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niki wonoto

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I don't know if anyone here could relate or not? But, just like the title says: Life just feels so limited. I don't understand how people can say that we are free to do (or be) anything. Maybe only for those lucky people, but definitely not for everyone. At least that's what I really feel, when I think about my life. It seems like anything I do just eventually got crushed & destroyed by reality.

Also, everyday a lot of people are trapped within the economic & financial, monetary situations, that they can't just be 'free' to do whatever they really want to. For example: many people have to work in a job that they hate, 9 to 5 everyday, just to survive.

And then, there's also sickness/illness or diseases, for example. There are people who are basically just crippled (& limited) by their illness. And this could also include mental illness (or problem/issues).

Relationship-wise, there are also people who are trapped within bad marriages, with bad partners, for example. Or trapped within bad family, parents, etc2. Or on the other hand, there are even people who are so lonely/alone, and don't have any fulfilling relationships (or friendships, relations, human's connections, etc2).

And lastly, even the 'luckiest' of people in this world would have also experienced maybe a tiny, little, minor inconveniences/problems/situations that are just less than ideal/perfect, which is just another way of saying that even they are also somewhat 'limited' from reaching their own expectations.

But, nowadays I keep hearing people say things like: "We're free to do whatever/anything we want!", which is just unrealistic. In reality, no, we are *not* free to do *anything* that we want to do (or be). There are so many limitations in life. And some are even just so frustrating. Maybe that's why we can't be always 100% happy all the time. When life doesn't work the way that we want (or expect, wish, dream, pray, or even work hard), it's just only natural (& human!) that we can feel sad, angry, disappointed, scared, anxious/anxiety, worry, confused, stressed, frustrated, down, or even depressed.

This is not a perfect world/life. It's not an ideal/utopian world, where every wishes do come true. In reality, it's even what we often DON'T WANT, that sometimes/often happens in our lives! I mean, yeah sure, motivational self-help words can comfort us, but there's even comes a point where they all just become hollow, empty platitudes (especially for some of us who've experienced the problems ourselves).

(Sorry if my english is not good, as it's not my first native language)
 
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vaas

vaas

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Feb 19, 2026
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I think that's how they find happiness. They cultivate a certain worldview that protects them and allows them to see the world as beautiful. Honestly, I don't blame them; I envy them. Feeling happy is a beautiful thing, regardless of the reasons behind it. I've tried to be like them, but unfortunately, it's not in my nature.
 
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Matchaaa

Matchaaa

Speaking English naturally feels so difficult TvT
Dec 10, 2025
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I completely understand how you feel, I feel the same way.
Perhaps absolute freedom doesn't really exist, but people do have different degrees of freedom.That's why the conditions and environment we are born into matter so much, because they shape who we become.It's not easy to become whoever you want or take on any role in life.
 
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FinalValentine

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Feb 21, 2026
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Of course you're right, this isn't a world where anyone can be anything. We're all tied town with circumstance to some extent. The real unfair part is that we're not all restricted equally. True freedom is a privilege of those who were already born incredibly lucky. But I don't think there's much reason to dwell on that fact tbh. After all, if we all had absolute freedom, life would be incredibly unfulfilling. Some struggle is what gives life meaning (It may seem insensitive to say that to the users of this forum. I don't mean to glorify struggle and pain. I'm only claiming that life with no struggle wouldn't be worth much either).
Yearning for absolute freedom isn't as wise as it might seem. Remember, the grass will always be greener on the other side...
 
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the_calynite

I might sound hella pretentious, humble me please
Mar 10, 2026
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Of course you're right, this isn't a world where anyone can be anything. We're all tied town with circumstance to some extent. The real unfair part is that we're not all restricted equally. True freedom is a privilege of those who were already born incredibly lucky. But I don't think there's much reason to dwell on that fact tbh. After all, if we all had absolute freedom, life would be incredibly unfulfilling. Some struggle is what gives life meaning (It may seem insensitive to say that to the users of this forum. I don't mean to glorify struggle and pain. I'm only claiming that life with no struggle wouldn't be worth much either).
Yearning for absolute freedom isn't as wise as it might seem. Remember, the grass will always be greener on the other side...
(im not really replying to your comment specifically, but its connected) true freedom doesnt exist. the only way to have true freedom is to be able to do literally anything, which is obviously impossible. Existing in a human body excludes you from true freedom. you do however have choice to accept, or to reject. personally i see that as a fine amount of freedom, but it is obviously lack luster. Sure we arent all restricted equally, but guess what! you arent anyone else either! you dont get to know what its like to be anyone else, you are your own God. every experience and action is your own, there is little way to change those around you, much less the rolling of the dice of your upbringing or luck in general. nobody really exists but you, just think of it in the way of a really complex game, who cares where you start? thats just how the game is designed dude. whether the game was designed by a higher power or it simply exists, it doesnt change much. so play it or quit! there is freedom in accepting that you are where you are, and the only thing you can affect is yourself.
 
capi

capi

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(im not really replying to your comment specifically, but its connected) true freedom doesnt exist. the only way to have true freedom is to be able to do literally anything, which is obviously impossible. Existing in a human body excludes you from true freedom. you do however have choice to accept, or to reject. personally i see that as a fine amount of freedom, but it is obviously lack luster. Sure we arent all restricted equally, but guess what! you arent anyone else either! you dont get to know what its like to be anyone else, you are your own God. every experience and action is your own, there is little way to change those around you, much less the rolling of the dice of your upbringing or luck in general. nobody really exists but you, just think of it in the way of a really complex game, who cares where you start? thats just how the game is designed dude. whether the game was designed by a higher power or it simply exists, it doesnt change much. so play it or quit! there is freedom in accepting that you are where you are, and the only thing you can affect is yourself.
I dunno, This is kind of a reductionist take.
Even saying people being able to make their own decisions, or worldviews, start to get murky when extreme mental illness comes up and prolonged traumatic upbringings. And the fact people are being forced to take decisions from outside influences. I would say even the decision to be able to accept it isnt even ours due to so, so many factors.
This sounds cool philosophically, though. Im writing this half asleep lol so im kinda lazy writing this
 
DeadManLiving

DeadManLiving

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Sep 9, 2022
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Unless you're born into privilege, have capital or the "Ways and Means" or are incredibly lucky, you're limited to exploitative circumstances designed to extract every ounce of manual or intellectual capital for the benefit of others with the aforementioned.

At that point you can choose to acquiese in servitude to a system that threw you overboard decades ago, or terminate your life and opt out.

An extremely dystopian viewpoint but that's been my experience.