Help A boy asked me out to prom, I don’t know what to do.

[bloodandshavedhead]

I (f18) know this seems like a stupid post but I am stuck in between tearing a poor boy (which I'm not even attracted to)heart into smithereens or looking like a huge asshole with legs, neither I want but it might lead up to the latter. I don't know how to interact with men, especially men who have an annoying crush on me. I don't know how to stare at the guy in the eye and say "sorry your not my type plus you're kinda weird.." I know this is a suicide forum and not a thread for young girls to vent about issues in their lives meanwhile there's bigger issues, but I might perhaps actually jump off a bridge if I don't make a choice soon. It's not that I'm being forced to, it just feels like I. As a woman have some obligatory subconscious rule that's telling me to let him down and let him know. So what do I do?

 

[SASU-KE]

Please politely tell him that you're not interested,make up an excuse . It's better to give him to let him down easy now.

 

[bloodandshavedhead]

Please politely tell him that you're not interested,make up an excuse . It's better to give him to let him down easy now.

I'll try to, there's just this underlying fear of him getting pissed off or harming me (because he's like 105 pounds 5'10-6'1 meanwhile I'm 87 pounds and 5'4) I don't want him choking me to death but I know it's my irrational mind.

 

[CatLvr]

Does going to the prom mean you HAVE to have some kind of romantic intention toward this young man?? Can you guys go as friends and just have a good time??

I honestly don't know -- I wasn't allowed to date when I was living at home. On top of that my parents' chosen religion saw dancing as a sin so they'd have likely beaten me senseless if I'd dared even look like I wanted to attend prom.

But anyway ... Maybe talk to him and see?

 

[EmptyBottle]

I'll try to, there's just this underlying fear of him getting pissed off or harming me (because he's like 105 pounds 5'10-6'1 meanwhile I'm 87 pounds and 5'4) I don't want him choking me to death but I know it's my irrational mind.

One can probably tell the person with a group with one's trusted friends?

 

[woofwag]

I'll try to, there's just this underlying fear of him getting pissed off or harming me (because he's like 105 pounds 5'10-6'1 meanwhile I'm 87 pounds and 5'4) I don't want him choking me to death but I know it's my irrational mind.

Well, being realistic, you're more likely to have hime being aggressive later if you accept with the pretenses of liking him only to have to eventually reject him. I get it though; that is a scary thought and it does happen! That being said do you truly think he's the type of person to do that? And if you do, maybe you could talk to some of your friends for help. Either way it's best to just let him down as gently as possible now, and if things escalate later to alert higher-ups and people who could protect you.

 

[SASU-KE]

I'll try to, there's just this underlying fear of him getting pissed off or harming me (because he's like 105 pounds 5'10-6'1 meanwhile I'm 87 pounds and 5'4) I don't want him choking me to death but I know it's my irrational mind.

You know what's funny? I thought that you were some ex army veteran looking at your PFP and username,lol.That's irrational, too on my part.

But anyway, I can understand why you feel that way.Like woofdawg said it's much worse if you act interested and let him down later.

 

[pelicanportal]

you dont want to? say thanks but no, you can even fib a bit and say you had plans to go with a friend. start practicing saying no and standing up for yourself with this, it does get easier to do. his response isnt on you, just be polite.

 

[MapleS]

You can go for comprimise: "Thank you for the invitie. We can go as casual companions if you don't wanna go alone"
With weird people you can have valuable experiences. Like outside of your bubble you know

You don't say "no" but you say you are not interested in him. Maybe he just looks for somebody cause he does not wanna be alone

Oh and if he's weord you can thing of this as not "men manual" but "weird person manual"