Venting They don't know what loneliness really is

[sonnyw]

People often don't understand what true loneliness is. This isn't to say that my loneliness matters more than anyone else's, but I often see people complaining about being lonely because, for example, they can't go to a party with friends on a Saturday night.

Others feel lonely even though they have a supportive family, friends, and a loving partner. I saw this frequently during the lockdown in the pandemic. Many people said they were lonely because they couldn't leave their homes, yet they still had people who cared about them, whom they could videocall, and they knew that they would be able to hang out together again once the lockdown ended.

My situation is nothing like that. When I say I am lonely, I truly mean it. I have NOBODY. My family hates me, I have zero friends, and I've never been in a relationship.

I feel like people out there don't even realize that people like us exist. They don't know what it's like to truly struggle every day. So, when you tell them you're lonely, they will offer unhelpful advice like, "it's best to be alone," or tell you that you should "focus on yourself" rather than seeking friendships or relationships.They simply don't understand what true loneliness really is.

 

[Macedonian1987]

My family dislikes me too, I have zero friends too, but I have been in just a single relationship with a sadistic girl who enjoyed seeing me suffer. She never loved me. That's why I decided I will end it once and for all. I just cannot live like that. As this was not enough, I have chronic pain on top of it all. I plan on drinking SN in the summer of 2026.

 

[sonnyw]

My family dislikes me too, I have zero friends too, but I have been in just a single relationship with a sadistic girl who enjoyed seeing me suffer. She never loved me. That's why I decided I will end it once and for all. I just cannot live like that. As this was not enough, I have chronic pain on top of it all. I plan on drinking SN in the summer of 2026.

I'm sorry about it... I hope things can get better for you

 

[Macedonian1987]

I'm sorry about it... I hope things can get better for you

Thank you, but sadly things are getting worse and worse for me with each passing year.

 

[overthehill]

I feel you. My entire social network is my mother, sometimes I resent her for that because she's also the only reason I can't kill myself and just be free. Explaining other people, especially women, what true loneliness is like is a waste of time. Only other outcasts truly understand, and we all understand that we're doomed.

Ironic, we can't befriend the only people who get us.

 

[evel¡n]

Finally sb i can relate to. Obviously i m not happy for your pain but it feels good to know i m not alone in this. It s so tiring seeing people with such full lives take everything for granted and so carelessly call themselves lonely when they have no idea what that s like, they don t know the weight this word carries. You worded that perfectly.

 

[nocatwaslost]

It is indeed worded perfectly and I can relate to this very much. As for me, I have given up on telling people about it and hoping they understand what I really feel like. I mean for them, the deepest low could almost be a high for us. They deem and view it as their lowest point but don't know that the hole could be much deeper, much colder, much darker and a lot more harder to get out.