Is Falling in Love Worth it?

[lost guy]

Is falling in love really worth it? People ultimately change. Falling in love is a dangerous thing. There's always the possibility that they will fall out of love. When they do, life becomes miserable for the other.

The feeling to live life becomes weaker.

 

[Metalhead]

Just my humble opinion, but I would have to say NO, you are only setting yourself up to be hurt & disappointed , never ever again for me.

 

[GoneByTomorrow]

If I had had a choice, I would have never fallen in love.

Unfortunately, I just did and I have been worse ever since, when I'm feeling good, I am feeling amazing, but when I'm hurt, I have never ever been worse. Also, because I care about them, I can't just ctb, I have to wait for a conclusion.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I'm 0 for 3 in terms of girls I've loved. To me it's only worth falling in love if the other person thinks you're worth it. Even then, you're right that people can change and maybe you or they will fall out of love. In my most recent case we were both in love with each other but life still got in the way (almost literally!). Heartbreak is a dangerous disease and until they make a real cure for it then I don't know what else to do but die with it. Part of what makes love special probably is the fact that it can be such a risk in the first place.

 

[Lilacmoon]

If I didnt fall in love I wouldnt be hurting the one I love most in the world by killing myself. It's a regret I'll have to carry and hate myself for even more. Wish we never met.

 

[ThrownAwayTom]

It's a hard question. I don't think I'll ever be with anyone after my ex, and it hurts a lot. But I'd give anything to have that back again so, maybe it is worth it. Who am I kidding hah

 

[Xander_McG]

I would never have changed falling in love with my wife for anything. It was the best 9 years of my life, even though I'd been fighting suicidal feelings all through it. I would have given anything just to feel that way again, but the heartbreak eventually becomes unbearable.
Yes it may exacerabte the suicidal feelings but if you're already having them then you would have them for feeling lonely and I would rather have the happy memories with my wife with me in my final moments.

 

[Breadbfra]

Everytime I've fallen in love has been great.
I'm an extremely positive person when it comes to social relationships.
I've had ups and downs, I've had one ex girlfriend destroying me emotionally, one kept arguing everyday...i've never regret being with any of them to be honest.
The one I'm in love now is the most gorgeous soul I've ever met and even if it doesn't go the way we both want, I won't be sad or heartbroken.
So yes, falling in love is absoloutely worth it.

 

[Good4Nothing]

Is it worth it? I can't help it. It just happens.

 

[_Minsk]

if you both share similarities, worldview and values it might increase your chances for a long relationship. especially core values which never change and bond you both can increase the chances. i had a match some time ago, out of 300 questions we have answered, 297 were identically so its was a close to perfect fit. it was amazing. after 6 months, my depression got worse due to health issues and other stuff, i have become suicidal and i somehow managed to sabotage the relationship because deep down i just wanted to ctb. i think meanwhile i also couldn't keep up with her being too much on the extrovert scale (that was one of the 3 differences, im hardcore introvert, she was ambivert and not that depressed nor into isolation haha). it was hard to keep up because i didn't want to drag her down. i should have let her go earlier i think..

i think it can work out, but as i wrote once, depression is kind of a death sentence to long term relationships, at least for me. sometimes i wish i had someone close as depressed and suicidal as me who also plans to ctb..

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

if you both share similarities, worldview and values it might increase your chances for a long relationship. i had a match some time ago, out of 300 questions we have answered, 297 were identically so its was a close to perfect fit. it was amazing. after 6 months, my depression got worse due to health issues and other stuff, i have become suicidal and i somehow managed to sabotage the relationship because deep down i just wanted to ctb. i think meanwhile i also couldn't keep up with her being too much on the extrovert scale (that was one of the 3 differences, im hardcore introvert, she was ambivert and not that depressed nor into isolation haha). it was hard to keep up because i didn't want to drag her down. i should have let her go earlier i think..

i think it can work out, but as i wrote once, depression is kind of a death sentence to long term relationships, at least for me. sometimes i wish i had someone close as depressed and suicidal as me who also plans to ctb..

Out of curiosity, what was this 300 questions matching system?

I think if I truly had someone to love me that I was also in love with, I would hope that neither of us would want to ctb anymore...

 

[blacktrain98]

I would say love is always worth it, but being cynical of love is the trick. People can be really cruel, but you can't hold it against them ya know? Humans are always going to hurt other humans, and most of the time it's not even intentional. Love is a human trait, and trying to distance yourself from it altogether is probably not the best choice imo. Logically speaking, love isn't all cons.

 

[Mr2005]

That's what's lacking in most peoples lives so I'm going to have to say yes. If however your problems can't be fixed by that then I'd think very carefully before you break someones heart

 

[_Minsk]

Out of curiosity, what was this 300 questions matching system?

I think if I truly had someone to love me that I was also in love with, I would hope that neither of us would want to ctb anymore...

these are some, like political views, moral questions etc. like do you enjoy being at crowded places, how important is _fill the blank_ etc:)

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

these are some, like political views, moral questions etc. like do you enjoy being at crowded places, how important is _fill the blank_ etc:)

Ah, so it came from signing up for something like okcupid. Got it, not ready for that yet.

 

[Ghost2211]

It's never been a voluntary thing for me, so I can't say if it's worth it or not since it's not a choice. It has brought me some of the greatest pleasures I've had in life, but it has also made me feel pain greater than I could ever imagined.

 

[checkouttime]

I don't think you really have a choice. its more something that just happens.i have met and been in love with numerous women. i have also been engaged and in quite a few long term relationships. thing is ,you can love someone, but not be 'in love' with them IMO aswell, usually when a relationships ran its course you find this!

 

[Nephthys22]

For me, No. Many of the problems I am facing and are leading me towards CTB are a consequence of a former love, that I should have never loved. Honestly, the universe gave me every exit, and I still did it because I wanted it so bad. Such a mistake.

 

[Worthless_nobody]

Honestly? No it's not worth it imo. People change, can't understand suicidal feelings/mental issues, people can cheat and abuse, I currently feel really guilty I'll be hurting someone else if I ctb. I really hate the trite saying "it's better to have loved and lost than never loved at all"....I wish I had never loved someone who did nothing but destroy my life then I wouldn't be in this mess.

 

[TheSomebody]

Is falling in love really worth it? People ultimately change. Falling in love is a dangerous thing. There's always the possibility that they will fall out of love. When they do, life becomes miserable for the other.

The feeling to live life becomes weaker.

If the two love each other then why not? yeah, one can abandon the other, but that's how life is. Being alone is also worthless, miserable and more painful.

 

[Harleyyy]

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Is falling in love really worth it? People ultimately change. Falling in love is a dangerous thing. There's always the possibility that they will fall out of love. When they do, life becomes miserable for the other.

The feeling to live life becomes weaker.

Please don't do it.. it's a trap.
Just don't.
find something that provides pleasure i.e. a hookup or something if you really want that.
love, no.
just no.
the seemingly most beautiful of the beautiful stories end in tears.
I can't see another person lose themselves because of this.

 

[Nephthys22]

Honestly? No it's not worth it imo. People change, can't understand suicidal feelings/mental issues, people can cheat and abuse, I currently feel really guilty I'll be hurting someone else if I ctb. I really hate the trite saying "it's better to have loved and lost than never loved at all"....I wish I had never loved someone who did nothing but destroy my life then I wouldn't be in this mess.

Men in black had the best come back to that stupid quote. "Try it."

 

[voidman]

It's worth experiencing once. After that it's up to you. I don't think one can really choose it though, it just kinda happens most of the time; for some people atleast.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

It's worth experiencing once. After that it's up to you. I don't think one can really choose it though, it just kinda happens most of the time; for some people atleast.

I've experienced falling in love but none of the other "activities" associated with it. In that way, it also definitely feels like falling in love isn't worth it at all.

 

[voidman]

I've experienced falling in love but none of the other "activities" associated with it. In that way, it also definitely feels like falling in love isn't worth it at all.

I totally agree. It definitely is not all it's cracked up to be.

 

[Spitfire]

I liked it both of the times I did it.

 

[Meditation guide]

Love stinks.

 

[Lilium]

I've never fallen in love.

On one hand i'd like to experience what it's like to be in love, and if the relationship does go south i was going to CTB anyways.
On the other hand, i wouldn't want to let someone who might genuinely care about me into my life just to hurt them.

I think i don't open up to people, just so i wouldn't have to face this dilemma.

 

[HopeIsLost]

I got into an online relationship with someone in 2014. I absolutely loved this person and they made me so happy. We had an on and off relationship until 2017. Want to know why it ended? Turns out the person I was in love with didn't even exist. It was actually a immature selfish girl pretending to be a man just for amusement and laughs. This really fucked me up and it still does. This is one of the main reasons I'm planning to ctb. All of those years I wasted on her. I genuinely thought someone loved me and of course they didn't.

 

[schopenh]

Just know that there's a 99% chance they'll leave you in you get chronically ill and it also effects your positivity )))))))))))))))))))