CutToRelease]

If they dont like me they cant miss me. And hard to like someone who has as much emotional appeal as a rock.

 

[Grog]

I consider myself a pretty closed-off person. I wish this weren't so, but I dislike most people; at least in American society. I tolerate a lot of people. I feel like most people don't understand me and don't operate on the same wavelength I do, so I'm very picky about who I'm friends with. It's a way of protecting my peace, I guess.

 

[Satori Komeiji]

Absolutely. I have one online friend and he is the only person I open up to and show any emotional vulnerability around. My job is pretty much the only place I talk to people in real life and I am usually the type to just quietly do my job then leave, sometimes making casual conversation but I am very reserved and never talk about myself. I hate being alone but at the same time I'm too scared to open up to people. Everybody with enough time just leaves me in the end so it doesn't feel worth struggling for.

 

[fernstaysquiet]

There's really only one other person in my life I feel safe talking to. I cannot be alone under pretty much any circumstance so it's quite a responsibility for them...

Despite being almost completely isolated, I don't consider myself cold or closed off. I'm very talkative!

I've lost so many connections in the past because of my own actions, I'm way too overbearing for the average person. I'd never blame anyone for leaving me behind.

 

[Forveleth]

It is heavily dependent on the interaction. If you are just making small talk, I am a brick wall. But, as evidenced from my posts here, if the conversation is related in any way towards data gathering, answering questions, or providing assistance, I am more than happy to engage.

IRL I am to the point where I am just nice enough to not come across as a bitch but I am definitely not "warm" towards most people. I am "friendly" if I have to be but most of the time I am just direct and to the point to get the interaction over faster.