Wat does actual romantic love feel like?

[broth0100]

My feelings have been fluctuating so much recently and its stressing me out. For ppl who've been in long term relationships n have known for a fact tht they were in love wat did it feel like? Did u ever doubt it?

 

[derpyderpins]

My feelings have been fluctuating so much recently and its stressing me out. For ppl who've been in long term relationships n have known for a fact tht they were in love wat did it feel like?

It's a sense of comfort when you're in their presence, like "okay, now everything is as it should be." It's warm in your heart, I guess.

Different than having a crush. Crushing on someone or having limerance can be a way stronger feeling, but after experiencing actual love you realize that feeling is simply dangerous, and not as good long term.

Did u ever doubt it?

Loving someone and being in love is way more of a choice than people think. You chose to love them every day, so there's no chance of "doubt". "Soulmates" aren't a thing. You're building something with the other person and adding to it every day.

 

[Meteora]

Hm. I might be the wrong person to answer this "correctly". I have been in many relationships, though, just that the never lasted longer than 3.5 years.
For me love is if you care for the wellbeing of your partner, if you want to support him, want him to achieve his dreams and develop as a person(ality).
There's this very dull expression of helping the other to become the "best version of himself". As stupid as it sounds, there is some truth to it in my opinion.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I wouldn't know. I'm cursed to only ever feel limerence for someone.

 

[broth0100]

It's a sense of comfort when you're in their presence, like "okay, now everything is as it should be." It's warm in your heart, I guess.

Different than having a crush. Crushing on someone or having limerance can be a way stronger feeling, but after experiencing actual love you realize that feeling is simply dangerous, and not as good long term.



Loving someone and being in love is way more of a choice than people think. You chose to love them every day, so there's no chance of "doubt". "Soulmates" aren't a thing. You're building something with the other person and adding to it every day.

Thank u sm, i think this is exactly wat i need to remember. My relationship is rlly young too, i think i just need to focus on enjoying it n giving it a chance..thank u for ur response <3

Hm. I might be the wrong person to answer this "correctly". I have been in many relationships, though, just that the never lasted longer than 3.5 years.
For me love is if you care for the wellbeing of your partner, if you want to support him, want him to achieve his dreams and develop as a person(ality).
There's this very dull expression of helping the other to become the "best version of himself". As stupid as it sounds, there is some truth to it in my opinion.

I see, thank u for ur response :)

 

[jujujr]

It felt like you could tell them anything at all, be who you really are for once, they were an actual part of you. I fear that I will never truly feel like that again, I'm too scared of getting hurt/used again, I'm even talking to someone at the moment and they really are an amazing person who has been so supportive but I will never really believe it or feel it truly when she says "I love you"

 

[1MiserableGuy]

Romance and love are not the same shit. Romance is a fleeting emotional state that largelt just exists at the onset of courting and is usually done by year two of marriage. Love is voluntary selfless acts. People abound who have one but not the other.

 

[sserafim]

I have no idea. If someone experiences it, please let me know. I want to know what it feels like

Romance and love are not the same shit. Romance is a fleeting emotional state that largelt just exists at the onset of courting and is usually done by year two of marriage. Love is voluntary selfless acts. People abound who have one but not the other.

I guess your love language is acts of service then

 

[1MiserableGuy]

I have no idea. If someone experiences it, please let me know. I want to know what it feels like

I guess your love language is acts of service then

Marriage book for halfway committed normies

 

[sserafim]

Marriage book for halfway committed normies

Wdym

 

[1MiserableGuy]

Wdym

Exactly what I said

 

[Aloneandinpain]

If I knew then I wouldn't be on this site.