anyone else feel like they have no future

[tieiwi]

I've always had this foreboding feeling that I wouldn't have a nice future. That I wouldn't get a nice education, a nice job, a nice home. All of those are coming true. I've had this feeling since I was young. Like a feeling that I would never accomplish much. That I'd be living my life at the bare minimum. All of those feelings are coming true. Every time I try to imagine my future all I see is black.

 

[unraveling]

and even if someone does get those things, they can still lose them. I guess it's learning how to deal with uncertainty. And this "foreboding feeling" that you have... could it also be described as worry?

 

[SuicidallyCurious]

The thread title is irrelevant

All humans have no future as living beings . That is scientific fact. All humans will become worm food, No matter what their feelings are.

 

[ikadasui]

Yes, I struggle everyday coming to terms with the fact any prospect of a "good life" was robbed from me in childhood by the actions of others. It's beyond unfair and no matter how much I cry, scream, rage and beg for anything else to change it nothing will happen. I am alone and my life will always be one of adversity and turmoil until my dying breathe and nothing will change it

 

[CommitSudoku]

Why are those fears coming true now?

I never had dreams/aspirations as a child, so I suppose I was doomed always. I just picked a stable course of life that would make others proud and me less of a failure but I had no intent of making it far, and I still don't. So there's nothing much in the future I desire, nor was there ever. I just wanted small things really or normal things and I've learned that anxiety, depression, life, etc. will always prevent me from having them. For instance now I have two jobs, and anyone else I'm sure would have a great time with them and be able to build their ideal life with them (or even just with one of the jobs really). But they bring me nothing but dread, anxiety, or numbness. Quite honestly all I see in my future is being a puppet - either to my jobs or family - and then I see myself attempting again, and possibly again, and such a pattern repeats until I'm finally dumb enough to succeed. I'm in a exhausted, low, numb state now, but I know myself and my history enough, I will attempt again.

 

[deathbydragon]

I remember reading the wikipedia article for my personality disorder and it says up top people with it have some of the lowest life chances around.

Ah here it is - "significantly compromised quality of life, reduced overall functioning even after 15 years and one of the lowest levels of "life success" of all personality disorders (measured as "status, wealth and successful relationships")."

Thanks wikipedia lmao. Validation of what I already thought.

 

[deleted]

Growing up being fed by people wanting me to be a doctor and when you grow up you're forced to clean toilets, fuck all this I didn't come into this world for this, There was never any hope for me from the beginning, studying in the worst schools, in a fucked up country that doesn't even have a job and if you do you'll be enslaved for a miserable salary. Yes I'm relieved to know I'll be free from all this hell soon and won't have to pay bills to anyone

 

[Marktheghost]

Yes. I have no future.

 

[allesistgut]

i feel somewhat similar, and have for what feels like a long time. it's hard and stressful to try and picture a real future for myself.

 

[jimmy7754]

Growing up being fed by people wanting me to be a doctor and when you grow up you're forced to clean toilets, fuck all this I didn't come into this world for this, There was never any hope for me from the beginning, studying in the worst schools, in a fucked up country that doesn't even have a job and if you do you'll be enslaved for a miserable salary. Yes I'm relieved to know I'll be free from all this hell soon and won't have to pay bills to anyone

Where you from?

 

[deleted]

Where you from?

Brasil

 

[jimmy7754]

Brasil

Ahh.. sinto muito pelo que você está passando.

 

[Hurt]

Yup. hopeless

 

[FuneralCry]

The only future that I have is one that is full of misery and suffering. There is nothing here for me in this world and things can only get worse. I do not want any future, all that I want is to be free from this existence. It is so depressing to think that if I do not ctb I could potentially have many decades of this awful life left. I was never meant for this world, I never should have been born in the first place.

 

[MatthewV3]

Yes. I kinda always knew that. That thought has always been in my mind. "Normal" life was never meant for me, hapiness was never meant for me. I'll probably never have any friends, girlfriend, good job and my own place. I'll stay locked in my room with loneliness and pain untill some day I'll have nothing left and I'll end it.

 

[anxious_depressive]

Yes, I have no future.
I'm very scared.

 

[rationaltake]

I have no future. End of. And never did.

 

[Bitterman1996]

Yep, or rather even if I'm in within "great prospect" i immediately fucked it over by being depressed and dropped out of uni. Idk what I'm doing now...

 

[nopride86]

We find ourselves in the future every time we take another breath. It's the easiest way to time travel! But seriously, I've realized that since I am living in the future of who I was moment ago, I'm not so caught up in a future that is defined by years or decades. It's somewhat delusional, but that's because I truly hope that I don't live long enough to see what the actual "future" is.

Even when I was a child, I dreaded the future. It was an existential type of dread back then, combined with a fear of the physical/mental decline of aging. Starting at about 8yrs old.
I never thought I'd live to see my current age and its freaking me out that I'm still around. It's like feeling itchy and uncomfortable in my skin 24/7.
I used to have vague aspirations but truly they were just delusions of grandeur disguised as hope, and they were never going to come to fruition anyway. And even if they did, they weren't supposed to last very long because again, I was banking on a short lifespan. Oh well.

 

[tieiwi]

and even if someone does get those things, they can still lose them. I guess it's learning how to deal with uncertainty. And this "foreboding feeling" that you have... could it also be described as worry?

I don't know if it's worry. It's not me wondering what my future will be it's more like me knowing it won't be much. I'm not constantly stressing over how it will look I just feel sad because I know current me could never achieve those nice things. Or maybe it is worry, I'm not sure I'm not very good at explaining myself.

The thread title is irrelevant

All humans have no future as living beings . That is scientific fact. All humans will become worm food, No matter what their feelings are.

This made me laugh.

 

[myopybyproxy]

all I see in my future is being a puppet - either to my jobs or family

Same, except add being a puppet to the government and my mood swings for me. That's what I expect for my future. What fun :D

I finally said fuck it to being a puppet to my family and stopped being religious when I was 15. Thankfully the fallout from that hasn't been too bad. They're decent people. But you can't really escape jobs/the government. Or maybe I'm not thinking out of the box enough. Idk. I'm just fed up of waiting for my life to start and existing on other people's terms in the meantime.

From the time I was old enough to answer the question what do you want to be when you grow up, where do you see yourself in five/ten/fifteen years etc - it's always been a blank shroud of mist. I have so many ideas and possibilities - sO mUcH pOTenTiAL - but the likelihood of actually making any of those happen is nil. To answer OP - yep, you're not alone in feeling this way.

 

[tieiwi]

Yes, I struggle everyday coming to terms with the fact any prospect of a "good life" was robbed from me in childhood by the actions of others. It's beyond unfair and no matter how much I cry, scream, rage and beg for anything else to change it nothing will happen. I am alone and my life will always be one of adversity and turmoil until my dying breathe and nothing will change it

I relate to you a lot. I hate how I have to live with the consequences of my abusive childhood that wasn't even my fault. I was set up for failure and have felt that way ever since I gained consciousness and realized my childhood wasn't normal. That's why I feel like my life won't amount to much. No matter how much I cry or who I scream at it'll never change. I wish my abusive childhood would've beat some kind of sense into me. You know people who become over achieving and hard working because their parents would beat them bad if they didn't meet specific expectations. My childhood only made me a loser who breaks down for every stupid reason. I don't have the energy to do anything. All I do is lay in my bed all day. I can't function in this society. All because some adult made the irresponsible decision to become a parent.

 

[BigGimpin]

In 2019 I saw my future and it wasnt pretty! I was in the hospital, and my roomate next to me had the same exact disability as I do, T4 paraplegic, but he was 78 years old and I was 50.

He was 100% dependant on nurses to do everything for him, I mean even wiping his ass, I laid there at night tripping balls thinking how that would be me in the future. Now here we are only three years later and I am already starting to lose my independence. I have been 100% independant my whole life, having to ask someone for help just aint my thing.

So I need to get the fuck out of this life while I still can!

 

[Al Cappella]

I pretty much know I don't. And now, as the song goes, I'm just watching my life slide out of view…

 

[befree]

The entire world has no future !

 

[Insomniac]

I don't even have a present. I exist in limbo.

 

[NormaJeane]

There is not much future for humanity in this world of wars, overpopulation and pollution which causes global warming. A nuclear war can lead to a sixth mass extinction.