I believe in dr. Mark Pitstick philosophy about what happens in the afterlife when somebody ends his life. I copied what he said. It's worth the read I assure you if you are worried about the afterlife.
What you must know when a loved one's body dies by suicide . . .
1. Suicide is NOT an unforgiveable sin. In the
New Testament, 'blasphemy against the Spirit' is described as being unforgivable. Pretty vague for such a monstrous claim, right?
This belief from the Middle Ages is a perfect control device since people projected that whatever they were doing was IT. But think about it. What good earthly parent would never forgive their child, no matter what the transgression? Wouldn't you expect the Power and Intelligence that created and sustains the cosmos to be at least that loving?
To understand more about current understandings of Source, see article #13
What Is G.O.D. Really Like? To me, saying the Divine is not forgiving about anything is blasphemous.
I and eleven great minds about consciousness topics – Raymond Moody, Caroline Myss, Anita Moorjani, Gary Schwartz, and others – discuss contemporary understandings about this and other big questions about life in
The Eleven Questions.
2. You will see her again. Again, she didn't destroy her entire self, just the earthly part that housed her spirit / consciousness for a brief while. It's impossible to kill your essence so you'll see her again. A renewal of your relationship may happen when you pass on or it could happen today. Over 75 million Americans have experienced an
After-Death Communication with loved ones whose bodies died so stay alert for subtle signs or unusual events.
Here's one way for this information to sink in more deeply . . . imagine that your dearest loved one was in a horrible auto accident. You arrived on the scene to find the car caved in and totaled. You couldn't imagine that he survived, but, somehow, he did.
Consider how happy you would feel to learn that he was still alive.
That is the same reaction
you can now choose to have about a dear one who ended his earthly experience. Only the bodily vehicle that briefly housed his spirit was destroyed.
Over 99.9% of who and what he is continues to be is still very much alive and well – much like the fellow who survived the totaled car. Perhaps you can focus on that great news to heal more quickly and transform to helping others.
3. He won't receive external judgement or punishment. Reports from multiple sources maintain there is
no external judgment from angels, guides, master teachers, or whatever terms you prefer for evolved energies. Likewise, the Light / Source does not sentence or punish anyone for anything –
even suicide.
However, the person who passed on that way –
depending on the circumstances – may not initially accept his actions and forgive himself. That can create the need for temporary sleep, rehabilitation, and counseling as the person arriving to the next stage of life adapts to what happened and how he can do better the next time. This view is perhaps best understood by learning more about the life review portion of near-death experiences. See article #45:
The Life Review: What Would Yours Feel Today?
What do I mean by 'depending on the circumstances'? Let's consider two ends of the spectrum although each person and situation is unique. (To be clear, I am not judging or simplifying the pain, lack of clarity, and/or imbalance a person endures before choosing suicide.) Consider, for example, the difference between:
(a.) a very elderly, ill, and/or incapacitated person who chooses euthanasia
(b.) a teenager who impulsively chooses suicide after a first love break-up
Some clinical information about how these individuals feel afterwards comes from Life Between Lives and evidential mediums sessions. Those in group (a.) usually do not feel remorse about their decision, nor do they need rest and rehab because of the way they passed. Those in group (b.) sometimes report feeling regret that they didn't try harder or wait to see if time healed their suffering. Because of the circumstances before and during their bodily death, those in group (b.) may initially need more rest and counsel.
In the cosmic scheme of things, however, both are just another experience – much like falling down, or not, when first learning to walk.
Judgment, condemnation, and punishment are earthly traits that uninformed humans have inaccurately attributed to the Creator and Sustainer of all life. These people – some of them supposed religious teachers who profited from spreading fear instead of love and compassion – made God in their image.
Higher energy beings of all types – whether angels or humans – understand the pain, lack of clarity, and / or imbalance your loved one must have felt to destroy his physical body. Those in nonearthly realms react to him with love, healing, guidance, and assistance. Those on earth who are awakened to the greater reality can do the same.
4. She was lovingly tended to after her death. Life Source knows how difficult an earthly incarnation was for your dear one who chose suicide. She was lovingly and respectfully cared for by angels and guides in an environment characterized by peace, understanding, patience, and compassion. Your dear one was also likely nurtured and comforted by puppies, kittens, fawns, and other manifestations of unconditional love. It was a perfect way for her to start the process of forgiving herself – if that was needed – and reentering the stream of life.
5. He didn't want to hurt you or anyone. Have you ever said or done something you regretted later? Of course, we all have. The same thing is true with your loved one who terminated his physical body. He didn't mean to devastate you. He did the best he could given his physical and/or mental state at the time. Suicide notes often contain a variation of the following sentence: "I'm sorry. I just couldn't handle it anymore."
If you could hear him right now, he would apologize and make it clear that he never wanted to hurt you or anyone else. He would let you know that he is still very much alive. Consider, too, the possibility that the potential for suicide may have been designed to help others (see article #25
Did My Soul REALLY Plan All This?). Whatever the case, what happened can be an opportunity for you and he to heal, learn, grow, and serve others now and in the future.
6. She was likely imbalanced, in severe pain, and/or ready to move on. I've mentioned this before but it's so important to remember. In the 21st century, there are numerous ways the brain can become imbalanced. In my clinical experience – and that of other holistic / integrative physicians – these may include:
excess chemicals and heavy metals; prescription and recreational drugs; vaccines; nutrient deficient food; impure water; overstimulation by sugar; sugar substitutes and other chemicals in food; overuse of video games and other mentally stimulating computer exposure; bullying; feeling alienated; depression and anxiety due to above factors; and more.
In addition, there are the chronic stresses and difficulties that go with living on this planet at this time. It's a lot to bear and some people just can't continue on. We who are informed and balanced can address the core problems so others don't suffer too. For more on this vital topic, see my book
Radiant Wellness and
Greater Reality Living.
7. Do not worry about his soul. From an earthly perspective, it may appear horribly tragic and worrisome that he killed his physical body. From a broader perspective, however, suicide is a way for a soul to return Home. His soul will be just fine.
Good evidence, for example, from Michael Newton PhD and Joseph Gallenberger PhD, indicates that those who end their earthly experience by suicide may need to rest and heal for some time after physical death. But you can be assured that he will be lovingly attended to like the integral, eternal, infinite, and beloved part of Life that he is.
8. Do not hold yourself accountable. It's common to feel responsible or guilty when a loved one passes on by suicide. Some people torture themselves with thoughts of, "If only I had done this" or "If only I hadn't said that." If you could hear your departed loved one clearly, she would lovingly urge you to stop all that. Obsessing about what you should have, would have, or could have done isn't productive here or in the hereafter.
In the 'Suicide' chapter of the book '
Your Soul's Gift' by Robert Schwartz, an important distinction is made between efforts to prevent suicide by:
a. the person considering suicide who has to be open to staying on earth
b.
outside forces including you, family, friends, angels, and other highly evolved helpers
Those listed under (b) can't help if the suicidal person isn't open to that. In Schwartz's book, it was emphasized that
all suicides preventable by outside sources are prevented. I hope this helps you release guilt, anger, and other lower-energy emotions that are very common when a loved one passes on by suicide.
9. Don't be ashamed. Some family or friends may judge or shun you. It's a great way to erase insensitive and ignorant people from your relationship list. On the other hand, they may just be uncomfortable and not know what to say. Showing them this article is a start. It's past time to drop the stigma associated with suicide. It is time to remember that people are, at their core, deathless beings who are doing the best they can given their current level of awareness, balance, and resources.
10. You can learn and grow from this experience. There are usually – or, perhaps, always – silver linings to life's clouds. I encourage you to look for the blessings to this one. Using awareness enhancing practices such as regular meditation, prayer, and quiet time in nature can help you find ways to honor the bodily death of your loved one. You can transform your pain and grief into a spiritually transformative experience and loving service to others. By taking these high roads, you also create more meaning to her life and death.
