Anyone else is being killed by loneliness?

[-FrozenRobot-]

I've been feeling really lonely the past couple of days. I had some serious things happen and I just want to CTB. No one wants me here. I just wanted to get rid of certain things off my chest. I'm feeling lonely but I don't want anyone nearby me. It's confusing. I'll soon CTB once I move out of my parent's house.

 

[Chovyfan]

Yea I feel the same way and covid just makes everything worse. It makes the future feel pointless.

 

[whywere]

I so hear both of you @FrozenRobot13 and @Chovyfan and all the other folks on SS. Having no family nor friends truly makes life, sometimes, more challenging BUT having all the members of SS, like a huge group off friends and/or like a family makes it so much better.

Also, WELCOME @Chovyfan to SS. Great having you with folks here.

I was disowned by my family in 1974 and have no friends except all the loving and caring spirits here and I feel so darn lucky to have so many global friends.

Happy New Year's to everyone on SS.

Walter

 

[NeuroDamaged3]

Yes, in a sense. I have noticed in the past few months that I'm not able to make friends (online or off) and I've been ghosted by the vast majority of people I talk to eventually. I wish they'd tell me why, at the very least, so I could improve myself. I cannot understate the mental effect this has had on me.

It reminds me of "Her Last Words" by Courtney Parker.

"So I'm going by the law, "majority rules"
My presence on this earth is not needed any longer"

The common denominator in all this is me. If I am unwanted, online or IRL, and even by family, I must be a problem that shouldn't exist.

 

[ThriveOrDie]

Yes. so lonely for most of my life. It's been so bad since Covid.

 

[Marktheghost]

I hope I am. Anyone got any idea how to speed up the process?

 

[ThankYouNYT]

Loneliness with no realistic prospect of amelioration is enough to make anyone want to die. I speak from bitter personal experience. I've had years of spending 52 Friday nights and 52 Saturday nights alone. New Year was just spent drinking by myself in my room. Enough's enough.

 

[Gabriel.88]

Yes, in a sense. I have noticed in the past few months that I'm not able to make friends (online or off) and I've been ghosted by the vast majority of people I talk to eventually. I wish they'd tell me why, at the very least, so I could improve myself. I cannot understate the mental effect this has had on me.

It reminds me of "Her Last Words" by Courtney Parker.

"So I'm going by the law, "majority rules"
My presence on this earth is not needed any longer"

The common denominator in all this is me. If I am unwanted, online or IRL, and even by family, I must be a problem that shouldn't exist.

I feel the same way, I have been trying to make online friends & oh man it's hard compared to before.

 

[LittleBlackCat]

I feel the same. Like a slow death

Yes. so lonely for most of my life. It's been so bad since Covid.

I know. I don't know what happened to me when covid started but it was like the beginning of the end. Like the light went out in my head.
I had a concert to look forward to this month which - surprise - has been cancelled. I give up now

 

[Bigpink]

I'm alone all the time, I hardly know anyone.

 

[whywere]

I'm alone all the time, I hardly know anyone.

HI!! I have no family nor friends. except all the lovely folks here. I would appreciate it if I may call you a good friend and want you to know that you are loved, cared about and part of a awesome group.

Take care of yourself, stay healthy (Away from Covid) and I send you lots of sunny days and tropical breezes.

Walter

 

[D&D]

Yes.
Loneliness and isolation are the worst killers ... they erode from inside until one is reduced to a walking, breading corpse. Slightly feral.
No wonder ostracism from the tribe and solitary confinement are the oldest forms of torcher.
In our time technology gives an illusion of connection, which, while serves to, at least temporarily, reduce feeling of loneliness, in the same time isolates one further. For instance, typing this message and others on this forum gives an impression of interaction, and while, to the certain extent this is true, the fact remains that I have not spoken with another human being in real life for days. About anything, not to mention any meaningful type of exchange.
Different people need different amount of interaction with others. Some more and some less. But everyone needs some. Not being able to interact, communicate, belong leads to alienation, then annihilation.

 

[LADY007]

HI!! I have no family nor friends. except all the lovely folks here. I would appreciate it if I may call you a good friend and want you to know that you are loved, cared about and part of a awesome group.

Take care of yourself, stay healthy (Away from Covid) and I send you lots of sunny days and tropical breezes.

Walter

Same love to you, Walter!

 

[Blue_mist]

Loneliness is my solitude from this horrible world. I can't stand anyone coming over to my place for an hour or so. I even put up my cat for adoption. Being lonely became heaven to me because i loathe people i hate all of them equally with no exceptions.

 

[LADY007]

I've been feeling really lonely the past couple of days. I had some serious things happen and I just want to CTB. No one wants me here. I just wanted to get rid of certain things off my chest. I'm feeling lonely but I don't want anyone nearby me. It's confusing. I'll soon CTB once I move out of my parent's house.

I have observed that adult loneliness comes from trying to have small talk with others instead of being part of a group with the same interests. When we were in school, this ready-made environment was handy to develop friendships based on interests and harmonious interests. Adulthood requires seeking groups (in person...physically or just mentally) where you can bond over something positive. This is very hard for people who are confined by physical limitations and my heart goes out to them. If you are lonely and physically fit...finding a group who share the same enthusiasm as you do for something can greatly ease loneliness..imho.

 

[whywere]

Same love to you, Walter!

Thank you so much! You really made my day a whole lot better and brighter. It is folks like you who help make SS such a wonderful site that it is.

Thank you again and have a great New Year's.

Walter

 

[LADY007]

Thank you so much! You really made my day a whole lot better and brighter. It is folks like you who help make SS such a wonderful site that it is.

Thank you again and have a great New Year's.

Walter

Whatever you need to do...you have a great new year, too!!

 

[back_to_oblivion]

I think it is something that slowly eats away at you. In the beginning it would make me feel bad but now I have become so numb. There's just apathy now, I have essentially given up on having connections. I have accepted that this is the way my life is and always will be. Looking back it's so easy for life to go off the rails, a few wrong turns here and there and you may find yourself in a position of isolation.

 

[Justsogone]

Isolation and loneliness are my best chums

 

[LADY007]

I so hear both of you @FrozenRobot13 and @Chovyfan and all the other folks on SS. Having no family nor friends truly makes life, sometimes, more challenging BUT having all the members of SS, like a huge group off friends and/or like a family makes it so much better.

Also, WELCOME @Chovyfan to SS. Great having you with folks here.

I was disowned by my family in 1974 and have no friends except all the loving and caring spirits here and I feel so darn lucky to have so many global friends.

Happy New Year's to everyone on SS.

Walter

We are very lucky to share things here!

 

[FuneralCry]

Loneliness can be painful for many people, but I would much rather be alone than be around people. Being around others can make me feel much worse. I cannot stand people overall, I need to isolate myself from others.

 

[4eyebiped]

Loneliness is like being stabbed by a dirty rusty serrated blade. It doesn't kill you out right. No, no, mercy isn't granted there. It hurts deep inside, and over time the wound it causes begins to fester, more and more. It is a slow death and a death that comes in stages. The death first comes in the form of certain joys in life dying off. Simple activities, hobbies and basic joys are no longer appealing and the motivation for them is gone. Then the next death is our perception of the world as we start to change, sour and become resentful. Positive things slowly fade away as if a figment of our imagination and all traces are replaced by the negatives we experience and witness. Even the smallest inconsequential negative raises in ranks to a powerful tyrannical leader that tortures us daily. The next death comes in the form of neglect as we let ourselves go. We become unkempt and ragged, visibly or internally. Everything compounds and many regrets begin to form. The last death, becomes the one of desperation and forced choice.

If only we could find someone to pull that blade out before its too late...

 

[idiotstillwantstodie]

I've been feeling really lonely the past couple of days. I had some serious things happen and I just want to CTB. No one wants me here. I just wanted to get rid of certain things off my chest. I'm feeling lonely but I don't want anyone nearby me. It's confusing. I'll soon CTB once I move out of my parent's house.

Total honesty is the key. Be honest to yourself, about yourself. That way you can learn to accept the situation, accept the reasons why you have ended up alone. Then you stop feeling lonely.

Life is cruel. All relationships are about power. If you just don't have what it takes, no matter how much you tried, then you can't really be blamed for your situation.

It's good to keep in mind that no matter how popular some of us might be at some point of their lives, we still all die completely alone in the end. Nobody can cross that border with you.

 

[*Justanotherone*]

Christmas and New Year can be very hard for lonely people. I've been in similar situation, I remember how it felt... I'm sorry for you. I hope you'll get better ❤