Help Need advice on how to mentality prepare and distract other people from my upcoming death.

[Manic Panic]

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[Ashes of a Dreamer]

I only can imagine these options: just CTB without any kind of sign, so it'll be abrupt and sudden; giving subtle hints of what you're gonna do - talking about suicidal people, the hopelessness for the future, how life is cruel and nonsense for some - so they'll realize somehow you're not fine; and, the final stage, openly saying you're preparing to die, what may cause panic and intervention.

P.S : I really wish humankind achieves a point where discussions about suicide can be honest and boundless, not trying to convince the other of how wrong and ill they are for desiring death.

 

[ForeverCaHa]

I would personally disagree with the above comment. When my partner took his own life, it was very sudden. It took everyone completely off guard. This opens the door to asking why we never noticed the signs, why he didn't feel comfortable talking to anyone, what was going through his head, why no one could help him and etc. The idea that it was a decision made on impulse keeps me up at night, and I will take that guilt/regret to my grave.

The fact of the matter is that there is no way to prepare people for it. If you have close friends and/or family, it will be devastating. There's no avoiding that.

 

[Ashes of a Dreamer]

I would personally disagree with the above comment. When my partner took his own life, it was very sudden. It took everyone completely off guard. This opens the door to asking why we never noticed the signs, why he didn't feel comfortable talking to anyone, what was going through his head, why no one could help him and etc. The idea that it was a decision made on impulse keeps me up at night, and I will take that guilt/regret to my grave.

The fact of the matter is that there is no way to prepare people for it. If you have close friends and/or family, it will be devastating. There's no avoiding that.

I understand that suicide can devastate people, mainly when it's abrupt. Guilty may comes in and the grief must be horrible.

On the other hand, I don't think that a person must continue living just to satisfy others, avoiding them from pain when the person is completelly fucked up.

Hence, may creating space for this topic emerges is a step, and not forcing anyone to continue living against their will is another.

In the end, there isn't an easy solution: if you're living a long-term suffering, you have to decide whether you continue this miserable journey for others sake or put an end on it, finding some relieve, in spite of the hurt you may cause.

 

[hereornot]

I vote for the abrupt and sudden.
Any signal given can bring bad consequences, unless you just want to draw attention.
Externally everything is fine with a smile on my face, at least with me.