Venting looks, physical appearance, body

[cyanidekitty]

just a reminder that anyone can (and everyone typically is or has been) -be insecure no matter how they look but just remember that comparison will probably always be a thief of joy

i'm right under 5'7 and about 175 but my weight is evening out good (going to the "good" areas lol)
but even then when i put on certain clothes it makes me feel like well since my butt doesnt look too flattering in it, i look ugly that day.
or when i see other girls with their chest out it just makes me wonder if i should do the same

same with my looks
i try to appear as someone im not & ive kind of decided that going for the "cute" look is better for me instead of an "oh shes bad" look.
& its not a problem until i begin to compare myself to other girls & especially the girls my bf is friends with which sucks so bad because i genuinely start to think im ugly.

but hopefully ill start to grow more and accept the fact that yes i do have noticeable pores despite cleaning my face w Noxzema cream or pads everyday & yes i'm not the best at makeup
& yes people will be prettier than me or they will have better curves than me & over time i'll hopefully accept it

but this post isnt to get validation just something that im sure others can relate to. im not really looking for sympathy because honestly this is what people making cruel & unnecessary jokes does to others.

 

[Quantum_Marten0302]

theyre not as insecure as me otherwise they wouldnt be living normal lives. it doenst bring me any comfort knowing everyone feels a tiny amount of what i feel

 

[cyanidekitty]

theyre not as insecure as me otherwise they wouldnt be living normal lives. it doenst bring me any comfort knowing everyone feels a tiny amount of what i feel

sorry :(( i only mentioned it just cause ik some people expect 'beautiful people' who get like 20 compliments a day to never be insecure or complain abt anything that has to do with their looks

im sorry you're in so much pain tho

 

[Dejected 55]

Women seem to get the brunt of it in our society in as far as being judged by their looks. Men get judgement too, but for most men other people are willing to give them a pass on being "ugly" if they possess some other thing that is wanted as much or more from them. Women, generally speaking, seem to be judged more on their looks even if they have other qualities that should make them attractive.

When you add in that beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder... you have a lot of people thinking they are ugly or even being told they are ugly who really are not at all... and a lot of people thinking they are way better looking than they are and being snobby about it... and then your average Janes and Joes of the world are caught in the middle not thinking they are good enough and not thinking anyone else thinks they are good enough and not wanting to "settle" for other average Joes and Janes because if they "pick an unpopular partner" they will be judged for that too.

Humanity kind of sucks ass in a lot of ways in this particular area and a lot of good people go through the world a lot harder than they should have to do regardless of how they look and regardless of whether that should even be important or not.

 

[cyanidekitty]

Humanity kind of sucks ass in a lot of ways in this particular area and a lot of good people go through the world a lot harder than they should have to do regardless of how they look and regardless of whether that should even be important or not.

i really dont even feel like looks should matter to anyone THAT much unless you plan to date them. but nowadays its ljke you have to look a certain way to even make friends

 

[Dejected 55]

i really dont even feel like looks should matter to anyone THAT much unless you plan to date them. but nowadays its ljke you have to look a certain way to even make friends

Yeah. I think we have to admit that looks o play a part in romantic relationships. Even if we don't want to... because we also make choices on who we are attracted to sometimes by how they look...

But... yeah, I get really frustrated for example in political discussions when one side or the other starts attacking a person because of how they look or whether they can get laid or not. I regularly see Democrats, for example, who profess to be "pro-women" who deride Republicans for being anti-women... but I'll see Democrats attacking female Republicans for how they look or how they present themselves instead of attacking that woman's actions or statements or political beliefs. It drives me crazy and I call them out on it and even if they admit I'm right they go back to doing it.

People attack male politicians based on how they look too and whether or not people think they can get laid... and whether they do or not, why not attack them for their horrible stance on a subject? Who the fuck cares if dude or dudette is "hot" if they are fucking horrible people who want to oppress you? Like, is it okay when an attractive politician votes against family leave or better health care? Is t okay when a "hot" politician votes to oppress you or take away some of your rights?

There are SO many areas where looks really should never be a part of anything... and yet... everything seems like it becomes a beauty contest all of a sudden.