Discussion What was yall experience with getting groomed ??

[c.c]

I was being sexually grommed for 4 years before getting molested for 2 months and during that time i was being grommed to crusing and talking with a very degrading language cuz my molester wanted me to talk like him ... and at the time i was a minor but still never gave in to any grooming after knowing the truth
And i would be lying if i said he failed to groom me with language and it's frustrating and triggering at the same time and though he did fail to groom me sexually..i still hear his voice all the time..

what was yall experience with grooming? How do you cope? Does it still effects yall and in what ways??

 

[Pale_Rider]

I have experience with this I dont talk about. I was maybe 7 the first time? Im sure the damage was devastating, but so has my whole life been.

 

[c.c]

I have experience with this I dont talk about. I was maybe 7 the first time? Im sure the damage was devastating, but so has my whole life been.

Hope you find peace, happiness and rest

 

[s00ngone]

I had a much milder, online experience with a 36-year-old guy when I was in high school, at around 16. My sophomore year. We met on Reddit when he responded to a post I made seeking friends and we "hit it off". All my life I'd heard I was mature for my age, which as a young person with not much agency you eat up. We would text daily. While I was at school, at home, about this and that. At some point there started to be a kind of romantic undercurrent that he was pushing, the classic "wouldn't it be great if we got together once you're 18?" line of reasoning that honestly felt like someone giving a shit about me at a time when I was very depressed, lonely, and chronically stressed. He would talk about "our sexuality" and send shirtless photos, but then walked it back later on when I confronted him saying "my intentions were never to take advantage of you." He also tried to make my best friend at the time and the school counselor they told seem like they were being hysterical women?

I sang this guy a cover of Billie Eilish's hostage for his 37th birthday. Just saying that makes me shudder to my core. I keep forgetting to remove his birthday from my calendar and every year I get whiplash when "Dave's birthday!" comes back up.

There was another person I met through an RP Discord server around the same time who was much more of a love-bombing friend type, but that's another story.

I'm sorry to you and everyone who've had your autonomy infringed upon so callously. You deserve(d) better.

 

[Pale_Rider]

Hope you find peace, happiness and rest

Likewise my friend.

 

[c.c]

I had a much milder, online experience with a 36-year-old guy when I was in high school, at around 16. My sophomore year. We met on Reddit when he responded to a post I made seeking friends and we "hit it off". All my life I'd heard I was mature for my age, which as a young person with not much agency you eat up. We would text daily. While I was at school, at home, about this and that. At some point there started to be a kind of romantic undercurrent that he was pushing, the classic "wouldn't it be great if we got together once you're 18?" line of reasoning that honestly felt like someone giving a shit about me at a time when I was very depressed, lonely, and chronically stressed. He would talk about "our sexuality" and send shirtless photos, but then walked it back later on when I confronted him saying "my intentions were never to take advantage of you." He also tried to make my best friend at the time and the school counselor they told seem like they were being hysterical women?

I sang this guy a cover of Billie Eilish's hostage for his 37th birthday. Just saying that makes me shudder to my core. I keep forgetting to remove his birthday from my calendar and every year I get whiplash when "Dave's birthday!" comes back up.

There was another person I met through an RP Discord server around the same time who was much more of a love-bombing friend type, but that's another story.

I'm sorry to you and everyone who've had your autonomy infringed upon so callously. You deserve(d) better.

I am sorry to hear that i can understand even my molester would be fully naked all the time when he video called me and would do some really gross stuff and force me to do it to and why i said "NO" or would cry for hours even once i had to carve out his initial on my thigh so that he won't force me but he did by saying" you cut yourself for pleasure and by cuting myself because of him i have hurted his feeling by scaring him so, he forced me again calling it punishment...and when people neglect me or leave me i hear him saying"noone will ever be there for you except me" and it's unbearable...i still have that initial carved on my leg..i carved it with a box cutter which wasn't sharp but at the time was so desperate i managed to make a deep cut..
Hope you recover soon♡♡