Making friends as a sex repulsed anti sex woman

[hellonearth144]

With a phobia of certain sex acts 99% of other women perform is so hard bc I CANT be friends with women who have sex or engage in relationships with men. We are on different state and level of consciousness. Its so hard and I feel lonely, I had a friend who was like-minded but she ghosted me without a word. I told her everything and she was also sex repulsed.
I want to only make friends with women like me but they are so rare.
I just want a female soulmate so bad. But I won't get along with normies. It's making me suicidal bc I'm just on another scale of difference

 

[martyrdom]

Look for radical feminist, female separatist & 4B women. There's large communities of them

 

[hellonearth144]

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Look for radical feminist, female separatist & 4B women. There's large communities of them

Im banned from their spaces. And they don't allow friend finder posts or don't allow any post where I ask how to make like-minded friends. They only talk about men endlessly

 

[anonymousperson]

Join some asexual groups! I also am repulsed by sex. My town has asexual local groups on both facebook and meetup websites. You may meet some friends if you go.

 

[hellonearth144]

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Im banned from their spaces. And they don't allow friend finder posts or don't allow any post where I ask how to make like-minded friends. They only talk about men endlessly

I meet my friend who ghosted me in a similar community and I keep trying but failing to meet more.

 

[hellonearth144]

Join some asexual groups! I also am repulsed by sex. My town has asexual local groups on both facebook and meetup websites. You may meet some friends if you go.

I feel like /im scared they still won't accept me bc I'm a blackpilled woman and they tend to be older while I'm looking for gen z and silly people young at heart and not normies.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Do you want to be able to discuss your disgust of sex acts with them or, are you happy to just talk about other interests? Maybe you could look to discuss interests with people but make it clear from the start, you aren't comfortable talking about sexuality.

It might be tricky to find others with exactly the same views you hold but, it may be possible to just avoid certain subjects with them.

 

[ih34rty0u]

i kinda get how you feel, im a lesbian and a radical/socialist feminist and im honestly just so tired that lots of women only talk about men/sexual relationships :((

 

[Dejected 55]

I'm not asexual, but I understand where you are coming from. I have very little experience with women, and no relationship experience at all. I really wish I had a relationship, though... which is different from your situation.

However, where I share your experience is with other people... In the workplace or social outings, most people talk about their dating their families, kids, partners, whatever... doesn't matter if they don't get explicit... I have nothing to add to those conversations and I don't really want to be around them when they are happening.

I used to have people invite me to their house for Thanksgiving, and I had to try and explain how me being alone and depressed isn't at all remedied by going to someone else's home and being around them and their family... immersing myself in other people's happiness (or at least perceived so) is a horrible reminder of all that I don't have.

Being friends with someone who is married or has a partner... just doesn't work for me. Not enough in common for the basis of a friendship and nothing but misery abounding around me and all I want to do is run away.

So, while we are different... I'm closer to where you are than where most everyone else is... and it absolutely is difficult, near impossible from my perspective, to find like-minded people. I wish I had a better answer than to just echo that I understand and empathize.

 

[cemeteryismyhome]

... I used to have people invite me to their house for Thanksgiving, and I had to try and explain how me being alone and depressed isn't at all remedied by going to someone else's home and being around them and their family... immersing myself in other people's happiness (or at least perceived so) is a horrible reminder of all that I don't have. ...

Agreed. They mean well, but it's kind of ridiculous.

 

[DeathSweetDeath]

With a phobia of certain sex acts 99% of other women perform is so hard bc I CANT be friends with women who have sex or engage in relationships with men. We are on different state and level of consciousness.

I don't mean to offend, but this sounds like OCD/moral OCD or something to me. I'm curious to know what you think most female friendships are based on. Sex is not a subject that I've discussed with the women I was closest to throughout my life. There are just so many other interesting things to talk about. Also, does this mean you "can't" have relationships with any female relatives? You just reject & avoid your mother, grandmother, female siblings, cousins, nieces, etc, because they're not sex repulsed?

 

[DeathSweetDeath]

Sorry, but wouldn't this also rule out friendships with all men, unless they're asexual (or perhaps gay) since they also likely partake or have taken part in such activities? Does this mean you refuse to have any kind of relationship with your father, grandfather, uncles, cousins, brothers, nephews, or is it only women, in your view, who are sullied and brought down to a lower level of consciousness by engaging in sexual intimacy?

 

[hellonearth144]

Sorry, but wouldn't this also rule out friendships with all men, unless they're asexual (or perhaps gay) since they also likely partake or have taken part in such activities? Does this mean you refuse to have any kind of relationship with your father, grandfather, uncles, cousins, brothers, nephews, or is it only women, in your view, who are sullied and brought down to a lower level of consciousness by engaging in sexual intimacy?

I have relationship with family because they are modest, and outside family I won't stand any women who suck dick.

 

[DeathSweetDeath]

I have relationship with family because they are modest, and outside family I won't stand any women who suck dick.

Ah! The road ahead will be lonely unless you can get this phobia under control, and unless you can somehow come to understand what friendship is (and what it isn't). I wish you luck .

 

[hellonearth144]

Ah! The road ahead will be lonely unless you can get this phobia under control, and unless you can somehow come to understand what friendship is (and what it isn't). I wish you luck .

Cope

 

[WhatCouldHaveBeen32]

I don't want friends and don't really care about talking blackpill but there was this one user at some point a month or two ago who sounded really similar to you but I searched for their name now and they seem to have deleted their account. I'm sorry:(
Nvm, I think you're that person. Sorry:(

 

[Alpacachino]

I don't want friends and don't really care about talking blackpill but there was this one user at some point a month or two ago who sounded really similar to you but I searched for their name now and they seem to have deleted their account. I'm sorry:(
Nvm, I think you're that person. Sorry:(

I know who you're talking about and I'm sure this is the same person.

Spoiler

I won't make a stink about it, though .

 

[metfan647]

Cope

He's right, darling.

 

[WhatCouldHaveBeen32]

I know who you're talking about and I'm sure this is the same person.

okay I'm not gonna gossip or something but I've seen them on other places too which I won't name, places I also frequent and even somewhat agree with, SOME OF THEM I FULLY AGREE WITH, just want to point it out here. Idk, it's complicated, all of us need help.

I truly wish that I could actually do something tbh but I can't, I'm just like the other people that I hate, I pretend I hold some sort of a moral high ground but in reality I'm not worth shit either, huh.

 

[RosebyAnyName]

You sound a lot like me. My repulsion for sex and men was because of trauma, both in real life and because of unrestricted internet access.

I am completely blackpilled on men. Maybe it's internalized misogyny, but I truly don't understand how women find men attractive. Statistically, men are the single biggest danger in a woman's life and women are the most likely to be murdered or abused by an intimate (male) partner. *Maybe* there was a case to be made about how some men were ok back before the internet, but now with unrestricted and unlimited violent porn access men as a whole have become a lost cause.

I used to hang around radfem spaces, and honestly I miss them but they were also full of their own drama. I hate to say it but I feel like women's-only spaces are often really catty and cliquey. Doesn't help that I'm a lesbian too, and I'm slowly coming to realize that I'm forced to bear the stereotype of being a sexual predator because I share my attraction to women with straight / bisexual men.

My only solace has been to stay away from men and misogynistic content, too bad it's literally everywhere and impossible to avoid: every TV show, movie, book, advertisement, and website, and don't even think of looking at any form of media before the 1950s. One of the worst parts of misogynistic trauma is how isolating it is in the aftermath.

 

[WhatCouldHaveBeen32]

You sound a lot like me. My repulsion for sex and men was because of trauma, both in real life and because of unrestricted internet access.

I am completely blackpilled on men. Maybe it's internalized misogyny, but I truly don't understand how women find men attractive. Statistically, men are the single biggest danger in a woman's life and women are the most likely to be murdered or abused by an intimate (male) partner. *Maybe* there was a case to be made about how some men were ok back before the internet, but now with unrestricted and unlimited violent porn access men as a whole have become a lost cause.

I used to hang around radfem spaces, and honestly I miss them but they were also full of their own drama. I hate to say it but I feel like women's-only spaces are often really catty and cliquey. Doesn't help that I'm a lesbian too, and I'm slowly coming to realize that I'm forced to bear the stereotype of being a sexual predator because I share my attraction to women with straight / bisexual men.

My only solace has been to stay away from men and misogynistic content, too bad it's literally everywhere and impossible to avoid: every TV show, movie, book, advertisement, and website, and don't even think of looking at any form of media before the 1950s. One of the worst parts of misogynistic trauma is how isolating it is in the aftermath.

Do you like games? I can give some recommendations for single player.

I personally know like 2 okay people that happen to be men. Can't argue with that.

I don't think you're a sexual predator for having sexual attraction, where did that notion come from?

See, this is the problem with anti movements, they dehumanize you too...You just seem like a traumatized person to me, just like I am.

Self loathing to this extent is just UNFAIR to you, it's literally UNFAIR.

Wanna know who deserves loathing? the evil people out there.

You need to find empathy for yourself. I can tell you an example from my life if you want, at a time where I somehow still had empathy despite what had been done to me.

One time I got into an argument with a childhood friend, like 16-17 years ago. I started crying when that friend started raising their voice at me. Wanna know why? Not because of fear, not because I felt it was unfair but because I knew that I already forgave them, in that moment, on the spot I forgave them for raising their voice; but I knew that after they would realize what they have done, they wouldn't forgive themselves. And it was true, they hated themselves for raising their voice for a long time. That's why I cried, I can't do that anymore.

I lost my inner child who used to have that level of empathy and I've been working on getting her back. If there is anything left to get back...You need to love yourself, I'm not saying that your writings aren't true, oh I believe them and they could've been mine quite easily but what we need is empathy and what better source of empathy if not from us.

Well there goes my mysterious edgy persona. Ugh what an ugly marshmallow that I am. I'm smiling writing this but it's a pity smile. (for myself)

 

[hellonearth144]

He's right, darling.

No true sorry

okay I'm not gonna gossip or something but I've seen them on other places too which I won't name, places I also frequent and even somewhat agree with, SOME OF THEM I FULLY AGREE WITH, just want to point it out here. Idk, it's complicated, all of us need help.

I truly wish that I could actually do something tbh but I can't, I'm just like the other people that I hate, I pretend I hold some sort of a moral high ground but in reality I'm not worth shit either, huh.

I don't need help, I have full capacity for joy and happiness, I just need friends I don't need to stop being blackpilled. It makes me Happy.

 

[unendingempty]

Maybe if you want to be friends with women you should try being less of a misogynist. Shaming and expressing disgust for a woman's sexuality is still vile misogyny even if you are a woman. you aren't "unique and blackpilled" you are simply an an unpleasant person who refuses to unpack their internalized misogyny.

Edit: OP you are not more morally pure or enlighted or on another plane of or whatever the fuck. Your hatred of men and women who have relationships with them does not make you better than woman who choose to engage in their sexuality with male partners. Get this through your head- you are not better or more morally pure than women who have sex with men. To think that is pure misogyny and I can't believe no one in this thread is pointing that out.

 

[DeathSweetDeath]

He's right, darling.

I'm actually a she, but thanks .

Maybe if you want to be friends with women you should try being less of a misogynist. Shaming and expressing disgust for a woman's sexuality is still vile misogyny even if you are a woman. you aren't "unique and blackpilled" you are simply an an unpleasant person who refuses to unpack their internalized misogyny.

Edit: OP you are not more morally pure or enlighted or on another plane of or whatever the fuck. Your hatred of men and women who have relationships with them does not make you better than woman who choose to engage in their sexuality with male partners. Get this through your head- you are not better or more morally pure than women who have sex with men. To think that is pure misogyny and I can't believe no one in this thread is pointing that out.

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I tried to point it out more delicately, but you're right, this is nothing to be delicate about. It's woman hating and moral OCD at their worst.

 

[WhatCouldHaveBeen32]

I don't need help, I have full capacity for joy and happiness, I just need friends I don't need to stop being blackpilled. It makes me Happy.

Well then, why would you need friends if you already have the capacity for joy and happiness and if you know that being blackpilled makes you happy? This confuses me?

Or is it that you have the capacity for joy and happiness but only when you are surrounded by people?

I gave up on trying to find people who are like me but you might have an easier time, I don't know.

 

[hellonearth144]

Maybe if you want to be friends with women you should try being less of a misogynist. Shaming and expressing disgust for a woman's sexuality is still vile misogyny even if you are a woman. you aren't "unique and blackpilled" you are simply an an unpleasant person who refuses to unpack their internalized misogyny.

Edit: OP you are not more morally pure or enlighted or on another plane of or whatever the fuck. Your hatred of men and women who have relationships with them does not make you better than woman who choose to engage in their sexuality with male partners. Get this through your head- you are not better or more morally pure than women who have sex with men. To think that is pure misogyny and I can't believe no one in this thread is pointing that out.

Keep coping

Maybe if you want to be friends with women you should try being less of a misogynist. Shaming and expressing disgust for a woman's sexuality is still vile misogyny even if you are a woman. you aren't "unique and blackpilled" you are simply an an unpleasant person who refuses to unpack their internalized misogyny.

Edit: OP you are not more morally pure or enlighted or on another plane of or whatever the fuck. Your hatred of men and women who have relationships with them does not make you better than woman who choose to engage in their sexuality with male partners. Get this through your head- you are not better or more morally pure than women who have sex with men. To think that is pure misogyny and I can't believe no one in this thread is pointing that out.

Thats not what internalized misogyny is

Keep coping

Thats not what internalized misogyny is

Hating vile sex acts is not a vile misogyny. I have the right to my own boundaries as a woman