anyone else ever had dreams of their ex?

[Melancholic_Misfit]

i had today and fuck me it was so depressing.
we got back together in the dream. just wish it could happen in the real world too. she was so sweet. not great with communicating, but i was still willing to be patient enough to see her communication skills grow with time, even if i did ask her from time to time why she did X than Y, why she didn't do X, etc. maybe i just wasn't able to express it in action properly like i should have, but the intent and will was still there.

at the same time, it feels weird too.
back when we were still together, i dreamed of her leaving me behind.
idk if this was like some future prediction or divine message, but that's what ended up happening.

 

[koruznikov]

Yes, i miss her. But mostly I had just nightmares about her, not sweet dreams.

 

[MisplacedGirl]

Yes, frequently, despite the fact that it's been 8 months. I hope you're able to find something that can bring you some comfort and closure.

 

[Ambivalent1]

i had today and fuck me it was so depressing.
we got back together in the dream. just wish it could happen in the real world too. she was so sweet. not great with communicating, but i was still willing to be patient enough to see her communication skills grow with time, even if i did ask her from time to time why she did X than Y, why she didn't do X, etc. maybe i just wasn't able to express it in action properly like i should have, but the intent and will was still there.

at the same time, it feels weird too.
back when we were still together, i dreamed of her leaving me behind.
idk if this was like some future prediction or divine message, but that's what ended up happening.

Never had an ex. Volcel

 

[UnwillingSavior]

All the time. Well, like 1/4 dreams, typically. They range from bad to good, but usually they are very sweet. It makes me depressed too, I'm in a kind of limbo trying to find a reason to live when she was my whole reason. I think once she can stand on her own two feet and be independent without me (she and I are still on good terms), I'll really have fewer reasons to continue. It's tough, I have no one to help me like I am for her. Oh well, I already have my kit and a plan for catching the bus, so if I fail in my personal endeavor, then so be it.

 

[Bannana]

I miss him so much

 

[Malaria]

Yes. My ex SA'd me and I have nightmares about it sometimes.

 

[sserafim]

I've never had an ex, but I've had dreams about my crush before

 

[cgrtt.brns]

yeah quite a few. the last one i wrote down was the end of last year, it was a dream within a dream, we were dating again and i was so happy, then i "woke up" and she was dating someone else and i was rly sad, then i actually woke up and felt kinda guilty for still dreaming about her after all this time. she broke up with me at least six maybe seven years ago icr the exact date or time anymore, i havent spoken to her since.

 

[lita-lassi]

yes and its heart-wrenching every time. its usually him giving me the cold shoulder and not caring about what he or i do to the other which was the worst part of existing with him

 

[terra.nuvo]

My ex-best friend yes. Usually the dreams revolve around him leaving me behind in a way. They don't come often but when they do they do really mess me up a bit. I'm hoping with time the dreams won't affect me as much. I know I shouldn't want the dreams to come but they are the only way I can see him at this point so I'd rather learn to be ok having them than just to not have them at all.

 

[soulkitty]

Yes. My ex SA'd me and I have nightmares about it sometimes.

Me too….I'm so sorry :( those nightmares are so fucking disturbing

 

[Malaria]

Me too….I'm so sorry :( those nightmares are so fucking disturbing

I am so sorry...

 

[Aloneandinpain]

Still haven't even had my first kiss yet, probably never will

 

[Asnowyevening]

It's been 2 years and I still dream of her. It's torture. My life hasn't been good since. It was the happiest I ever was, now I'm at my lowest point. I don't want to die, but I just don't have any better options.

 

[HereTomorrow]

Ex-friend, yes. Was actually my first crush as well, but nothing romantic ever happened.

Most of the time she'd appear in the backgrounds of my dreams but in the past year I've dreamed of hanging out with her. Of course, the joy is in the far past, she's changed too much. Her hugs is what made me feel for the first time truly vulnerable and dreaming of them actually makes me wake up feeling really amazing...

...also probably why I have almost chronic touch starvation. Thanks ex-friend.

 

[dogbreath]

YES!!MULTIPLE TIMES! and in all these dreams we're either together still or getting back together. One dream that stuck out to me and is hard to forget is: we were on a mini train ride. He looked tired and he told me "I'm going to kill myself soon." Dream me paused and was shocked. Then I replied back with "I'll kill myself with you then" when I woke up, had the urge to message him and take me back ugh the dreams make me want to message him and ask him to love me again and and and and Q_Q

 

[1MiserableGuy]

Loads

 

[bipbapbop]

Yes, every night. Then I wake up and want to die.

 

[ThatStateOfMind]

i had today and fuck me it was so depressing.
we got back together in the dream. just wish it could happen in the real world too. she was so sweet. not great with communicating, but i was still willing to be patient enough to see her communication skills grow with time, even if i did ask her from time to time why she did X than Y, why she didn't do X, etc. maybe i just wasn't able to express it in action properly like i should have, but the intent and will was still there.

at the same time, it feels weird too.
back when we were still together, i dreamed of her leaving me behind.
idk if this was like some future prediction or divine message, but that's what ended up happening.

Yep, it's been actually exactly a year and 4 months to this day since the breakup and I did.

Although they're less happy and more confusing. My dreams often don't make sense a lot of the times, especially when she's in them. It's kinda funny that you mention it because I did have dreams last night. I don't remember them but I remember her being in them if that makes sense. I deleted 400 photos/videos of her, which still stings to think about, but I know it needed to happen, and there's still more to delete. Anyways, I think deleting those photos caused me to dream about her.

 

[DyingToDie123]

Not someone I dated but I have frequent dreams about an ex-friend who cut me out of their life, and it's always really distressing.

 

[Argo]

Never an ex, I think I'd probably remember that dream(I have a really bad dream memory though and rarely dream/remember them). But in the last year I remember a dream with a friend who had a crush on me. It was your typical dream strangeness, so I'll share it. I was in the bathroom whose doorway faced a bedroom, where she was hanging out. She was talking to me the entire time, and I was trying to put on some music for us to listen to(we both really loved music). Except my hand was inside the toilet... and the mouse was underwater... but with no apparent computer with which to put music on with. And somehow I was struggling to navigate putting on music for us to listen to... while also paying attention to her communicate to me. I'm trying, but not doing a good job. I can sense that she senses that I'm failing to multitask. It's uncomfortable...

Do you think that maybe a trend with these dreams that involve other people is this trope of "Failure to communicate" or "Difficulty socializing"? Or is that more just a given any time people are involved, dreams or not?

 

[bieatmania]

never dated anyone but my school bully showed up in my dream today, I don't know what I did to him but I was so disturbed when he appeared, it was very vivid.
he always show up randomly on my dream and every time I see him I feel emotion of either fear or anger.
sorry if it has nothing to do with the topic. just wanted to share.

 

[angel_♡_locked]

I get the same way, all i can do is think of her and stuff, she was nice and liked stuff like overwatch etc and even came up with stuff ahe wished to turn into media yk(her ocs and stuff) i broke up with her tho cuz she told me she had somewhat feelings for someone else and it broke me, i wish i could have communicated better and stuff but didnt want to since mo matter how many times i describe stuff from my pov it doesnt work at all and im left in the dust sooner or later,i miss her but it wasnt like sh tried to communicate with me either :((

 

[Nightwatcher]

I have dreams like these so so often. Statistically probably every two nights. They occur so often and are mostly so advanced that I feel like I'm slowly losing my mind and getting lost which reality is real.

I don't know what else I can say. We were teenagers and been together for three years. It didn't work out mostly because of our lack of communication, at least I think so. I wasn't really good with people back then. I want to believe that if it would happen today it would work out.

And then I wake up. Every time this happens it gives me some kind of a little happiness boost that I saw her again, but on the other side I'm done with this life more and more.

I'm sorry for this long ass comment. If you reached to this point thank you. I feel like I needed it.

 

[TheTragicPrince]

It's been three years and it seems to come in waves. (I'm in another another phase of it right now and it's paralyzing.) It's been several times that I thought I had gotten over her, and then it just comes back. I've basically accepted that I'm going to feel this way for the rest of my life, although that doesn't help much. I know it would be a terrible idea to see her because of how incredibly abusive she was to me, but I guess that's how the heart works. It's a cognitive distortion, but it truly feels like leaving her was the worst mistake I have ever made in my entire life.

 

[Aloneandinpain]

I have such immense curiosity/desire to experience what a relationship is like.

I feel like I'm still a child basically, and that my adult life hasn't begun and won't do so unless I experience romance.

 

[greebo6]

Its natural and normal. Don't worry , the dreams about your ex will stop. They always do eventually.

 

[marsupial]

Extremely sad when I have dreams about people I admire but can't be with. Need a friend/partner/someone close to talk with and support but I've only clicked with one or two people twice in over 20 years and they..were much better off than me, socially, emotionally, etc and didn't bother maintaining any sort of contact. Sort of a "you need me more than I need you" (from them) situation. Resentful.

 

[i dont feel real.]

Sadly no. Im literally a fucking weirdo. No friends, no romantic partner, no shit. Only my family and i. I feel alone every fucking day and i truly hate it. Shit, accidentally vented.