Venting Went through my ex’s phone

[tdos52]

just scrolled through texts between my ex bf ans his ex for 2 hours, it mainly hurt because i know he could never love me like that, im so obsessed and in love with him and i know the only person he'll ever really love is that ex, life genuinely feels pointless knowing i can't be with him, he was the one thing i had that made everything worth it and now i dont even have him i feel so awful

 

[Sasukecel]

just scrolled through texts between my ex bf ans his ex for 2 hours, it mainly hurt because i know he could never love me like that, im so obsessed and in love with him and i know the only person he'll ever really love is that ex, life genuinely feels pointless knowing i can't be with him, he was the one thing i had that made everything worth it and now i dont even have him i feel so awful

Brootal. I'm a male but I feel the same way. Wanting to be with someone, but they love someone else.

 

[Worndown]

Fixation is a problem difficult to correct.
If he is gone, you love the person he was in your life or the person you thought he was.
That person is gone. This leaves you in a pricarious position.
I cannot convince you to forget him and move on. You are not there yet. I hope that time comes but until then, you need the strength to live each day without him.
I know you can do it. I hope you realize that soon.

 

[tdos52]

Fixation is a problem difficult to correct.
If he is gone, you love the person he was in your life or the person you thought he was.
That person is gone. This leaves you in a pricarious position.
I cannot convince you to forget him and move on. You are not there yet. I hope that time comes but until then, you need the strength to live each day without him.
I know you can do it. I hope you realize that soon.

i dont know if i even want to move on anymore, hes next to me in bed rn and he let me go through his phone, when we first met he talked shit abt me a lot to his friends which hurt to read, and read messages of him talking to someone we both liked and she was so much nocer to him than to me, people in general just dont like me and hes the only one that makes me feel loved, hes all i have

 

[Username1359751]

How were you able to even do that...?

 

[ForgottenAgain]

i dont know if i even want to move on anymore, hes next to me in bed rn and he let me go through his phone, when we first met he talked shit abt me a lot to his friends which hurt to read, and read messages of him talking to someone we both liked and she was so much nocer to him than to me, people in general just dont like me and hes the only one that makes me feel loved, hes all i have

Hmmm...he is your ex, he has a girlfriend and yet he's in bed with you?

That makes no sense.

 

[tdos52]

How were you able to even do that...?

Hmmm...he is your ex, he has a girlfriend and yet he's in bed with you?

That makes no sense.

we live together, im still super in love with him but he doesn't want to be in a relationship, we still have sex and sleep together most nights

 

[Username1359751]

we live together, im still super in love with him but he doesn't want to be in a relationship, we still have sex and sleep together most nights

Well that sounds really healthy and not at all likely to end in tragedy....

 

[CatLvr]

we live together, im still super in love with him but he doesn't want to be in a relationship, we still have sex and sleep together most nights

This is not good for your mental health. You need to set some boundaries. For yourself and for your abuser. Yes, he IS abusing you.

 

[tdos52]

This is not good for your mental health. You need to set some boundaries. For yourself and for your abuser. Yes, he IS abusing you.

he is not abusing me, he's a good person genuinely, i am mentally unstable and am hurting him every day im alive

Well that sounds really healthy and not at all likely to end in tragedy....

its not healthy and im not happy with it but id rather have him than not have him, also we live together right now and moving out isn't an option

 

[ForgottenAgain]

we live together, im still super in love with him but he doesn't want to be in a relationship, we still have sex and sleep together most nights

so he has a girlfriend and you're his mistress. Are you okay with that? He is an awful person, a cheater, and now you're also hurting that other woman because you know he has a girlfriend and yet you accept going to bed with him.

Whatever rose tinted glasses you're using, you need to take them off, get off that bed and rethink about his and your actions.

No, he is not a good person, and currently you're not being either since you're knowingly being a part of an affair.

 

[tdos52]

so he has a girlfriend and you're his mistress. Are you okay with that? He is an awful person, a cheater, and now you're also hurting that other woman because you know he has a girlfriend and yet you accept going to bed with him.

Whatever rose tinted glasses you're using, you need to take them off, get off that bed and rethink about his and your actions.

No, he is not a good person, and currently you're not being either since you're knowingly being a part of an affair.

i am a gay man first off, everyone involved romantically is a man, he's not seeing anyone right now were both technically single and im the only person he's sexually active with. i dont know how you got the idea he had a partner but he doesn't.

he's a good person and i only want the best for him