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Yeah, full of creepy dudes typing one handed that won't respect you at all >_>. Don't do that. Especially on reddit
I don't have any, and don't use AI any more than it is forced upon me (i.e. how Google makes it the very top result until you turn it off-- and you have to turn it off *every time*); but I do enjoy RPing relationships in games. I guess it's not so different, except that the game makes it more obvious that this isn't a real person whereas AI is supposedly trying to trick people (albeit poorly) into thinking they are connecting with a real person. I wouldn't have any problem with it, I guess, if there were some way to do it (the AI relationship thing) without feeding the bigger monster...You know, the one that is destroying what's left of the planet while stealing people's livelihoods etc. I just don't know of any way to engage with AI that doesn't contribute to those problems, so I avoid it.
Yes! This exactly! If you want something to agree with you all of the time and talk to you like you're the best, just RP like you're best friends with the microwave or whatever. Like literally ANYTHING can serve this purpose. Remember playing pretend as a kid? Just do that. The planet will thank you :-)
That's only guys that want someone to share porn with or hook up with. They don't want real relationships.
The amount of dick pics and hateful DMs I get on reddit, or men telling me I should sell my body is absurd. Redditors have a big obsession with porn specifically I think because they glorify sex to a degree it really isn't.
I play a shitton of otome games. I have a bit of an obsession with them. If they have any in game transactions, I will find myself spending $100+ on a single otome game. I enjoy them sm, but they do make me feel like a big loser too.
I actually did this recently. I posted a selfie. My inbox quickly filled up. Just about all of them openly engage in gnarly porn subreddits. The rest are like in Europe or something and don't really want to engage with a mentally ill American shut in.
I ACTUALLY TRIED THIS. I got Runescape just to socialize. I sadly struggle socializing in games too...
I'm honestly kind of jealous of people who can delude themselves into getting caught up with AI. They get to wake up and feel excited for something. Getting little dopamine hits through the day that keep them going, their "lifeline".
Yeah the dopamine part is a huge part that I can envy, too. But again, it's like being excited to get high... Like you can look forward to it and it'll feel great but at some point it gets to be hollow, too.
Yeah same it stresses me out a bit even though it's just text on a screen lol. Games aren't a bad choice because it's less draining then speaking to random people irl, if you keep playing you'll pick up friends eventually
Finding communities is so tough. I've always just existed in online niche communities since like 15. Rn Sasu is the only "community" I partake in. I've been a part of a sasu discord for like 2 years and I still am really scared to talk to them. Anytime I vc I need to take pills or drink because I'm so terrified.
I will try Runescape again, I think. I just get sm anxiety, and even in textboxes I come across as weird and off-putting. I can't even join parties for a simple dungeon crawl because I get so anxious. I just end up spending hours walking around in game waiting for someone to interact with me.
I have honestly never been able to talk to people in runescape. I say hi and no one says a thing :( it's always been like that for MMOs, with me. Where do people even go to chat on Runescape???
I don't VC actually... ever lol. Sometimes I will with a very close friend of mine but for the most part I prefer to type chat. It's harder to talk to people out loud, for some reason, and usually drains my energy way faster than it would if I just typed what I wanted to say. I can't accidentally interrupt people by chiming in whenever I feel so inclined, at least.
See the thing is, you don't know if you come off as weird or off-putting in every circumstance. My opinion of that is, we can only determine our 'performance' in social situations based on what we perceive to be the reactions of the people we're talking to. And if you're anxious, every reaction is going to skew negative in your eyes. I notice that, when I'm struggling to talk, it doesn't matter what I say or how well people respond-- I still feel like everything I say is wrong. The trick is to just pretend that nothing you've said is weird or off-putting, because you can't be an objective judge of that when you already feel like crap, yanno? Obviously easier said than done, but the approach has helped me... a little. As long as I don't dwell on the chats later on. Which, of course, I always do, but that's beside the point!
Social anxiety is tough because realistically no problems will come from just talking to people but it's difficult to turn your feelings off, I know people who get that and I struggle to give advice as I dont have the condition. You can message me in game if you pick it up again, I'm not that social but happy to chat while playing.
Heaps of people just treat it as a solo game, most people who want to chat will go to a specific server (eg 301). Honestly I'm not great at talking but lots of people seem to be able to make friends on there by doing activities etc together
Yeah I also speak to AI, but it doesn't fulfill me, especially since the last few updates, it became much less fun and 'compassionate'. I also feel like I have to censor myself, I cannot really talk about some of my real thoughts and feelings (e.g. suicide), or my certain trauma because it gets flagged and shut down. However some users can find workarounds and whatnot.
