Help im getting bullied. how do i cope?

[A Sit of Doubting]

ive been getting bullied, i have two years left, but i still want to know how you guys coped with this situation. im not really getting physically bullied, people are just spreading rumors, talking badly about me to my face and behind my back, just that stuff. this has been happening for two years now, and i feel miserable. alongside this, im getting abused at home, and no i cannot get out (ive tried, n id rather thug it out than try and leave again), so i just am double nerfed hahah. i dont have friends, i dont have trusted adults, and my uni doesnt exactly do much about this. i just feel so sad, bc ive also been bullied all my life in highschool hahaha mentally ill people constantly attract mean people i guess. it just takes a toll on me and i dont know what to do anymore. i cant resort to suicide, i have dreams, and i dont wanna be called a coward. these people are just picking on me for whatever reason, and like i cant do this anymore jahahahhs all ive been is polite and amicable and ive been contributing and i dont know what to do to make it stop. i cant handle another year of this. but i cant do much so just, how did you guys cope with bullying? if ever youve experienced it hahha

 

[Shiitake]

I was in your position, and the greatest tip i can give you
is never doubt the power of changing schools/class
Changing schools, taking a gap year, is much better than commiting suicide, your parents will usually be understanding and help you.
I coped by turning myself invisible,
Which was wrong, cause i felt worse and worse everyday.

i started with taking anti anxiety (non prescription, pharma meds ((legal))
and i tried changing myself appearance wise, and was kinder.
in your scenario if its genuinely looks, changing class (unfortunately) to the ugliest class usually does the trick.
I spent 3 years alone, and invisible, miracle im still here, and im super grateful and satisfied with life right now.

I wish i changed classes/schools and hung out with the losers, i was scared of being a loser when i was just lonely, and the ones i considered " losers" had friends and everyone actually, even the " good looking people " were kind.

schools usually have "spheres of influence" some classes are genuinely good natured, and others not so much, it also is very much a caste system, if you study technologics, youre usually bucnhed up with the "losers" i use loser lighlty cause theyre tbh normal people.

 

[Shiitake]

mag dump them or hope something changes

 

[Hvergelmir]

My recommendation would be to make a clear distinction between education and private life. University is for learning, not making friends.
At least that's how I pulled through, after several attempts.

My second recommendation would be to build a public presence on the Internet, related to your field of interest. Without a wide social network, it'll be very valuable to have a proven track record. You don't necessarily need to accomplish much. I think proof that your interest has been genuine and longstanding, is worth a lot.

 

[doener11]

I'm really sorry to hear you've been going through this :(
My recommendation is similar to what the post before me said. There should be a distinction between uni and making friends in a situation like this. Instead, if friends can't be found irl, you do just find some people online who will help you push through for at least the next 2 years. This doesn't address the issue of the bullying itself, yet I'm very proud of you for continuing at uni for half your course in spite of the bullying!! People are mean, and all I can say is that I hope they do just move on (hating on the same person for 4 years has to get boring at some point? :/ ). But nevertheless, unfortunately the most likely thing is that you just have to push through until it gets better...
Wishing you the best!!

 

[orpheus_]

Damn I'm so sorry you're going through this, especially having nobody else to turn to... Like others said, maybe think about changing classes or taking a gap year if that's possible. Also yes, bonding with other people who are bullied/outcasts might work out (this is how I honestly got almost all my friends before university). Also if you have any hobbies (or: you're capable of getting into any hobby) it can help, it also helped me get through school when I had noone yet, it was mostly art and books for me. Maybe look into any clubs/meetings outside of classes in your university? Sometimes that can be a good option because you can meet other people there. I know it's not as simple as it sounds, but please remember, the fact that those people are assholes doesn't rule out that you can ever have good relationships. Take care <3