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Amile

Amile

Member
Sep 17, 2020
38
kant and newton = died virgins.
chris chan = not virgin.
it makes you think.
 
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ForsakenEcho

ForsakenEcho

i'm tired
Jan 14, 2024
50
Looking back, I wish I had waited for someone special. When I turned 18, I was already living on my own and decided it was time. I just wanted to get it over with.

I met a girl on tinder, and eventually we went out and ended up doing it on the first date. There wasn't much emotion involved or anything like that. Thinking back on it now, I didn't really feel anything beyond a moment of physical pleasure.

A few years later, when I was with someone who truly meant a lot to me, it was a completely different experience.

So these days, I only really feel the desire to be with someone I truly love.
 
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EmptyBottle

EmptyBottle

🔑 LTO tape exists
Apr 10, 2025
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I'm 21, and besides self-love, have also never 'mated' before.
 
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Linda

Linda

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Jul 30, 2020
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I'm incredibly embarrassed that as a 29 gay man I'm still a virgin. I consider it a massive mark of failure. I'm thinking of hiring an escort, someone who would probably be kinder to virgins/non experienced men so that I can get over this insecurity of mine. It's the root of many of my insecurities about my body, my behaviour etc.
I think hiring an escort is a good idea for someone in your circumstances. I suggest you look for one who has his own place and works from there. If you are in a large city, it shouldn't be difficult to find someone like that. You might pay a bit more, but, as with everything, you get what you pay for. Explain exactly why you have come, and what you want. Don't be embarrassed. Escorts have heard more kinds of requests than you can even imagine.

With sex, a lot depends on personal chemistry, so try to find an escort who you actually like, both physcially and as a person. If the first one you try is not satisfactory, try again with someone else.

It goes without saying that you should use proper protection. And if you use a lubricant, it should be a water-based one. Other kinds - I remember some gay men back in the 1970s used vaseline - can weaken condoms.

Good luck.
 
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Aloneandinpain

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Dec 25, 2023
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I think hiring an escort is a good idea for someone in your circumstances. I suggest you look for one who has his own place and works from there. If you are in a large city, it shouldn't be difficult to find someone like that. You might pay a bit more, but, as with everything, you get what you pay for. Explain exactly why you have come, and what you want. Don't be embarrassed. Escorts have heard more kinds of requests than you can even imagine.

Perhaps things are different for homosexuals, but as a straight guy who is a virgin I don't believe it would even count if I had sex with a prostitute.

I need to have sex with someone who likes and loves me, having to pay for it is just as tragic as being an older virgin, possibly more so and isn't going to help my self esteem either
 
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murdersuicide

murdersuicide

zero sum game
Sep 8, 2024
28
ya im almost 21 and khhv. honestly i feel little to no shame or pressure bout it– if anything, im actually proud out of it, considering how normalised hookup culture is

if i were you (or anyone else), i'd personally avoid escorting. like @Aloneandinpain said, i don't think losing your virginity should be seen as some sorta milestone to rush towards, but rather something meaningful– something you'll want to cherish
 
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spoiledberry

spoiledberry

New Member
Jul 20, 2025
2
idm being a 20 yo virgin. I don't care if I have sex or not, I want to be loved. like that romantic crap u see in old movies. thats what i want.
 
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Lyn

Lyn

Momentary
Mar 1, 2025
129
I've only lost my virginity when I was close to 30.
So yeah, I've missed all of thoss "magician opportunities"
 
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AnimeSlayersFan

AnimeSlayersFan

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Jul 18, 2025
26
I lost my virginity cause I felt it was shameful, it doesn't really make as much of a difference, unless, you are a "virgin" cause when you are, in your mind, it feels like "everything", but I can promise you it isn't. Also, escorts are not something to be afraid of if you want to try those out.
Being a virgin is kinda not having eaten a hamburger in your life while people have. Yes it can be nice, but it's not this massive thing people make it out to be.
Of course, because it is impossible to know before you do it, you puff it up in your mind.
I've had quite a few experiences, and a lot of the level of pleasure of sex? I've had around the same level of pleasure watching hentai alone at home. Yup.
 
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PI3.14

PI3.14

Looking for a way out
Oct 4, 2024
133
If I wanted to lose my virginity, I would have done it already. It doesn't bother me at all but loneliness does.
 
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