AOE thinking of opening a small business but the whole process including the social challenges are causing huge mental blockages.

[Ineedtodie]

What' your experiences into this.

 

[jodes2]

Absolutely. I'm facing my demons. The stress is just too much sometimes and I stay in bed for 24 hours bar loo breaks. I need to socialise like I haven't come close to doing in a LONG time, which is a nightmare for my social anxiety and avoidant personality disorder. But if I want the slightest measure of success, I'm just going to have to do it. It's already tough and I've barely started - it's all been online so far which is a lot easier for me. I'm going to have to graduate to making phonecalls and actually networking IRL. My family and gf are worried I'm biting off more than I can chew, and I wouldn't be surprised if they're right.

But I'm tired of doing nothing with my life. That was the essence of my depression. Now that it's lifted somewhat, I feel it's time for me to try to do something with my life again. I'm excited and terrified. But I've taken a 3 day break so far because I'm just stressed beyond belief already. I don't know when I'll start again. Nightmare. And I'm probably going to lose my savings trying, but I just gotta try. Gotta do something with the easing of the depression

 

[Ineedtodie]

I need to socialise like I haven't come close to doing in a LONG time, which is a nightmare for my social anxiety and avoidant personality disorder. But if I want the slightest measure of success, I'm just going to have to do it. It's already tough and I've barely started - it's all been online so far which is a lot easier for me. I'm going to have to graduate to making phonecalls and actually networking IRl.

That's exactly the process that frighten me and see myself incompetent to achieve without failure or to be expoited nd tricked, especially networking irl. I know its all trial and errors and based on finance too. but I feel I going to mess it up somehow due to lacking social skills and being unsupported, I don't have a reliable nd trustworthy support from family, freind or relatives. I guess I' m not self dependent as well.

My family and gf are worried I'm biting off more than I can chew, and I wouldn't be surprised if they're right.

that's exactly how I feel even though the business I' m starting is not that complicated( a small coffee shop)but my mind make it feel like doom and huiliation. I think probably for the same blockages you have.

But I'm tired of doing nothing with my life. That was the essence of my depression

Doing nothing is not an option for sure it will only spiral to horrible outcomes.

I wonder what could make this whole process less intimidating (more money, guidance from trustworthy connections or other angles, I' m cluless.

If only there is Some kind of pills that numbs you entirely against fear of rejection and feeling inadequate all the time.

 

[jodes2]

that's exactly how I feel even though the business I' m starting is not that complicated( a small coffee shop)but my mind make it feel like doom and huiliation. I think probably for the same blockages you have.


Doing nothing is not an option for sure it will only spiral to horrible outcomes.

I wonder what could make this whole process less intimidating (more money, guidance from trustworthy connections or other angles, I' m cluless.

If only there is Some kind of pills that numbs you entirely against fear of rejection and feeling inadequate all the time.

Seemingly contradicting, networking should make it easier. To get more advice and more help from more experienced people than me. I just have to bite that bullet

 

[Ineedtodie]

Seemingly contradicting, networking should make it easier. To get more advice and more help from more experienced people than me. I just have to bite that bullet

Networking would save you a lot of traps and unforseen troubles.

For my case I need to aquire good appraisals of possible locations. I reckon its going to take time and patience and cash, perhaps luck too. I have to start there.
And later a trustworthy contact to guide me through the whole subsequent process. Someone with experience.
I have a relative I could ask for advices preparing equipments , and running the shop. The financial part confuses me as well.

 

[jodes2]

Networking would save you a lot of traps and unforseen troubles.

For my case I need to aquire good appraisals of possible locations. I reckon its going to take time and patience and cash, perhaps luck too. I have to start there.
And later a trustworthy contact to guide me through the whole subsequent process. Someone with experience.
I have a relative I could ask for advices preparing equipments , and running the shop. The financial part confuses me as well.

Starting any business with a premises is a lot of work and can be quite costly to set up. I wouldn't know how to do that without a lot of money to invest, idk