Discussion SaSu “unsent messages” (what is something you want to tell someone but aren’t able to?)

[encore]

i'm curious about things you guys would tell to a person in your life (or multiple people) but for whatever reason have no ability to do so. it could be any reason, being estranged, death, or maybe you and this person don't even know each other.

personally, i wish i could talk to my ex boyfriend again and tell him how much i still love him and miss him and how sorry i am for mistakes i made. but i can't say that because he won't listen to me.

i really like the idea behind the unsent project. where you simply put their name and something you wish this person could know. so if you feel like it, feel free to format it in a similar way: "to: (the person) (your message)"

 

[SecretDissociation]

I would tell my dead friend to come hangout with me that one day I didn't. I'd tell her that I really like you and that you are a great person and great friend. And also I wish I could rock short silky hair like her. and I wish I could have told her that I was transferring to her course and that she would get sick of me being with her all the time

 

[Gangrel]

I wish i could talk to Jack again, i miss you my scottish bro. I love you man. Whatever you are.

 

[derpyderpins]

There are a lot, lol. I 'lol' at myself because these days I want to spill my heart to everyone.

I like how I treat my friends and other people now. I don't mind being sappy and saying how much I care. I'm not self-concious in that regard or thinking it makes me weak. I used to, though, so I wish I could go back to a lot of friends and tell them that even though we don't talk anymore, they are an important piece of who I eventually grew into being and I have nothing but love for them. Especially if we had arguments. I was a hot head for a while, for reasons I now understand better. It doesn't mean I was always at fault, but I'm sure I escalated things sometimes.

On the topic of ex's, I do wish I could ensure my long-term ex knows I wish her the best. I had to cut off contact because I didn't feel it was healthy for us, but I do hope she's happy as possible for her.

I had a friend die last year. I don't want to tell him anything in particular, I want to listen to him and hear him talk.

My grandfather, especially with the Master's having just happened: I want him to know I got married to that girl he met before he passed, and that she's incredible. That would be way more important to him than anything with my career or other silly stuff.

I would tell my dead friend to come hangout with me that one day I didn't. I'd tell her that I really like you and that you are a great person and great friend. And also I wish I could rock short silky hair like her. and I wish I could have told her that I was transferring to her course and that she would get sick of me being with her all the time

I'm so sorry you lost someone so good :(

 

[encore]

There are a lot, lol. I 'lol' at myself because these days I want to spill my heart to everyone.

I like how I treat my friends and other people now. I don't mind being sappy and saying how much I care. I'm not self-concious in that regard or thinking it makes me weak. I used to, though, so I wish I could go back to a lot of friends and tell them that even though we don't talk anymore, they are an important piece of who I eventually grew into being and I have nothing but love for them. Especially if we had arguments. I was a hot head for a while, for reasons I now understand better. It doesn't mean I was always at fault, but I'm sure I escalated things sometimes.

On the topic of ex's, I do wish I could ensure my long-term ex knows I wish her the best. I had to cut off contact because I didn't feel it was healthy for us, but I do hope she's happy as possible for her.

I had a friend die last year. I don't want to tell him anything in particular, I want to listen to him and hear him talk.

My grandfather, especially with the Master's having just happened: I want him to know I got married to that girl he met before he passed, and that she's incredible. That would be way more important to him than anything with my career or other silly stuff.


I'm so sorry you lost someone so good :(

the world needs more people like you. it's so important to show our sensitive side sometimes and not shy away from being emotional. i'm sure your friends feel lucky to have you in their lives!

 

[getoutgirl]

I would like to tell my friends that I still care deeply about them and their lives, and that the reason I don't respond to their texts and calls and don't show my face around for months is not that I've stopped caring. It's just that I've tried (painfully) to become as estranged as posible, to make them used to it, so that when I do disappear it won't hit as hard or, maybe, they will have forgotten about me by then. But I do care and I feel like shit for not being able to be there for them.

 

[ConfusedClouds]

I wish I could check in with some friends from past lives I have isolated/ghosted from. Check they're ok without having to disclose anything about me. I can't promise being around or helpful ever in the future so can't remake that contact. Hopefully after 2y they have mostly moved on now, but I get the occasional email 'where are you these days, be nice to catch up'. But I just can't. What spooked me to run was their overwhelming need to try and offer help (in the totally unhelpful 'talk to someone' 'somethings not right' OR offering their ears/time/space when they have full on jobs/kids/lives to juggle and I have no words and mumbling about non-issues I can't articulate).

Basically I'd love to know some of them are doing ok and wish I could support them but from a safe distance where I am not expected to be anywhere or do anything or sucked into overwhelming 'care'.

Ok that sounds so selfish and ridiculous trying to explain my logic/feelings. So up myself. Entitled.

 

[other-ghost]

There are things i wish i could tell my friends. How their constant care turned this short life of mine into something that mattered. I hope when they think of me, they see the girl who tried to be silly and supportive instead of someone distant that never tells them anything. I wished i could be honest with them.

And for her… (god, i swear she's on this site somewhere). I would REALLY like her to know I loved her—like, really loved her. Not as some joke to laugh off, not as something casual. I was just too scared to say it right. I hope she realizes she deserves real love, no matter what's going on in her life. And shit, i wished our life wasn't this messed up hahah. What a silly love life

 

[updog]

I don't have a serious answer like others. I would tell my friends that I'm furry (I know. Hard to tell with my pfp), but they would probably make fun of me

 

[lamy's sacred sleep]

to sfx
you were my reason to live for 2 years. Thank you. You've been nothing but kind the whole time we've known eachother.

 

[ilvgore]

that im so sorry for what i have done to him, and that i wish it could have been different, maybe in another life
i feel something.. but i don't know what it is
let's be friends e, without you i feel like an alien
why did u choose here and not me? what does she have i don't?
please tell me i can't die without an answer
im sorry for what i have done, those feelings aren't mine.. it hurts so much

 

[Haematemesis]

there was a girl in middle school who was apparently trying to talk to me either platonically or otherwise but i was a little dumb teenager so i would literally run away from her
I'd like to apologize to her

 

[mossrabbit]

I lost my mom in 2022. I was living across the country, and was subject to travel restrictions for work due to the pandemic. My sister was living in the same complex as her, just two doors down. Apparently my mom had been declining for a long time. Showing signs of demensia and agoraphobia. Slowly her apartment turned to squalor as her body shut down around her. So weak she couldn't even carry her groceries from her front step to her fridge

She would beg my sister for help for weeks at a time. Eventually my sister broke down and told me the situation was compounding past what she could handle. I rushed to make preparations to help, but the night before I hopped on the plane, she died.

When I finally saw the state of her apartment, I was in disbelief. There were so many flies it made the exorcist look like a bug's life. There was a large stain where she had laid on the floor for an indeterminate amount of time. The stench was so intense, when I first opened her door, the neighbor's dog a little ways down started retching with me on the front stoop. My sister blocked an autopsy. I will never know what truly happened to her, or how long she had laid there.

I wish I could tell my family outside of my sister but part of me just can't cope with the immense weight of what I saw. I know deep down my sister was in an impossible situation, part of me just can't bring myself to throw her under the bus like that.

 

[CatLvr]

Goodness. My reaction to this post is the exact opposite of what has been posted so far. I would ask anyone who ever said they "loved me" why they thought that was a pass to use and abuse me? What was it about me that made you think that was okay? That I would never grow tired of the abuse and leave? It's not like I didn't give you chance after chance after chance to treat me like I treated you. But when I FINALLY stepped up and said "this isn't fair" YOU were offended?? Please.

I will die alone. Not how I saw my life playing out but I think that happens to a lot of empaths. They give and give and give ... And then they give some more. So much so that there is nothing left for themselves. They become a hollow shell of the person they were -- simply because the world takes and NEVER gives back.

****, we could have been perfect with each other. But I understand -- you still had a lot of growing up to do.

*****, what in the fuck made you think I was someone you could walk all over and there not be consequences?? I am not a goddamn Stepford Wife. Fuck you.

And to my son, *******, baby you are my life. I would die for you. Living for you is the hardest thing I have ever done, but here we are. I love you more than life itself, and for as long as it takes, I will stay here for you. I love you, baby. Never forget that.

 

[JesiBel]

To: sis
I adore you, you were always my best friend. I'm grateful to have been able to share my life with you. You are brave and strong, I admire you very much.

(I wish I had the courage to express my feelings openly)