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Round Two

Round Two

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Is it just me seein' 'em around? Like, they're not outright with it, but there's a lot of leading and manipulative language. It's clear they're not here to actually help or listen. They stress that everything's your choice while telling you it's not too late to change your mind or whatever. That shit doesn't sit right with me. Am I seeing something where there's nothing? Thoughts. I want them.
 
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deathLiberation

deathLiberation

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Oct 31, 2021
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This forum is not "anti-life".

But im noticing lately a lot of trolls that are here thinking this forum will provide more content for their gore explicit websites.
 
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Snake of Eden

Snake of Eden

“Ye shall be as gods..🍎 🐍”
Jun 22, 2021
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Is it just me seein' 'em around? Like, they're not outright with it, but there's a lot of leading and manipulative language. It's clear they're not here to actually help or listen. They stress that everything's your choice while telling you it's not too late to change your mind or whatever. That shit doesn't sit right with me. Am I seeing something where there's nothing? Thoughts. I want them.
Yes there are things floating around like you described but not much can be done about that.
 
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Round Two

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This forum is not "anti-life".

But im noticing lately a lot of trolls that are here thinking this forum will provide more content for their gore explicit websites.
Nah, I don't mean it like that. Of course, it's not. Nor should it be. That'd be fucking repulsive. But, it should be a place where people can speak freely without having other people subtly trying to influence them one way or another, I feel like. Do I have a bad take on that?
 
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FuneralCry

FuneralCry

Just wanting some peace
Sep 24, 2020
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The thing that bothers me is when people criticise other peoples reasons for ctb, saying that is not a valid reason. These people have no say about what others do with their lives. I am fully pro choice meaning that I believe that people have the right to exit at a time of their own choosing. Since my time on this forum, some people have given me pro life vibes. I'm not sure why someone would even come on here if they are against suicide in the first place.
 
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Snake of Eden

Snake of Eden

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Jun 22, 2021
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Nah, I don't mean it like that. Of course, it's not. Nor should it be. That'd be fucking repulsive. But, it should be a place where people can speak freely without having other people subtly trying to influence them one way or another, I feel like. Do I have a bad take on that?
No you dont
 
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Julgran

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Dec 15, 2021
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it should be a place where people can speak freely without having other people subtly trying to influence them one way or another, I feel like. Do I have a bad take on that?

You are completely correct, but isn't it an innate quality of our human psyche to wish the very best for other people? I would imagine that most members of this forum come here for their own goals, but they might not be fully prepared to actually see that other people are ready to end their lives. It's like those stories that some members write about, that their friends can't accept that their friend wishes to end their life. I mean, it can be like a shock for some to read how horrifying someone else's life has turned out, and they weren't really prepared for it, so they try to justify their own story by trying to ease someone else's pain.

From my perspective, the most fair approach is to offer to listen, and then try to be supportive of whichever decision they may wish to take - be it end of life or recovery.
 
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4eyebiped

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Dec 28, 2019
567
I read very little of the threads here so I cannot comment in general. What I will say, going by your brief description, is that I do not see a problem with telling someone that you support their choice but also saying it isn't too late to change your mind or that it is okay to change your mind. Long as they are not preaching, it should be fine. Sometimes I fear that when someone does a goodbye thread, or similar, that they may now feel pressure to follow through. That absolutely should not be the case. It should be their free choice from start to potential finish and pressure to perform should not be there. Likewise, they shouldn't be lectured, or persuaded to stop. I personally do not participate in those types of threads for a variety of reasons.

But for me to better comment, I would have to see the actual examples.

As far as the subtly part, I am sure that happens but I am also sure some people also read into things that aren't there. I have witness and experienced that many times too. There is a healthy level of paranoia and there is an unhealthy level.
 
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Sanva

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Dec 10, 2021
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i think it is natural to feel a bit sad when someone you know or even see as a friend is going to ctb. So i wouldn't immediately judge everyone who asks if someone is sure or that kind of stuff on a goodbye thread, as long as they're still respectful of the person's choice and don't try any bullshit guilt tripping pro-lifer shit.

I think the NYT article also brought in some pro-lifers with a savior complex who think they can make us change our minds or something, so it might be that.
 
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Maaizr

Maaizr

LESS TALKING MORE KILLING
Aug 2, 2021
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they're here, for sure 👹
 
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4eyebiped

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Dec 28, 2019
567
i think it is natural to feel a bit sad when someone you know or even see as a friend is going to ctb. So i wouldn't immediately judge everyone who asks if someone is sure or that kind of stuff on a goodbye thread, as long as they're still respectful of the person's choice and don't try any bullshit guilt tripping pro-lifer shit.

I think the NYT article also brought in some pro-lifers with a savior complex who think they can make us change our minds or something, so it might be that.
That and the NYT article has also made many here paranoid and fearful. Which is detrimental as it is changing how some respond to each other and how they engage with each other. I am not claiming this is the case for the OP. I am speaking generally. Stick to the site's core values, follow the rules, report anything you perceive as suspicious to the mods and let us try to resume business as usual.
 
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YourNeighbor

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Jul 22, 2021
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But, it should be a place where people can speak freely without having other people subtly trying to influence them one way or another, I feel like. Do I have a bad take on that?
Unless the response to every post/thread should be "I see" or "I agree," you should expect to see people subtly (or not subtly) trying to influence others one way or another. That's what conversation is.
 
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This site is pro choice. It's not a pro death forum.
 
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Chinaski

Chinaski

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Sep 1, 2018
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I think the definition of "pro-lifer" varies between individuals on this site tbh, I've not seen anything l personally would consider explicitly "pro-life" but it depends where your line is. To some, I'm a "pro-lifer" because l think it's perhaps a bad idea to implement free euthanasia for anyone and everyone on demand, despite being very much pro-choice.

What l *have* seen though as a rise in new threads by new members which are seeking to goad a particular response, like they're just *asking* for guidance in a way which could be interpreted as encouraging. These people might be genuine and desperate but I'm very much inclined to steer clear.
 
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little helpers

little helpers

did I tie the tourniquet on my arm or on my neck?
Dec 14, 2021
518
you got me there. to me, it seems there is a problem when the "recovery" section is hosted on the same page as ctb discussions. *not* that I think this place should be unwelcoming to the "recovery" folks, whatever that means. and I'm very much aware that everyone is entitled to their own opinion - on life and on death.

"opinions are like assholes, everyone has one." philosophies too, are personal, and personal only. it's a matter of whether someone's merely stating their personal experience of things, or if they're tryna gag you with that.

IMHO much of the "hidden pro-lifers", the way you referred to them, could very well be in a state of being passively suicidal. that suicidality is egodystonic for them.

for many others, though, it's egosyntonic. but it's outside their (the previous group's) range of experience, and thus cognition, so there comes the pathologizing, and sometimes outright villifying of our existence.

it no wrong that my suicidality is egosyntonic. it just is. I welcome it. the way I welcome egodystonic experiences of suicidality as well. many people opt into thinking that suicidality has to be some "foreign, alien stuff injected to your head". but how could they prove that their thoughts are really theirs? do you truly *own* every bit of your cerebral experience? is the "ego" truly separable from "whatever things your brain's been telling you"? how do you even discern between the two, and knew that your judgement is correct? *who* is making that discernment?

is this existence integral and gestalt, or split between "your ego" and "the cerebral environment" that the ego is born into?
even then, the ego would interact with and accomodate to its environment.

the brain is meant to work for us. every piece of perception, cognition, emotional reaction. they mean something. and "you" are nothing more than a tiny sense-of-self area in your brain. it puts stuff into the context past experience, creates a internal illusion of volition, processes the information coming to it, but not controlling how that information came to it and how it was represented.

the brain communicates. sense-of-self is part of the machineware that assists its operation. it's but an illusion that "I" am thinking. the thinking areas is where the brain runs on its own, and where sense-of-self overlaps. and presents it on the accessible layers of consciousness.

I still have no idea why people think anyone really "recovers" from suicidality. every decision people take is egosyntonic - "to follow the path of no resistance". if anyone "recovered", it's cuz they now find better meaning than what suicide offers. and that's not something we can squarepeg ourselves into. I didn't create no meanings but I can identify with them when they come.

TL;DR: wall of text concerning neuroscience and philosophy.
 
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tylerdurden

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Dec 14, 2021
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Nah, I don't mean it like that. Of course, it's not. Nor should it be. That'd be fucking repulsive. But, it should be a place where people can speak freely without having other people subtly trying to influence them one way or another, I feel like. Do I have a bad take on that?
I see what you're saying. People come here to not hear that shit like they probably do from every other person in their life.
 
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motel rooms

Survivor of incest. Gay. Please don't PM me.
Apr 13, 2021
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The thing that bothers me is when people criticise other peoples reasons for ctb, saying that is not a valid reason.

This. One new member has done this twice already. They did it in @watereyes's goodbye thread.

"I personally don't think chronic nausea/ vomiting is enough to make you wanna end your life."

WTF?
 
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cambrai33

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Nov 3, 2021
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This site is pro choice. It's not a pro death forum.
I've noticed both extremes, but more so lately that it doesn't matter what the problem is the answer is ctb, no questions asked.
 
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mustard_glass

mustard_glass

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Aug 10, 2021
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Every method is bad and fails, you will suffer, I tried and it didn't work, you will survive, pls don't use this method, only 1 in 2137 suicide attempts are successful, are you sure wanna do this? mom will be sad, pls reconsider, you're too young/old/emotional/not depressed enough... and so on and so on.
It's been like this since the drama and forum address change. You want facts - do your own research, governments still publish suicide statistics, there are papers, books and gore websites.

This place? In 2018, when people could actually discuss methods and didn't get offended by gore pictures, sure it was good. It's a shadow of it's former self now like the whole internet. Sad, really.
 
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YourNeighbor

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Jul 22, 2021
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I've noticed both extremes, but more so lately that it doesn't matter what the problem is the answer is ctb, no questions asked.
Same, usually something along the lines of:

Thread: "I'm 20, and women aren't throwing themselves at me. I've never tried to get to know one without the expectation of sex, and hate that women can choose who they want to sleep with. I will never have a relationship, so I want to ctb. I still live with my parents, but know things can never improve. Fml."

Response: "Life is unfair. We all deserve to die whenever we want no questions asked, and should have the power to compel doctors to take part in our suicides because we didn't choose to be born."

Response2: "I wish you peace."

Choice implies capacity, information, and options. There seem to be more pro-death than pro-choice comments here, and in any case pro-death comments don't see the same resistance as others do.
 
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little helpers

little helpers

did I tie the tourniquet on my arm or on my neck?
Dec 14, 2021
518
because l think it's perhaps a bad idea to implement free euthanasia for anyone and everyone on demand, despite being very much pro-choice.

my stance too. I'm against authoratative gate-keeping (policing, essentially) but it seems to me that oftentimes them "normies" make fucking thoughtless threats of suicide and regret it later.

not a problem if people have thought about it seriously. like, seriously.

also, there do be times when assisted suicides are of a social and political significance. take the Canadian Bill 7 (hopefully it's Bill 7, I didn't follow up on this one) - once they got mass "euthanasia " programs running specifically for the disabled, it wouldn't be long before budgets gets cut from accessibility and other disability support programs, OR before families are rushing to send their disabled adult offspring for eugenicism. we're trying to solve our problems while they're trying to solve *us*, and in a very economic sort of way.

any policy on euthanasia should not interfere with the right to life of others. for me, the DNM is good enough at achieving that.
 
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demuic

demuic

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Sep 12, 2020
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You are completely correct, but isn't it an innate quality of our human psyche to wish the very best for other people? I would imagine that most members of this forum come here for their own goals, but they might not be fully prepared to actually see that other people are ready to end their lives. It's like those stories that some members write about, that their friends can't accept that their friend wishes to end their life. I mean, it can be like a shock for some to read how horrifying someone else's life has turned out, and they weren't really prepared for it, so they try to justify their own story by trying to ease someone else's pain.

From my perspective, the most fair approach is to offer to listen, and then try to be supportive of whichever decision they may wish to take - be it end of life or recovery.
In relation to this, I think some people here are like most people and think living a happy life and recovering is the best outcome for anyone. They are not prepared to experience someone for whom the best outcome is death and that is what they actually desire. There are many chronically suicidal people without any one particular incident or event leading them to suicide, but merely the trajectory of their life and values that lead to that conclusion.

I think it is somewhat easy to see the difference between someone who actually wants to die regardless of anything else, versus someone who has few or no other options due to circumstances. In the latter case those sentiments can be appropriate, in the former cases it seems insulting, to think someone's entire worldview and experiences will suddenly evaporate and they will be transformed into a new person with a never before seen lust for life.
Same, usually something along the lines of:

Thread: "I'm 20, and women aren't throwing themselves at me. I've never tried to get to know one without the expectation of sex, and hate that women can choose who they want to sleep with. I will never have a relationship, so I want to ctb. I still live with my parents, but know things can never improve. Fml."

Response: "Life is unfair. We all deserve to die whenever we want no questions asked, and should have the power to compel doctors to take part in our suicides because we didn't choose to be born."

Response2: "I wish you peace."

Choice implies capacity, information, and options. There seem to be more pro-death than pro-choice comments here, and in any case pro-death comments don't see the same resistance as others do.
There's always a comment like this recently. It's tiresome. You can strawman without ever trying to understand someone else's situation.
 
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little helpers

little helpers

did I tie the tourniquet on my arm or on my neck?
Dec 14, 2021
518
Same, usually something along the lines of:

Thread: "I'm 20, and women aren't throwing themselves at me. I've never tried to get to know one without the expectation of sex, and hate that women can choose who they want to sleep with. I will never have a relationship, so I want to ctb. I still live with my parents, but know things can never improve. Fml."

Response: "Life is unfair. We all deserve to die whenever we want no questions asked, and should have the power to compel doctors to take part in our suicides because we didn't choose to be born."

Response2: "I wish you peace."

Choice implies capacity, information, and options. There seem to be more pro-death than pro-choice comments here, and in any case pro-death comments don't see the same resistance as others do.
this happens with any forum, sadly. last time I seen something like this was when a thousand "will I die from two 'perc 30s' " posts ramped up on my Reddit homepage.

"read the fucking rules" doesn't do everything. think they need some hardcore death education. but I tend to dismiss this sort of herd behavior as a fad. trolling. they ain't catching no trains, just jumping on the bandwagon.

and after a while they'd get tired of this shit, hopefully.
 
Chinaski

Chinaski

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Sep 1, 2018
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Every method is bad and fails, you will suffer, I tried and it didn't work, you will survive, pls don't use this method, only 1 in 2137 suicide attempts are successful, are you sure wanna do this? mom will be sad, pls reconsider, you're too young/old/emotional/not depressed enough... and so on and so on.
It's been like this since the drama and forum address change. You want facts - do your own research, governments still publish suicide statistics, there are papers, books and gore websites.

This place? In 2018, when people could actually discuss methods and didn't get offended by gore pictures, sure it was good. It's a shadow of it's former self now like the whole internet. Sad, really.
Tbh l was here too in 2018 and have noticed there have been a few changes wrt the, uh, "maturity" of some of the content but the same bullshit was around back then, the same type of trolling, the same dipshit method suggestions and questions, hell two absolutely batshit methods were popularised back then based entirely on lunkheaded posts on here (shallow water blackout, night night method), even the 'N enema' was briefly popularised by some fucking troll account who faked a ctb by ramming his N up his arse. Serious content does still exist here but it's always been surrounded by plenty of bullshit imo.
 
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cambrai33

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Nov 3, 2021
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Seems some just want it to be the polarisation of views and that if you aren't pro death enough then you must be a pro lifer. Somebody else said that many aren't capable or willing to understand there is a middle ground and it's pro choice. We talk about it and pat ourselves on the back saying we are pro choice but just read the posts above and make up your own mind on where the groundswell of opinion sits.

A goodbye thread is a protected place where peoples reasons are not questioned and that makes a lot of sense, although I do see people saying it's ok if you change your mind. Anywhere else I don't understand why you can't ask things of people, you are not invalidating them by doing so unless you dismiss how they are feeling and that's a different matter entirely.

People have some different motivations and senses of morality here which is fine but its starting to feel pro choice only in name
 
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VKVK

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This. One new member has done this twice already. They did it in @watereyes's goodbye thread.

"I personally don't think chronic nausea/ vomiting is enough to make you wanna end your life."

WTF?
This kind of reply to a goodbye thread is so absurd I can't help but laugh maniacally at it. It just has to be a joke.
 
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PDAnnie2610

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Oct 27, 2019
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In relation to this, I think some people here are like most people and think living a happy life and recovering is the best outcome for anyone. They are not prepared to experience someone for whom the best outcome is death and that is what they actually desire. There are many chronically suicidal people without any one particular incident or event leading them to suicide, but merely the trajectory of their life and values that lead to that conclusion.

I think it is somewhat easy to see the difference between someone who actually wants to die regardless of anything else, versus someone who has few or no other options due to circumstances. In the latter case those sentiments can be appropriate, in the former cases it seems insulting, to think someone's entire worldview and experiences will suddenly evaporate and they will be transformed into a new person with a never before seen lust for life.

There's always a comment like this recently. It's tiresome. You can strawman without ever trying to understand someone else's situation.
Yes. There's usually much that pushes one to ctb and despite having made 'threats' of suicide in real life, I do struggle with bpd and other mental and physical health conditions that makes suicide an attractive option to the pain and suffering of being alive. I can't speak for others but seeing someone else with bpd giving up reminds me of the desperation and pain that I struggle with en route to giving up. To keep trying, and being denied help can be even worse than plodding onto the journey of carrying out the final act alone. If the decision is made to escape pain, sometimes as someone similarly afflicted, I wish that the pain need not be so great that suicide is a viable option for those of us with that burden.

Personally, I've lost my bestie to suicide and despite her promise that she will inform me prior to ctb, she made sure to break the friendship and thus to leave without leaving me baggage. Unfortunately, she would eventually contribute to the pain that would likely push me to ctb, as did my ex partner. She was someone who wanted to die at all cost, was one of the strongest and most determined person I knew and I miss her very very much. SI is a bitch.

Unfortunately we do not know the situations of everyone on here but we can strive to be respectful as best as we can. I can't in good conscience say "go ahead and die" but what I can hope for is peace can be within reach, be it in life or through death.
 
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eryu

eryu

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I sort of feel like saying things to discourage people sometimes because I do believe some people can still have decent lives.
But you can never really know for whom this is true.
I tend refrain from any sort of comments at all. I'm anxious and oversensitive but I also don't like the thought of making things worse for people.
I can see that even well meaning "take your time" sort of comments could fuel doubts in the mind of a person who already is fighting an uphill battle to be able to go through with their suicide which will finally relieve their pain.
It's like if someone was trying very hard to concentrate and build their resolve and you come in and throw cold water on them.
It's no wonder some people snap and get really angry.
For most, there will always be that part of them that's overeagerly listening to those 'it's not too late, you can still have a good life!' voices and it must be so painful because it's also mixed up with all their dead hopes and anguish.

It's such a struggle to commit suicide, all our biology and cultural conditioning are working against us. So it is probably a real kick in the balls for a lot of people when someone comes in to their thread and says something that appeals to their will to live (which means continued, unabated suffering).
And it's especially upsetting to think this might not be just another SS member trying to be kind but some pro-life mole who doesn't respect your decision at all.
 
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motel rooms

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Apr 13, 2021
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its starting to feel pro choice only in name

How come so many members keep liking your posts if everyone on here but you & a couple of other angels is pro-death rather than pro-choice? Why don't you report all the monsters who keep telling everyone to ctb for no good reason? Maybe you think that would be pointless because the mods are bloodthirsty pro-deathers too? :ohhhh:
 
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cambrai33

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Nov 3, 2021
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How come so many members keep liking your posts if everyone on here but you & a couple of other angels is pro-death rather than pro-choice? Why don't you report all the monsters who keep telling everyone to ctb for no good reason? Maybe you think that would be pointless because the mods are bloodthirsty pro-deathers too? :ohhhh:
Haha thought you couldn't resist.

Love the bit about you making out I think the mods are pro-deathers, is this you trying to plant a seed?

A few members liked the posts but many will be wary of being judged too pro choice. Nobody is an angel nor to my recollection has anyone claimed as such so not sure if you are getting mixed up with threads here.

Ive only been encouraged to ctb once on here but even you can't think that everyone's intentions on here are what they seem……
 

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