The "talk to somebody" paradox

[DAMN.]

Talking to someone has never helped me before, probably because there are only two options of people to talk to:

1) The Professional

Supposed to be trained to deal with and help people with mental health issues. However, they will call the cops on you and lock you in a hospital if you tell them how you really feel. Also not your friend, and realistically would not care if you did die.

2) Friends / Family

Hopefully less likely to send you to a psych ward, but pretty useless. Saying you're suicidal might scare them or make them uncomfortable, possibly making the situation worse for yourself. Supportive people might have some good insight though like, "Have you tried to be happy instead?", "Maybe you should pray more", or "You should see a professional".

Neither are effective at solving problems like these. I get that some people really do want to help, but I don't think it's possible to help people like me the way things are right now.

Basically, if you talk to someone who can help, they don't care enough to. Unfortunately the people who do care, don't know how to, or can't help.

 

[novem]

it depends on your situation.
it depends on who you talk to — some people cannot handle their own problems and are not good listeners.
most of the times it all comes down to resources and nobody can provide it for you.
i remember there was some kind of "inspiration porn" posted somewhere but they did not mention that person had people to support them (family or finances).

 

[SantaTeresa]

The ultimate stage of this paradox is when you grow confidence to talk to somebody only to be answered: "have you talked to somebody?".

If someone told you this, understand that this person doesn't want any good to you, they're running away, they don't want to be involved with you, they open an exit with this meaningless phrase so they can room elsewhere without being preoccupied by someone else's emotions, while faking concern in front of them.

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

Great post. This is exactly my experience, and I've only recently learned this the hard way. I don't see a therapist anymore as I found them useless and ill-equipped to help me, and opening up to family has just made them frustrated and worried. This worry has not manifested as warmth and caring, but rather in harsh words and stern talking-tos, which I'm not interested in hearing.

Going to make more concerted efforts to just keep everything to myself going forward.

 

[Marine]

Finding real humans, as I call them, capable of real care, understanding and support is abnormally excruciatingly difficult indeed...

 

[odradek]

I saw an interesting thread about this.

https://sanctioned-suicide.net/thre...y-comforting-article-in-slate-magazine.92106/

It is not possible with the stigma attached to suicide to feel comfortable enough to be open honestly with most people I feel. Societies priorities are grossly misbalanced.