i need to stop making suicide jokes but its also lowkey a cry for help

[socrates.]

help

I keep making stupid jokes like whenever anything goes wrong I've been saying "someone should put me out to pasture" or "I'm gonna jump off the ceiling" (reference to a nonsensical thing my friend said lmao)

and I don't know how to explain that its not fully a joke.
I need to find the line between people looking out for me and people getting unwarranted help for me.
i. am exhausted. when does this all end!!! I need help but I'm too afraid !!!!!

 

[brickedup]

if u need to make yourself stop just think youre being cringe and emo. thats what got me to stop LMAO i dont wanna constantly get referenced the suicide hotline js cause i made a stupid joke about suicide

 

[LittleJem]

If you haven't seen your doctor then the earlier the better

Anyone you can speak to in confidence to cry for help - eg hotline?

 

[5karlet]

so real my friends be like "bro ima kill you if you do some fuck shit" and i be like no balls and it's like shi bruh gone head put me out

 

[-Link-]

@socrates. if you want to open up to your friends a little more, then I would suggest for each of them, you think about what exactly it is you want from them in terms of support.

You want them to know you're joking-but-not-joking, but what does that look like for you? What does "looking out for you without pushing unwarranted help on you" actually look like to you?

If you tell the average person who isn't educated or experienced enough with mental illness, "Hey, so FYI, I'm low-key suicidal," they're probably not going to know what to do with that, so I think you'd also want to tell them -- as detailed as reasonably possible -- how they can meet your specific needs.

If you're having trouble figuring out what to say to them, you could look at the situation from their perspective: Go to Google and do a search for "how to support a friend with depression." You'll (hopefully) find some suggestions that are more detailed than simple platitudes. Take note of the ones you think would help you, and that's what you could tell your friends as far as "helping them, help you."

In approaching a conversation in the first place (whether in-person or by text), you could preface it by asking them if they have the time and mental energy for a heavy(?) conversation, or when would be a good time to have a serious talk. Something to that effect so to ensure you have their full, undivided attention at the time.

 

[socrates.]

@socrates. if you want to open up to your friends a little more, then I would suggest for each of them, you think about what exactly it is you want from them in terms of support.

You want them to know you're joking-but-not-joking, but what does that look like for you? What does "looking out for you without pushing unwarranted help on you" actually look like to you?

If you tell the average person who isn't educated or experienced enough with mental illness, "Hey, so FYI, I'm low-key suicidal," they're probably not going to know what to do with that, so I think you'd also want to tell them -- as detailed as reasonably possible -- how they can meet your specific needs.

If you're having trouble figuring out what to say to them, you could look at the situation from their perspective: Go to Google and do a search for "how to support a friend with depression." You'll (hopefully) find some suggestions that are more detailed than simple platitudes. Take note of the ones you think would help you, and that's what you could tell your friends as far as "helping them, help you."

In approaching a conversation in the first place (whether in-person or by text), you could preface it by asking them if they have the time and mental energy for a heavy(?) conversation, or when would be a good time to have a serious talk. Something to that effect so to ensure you have their full, undivided attention at the time.

this is really helpful. thanks so much :) i needed thjs

 

[madscotsman]

No one wants to help until its too late anyway

 

[ma0]

help

I keep making stupid jokes like whenever anything goes wrong I've been saying "someone should put me out to pasture" or "I'm gonna jump off the ceiling" (reference to a nonsensical thing my friend said lmao)

and I don't know how to explain that its not fully a joke.
I need to find the line between people looking out for me and people getting unwarranted help for me.
i. am exhausted. when does this all end!!! I need help but I'm too afraid !!!!!

If people are reacting badly, then yeah you should totally stop.

My suggestion is to just think "Ok if this were said online would it go to r/im14andthisisdeep?" If your answer is yes, then don't say it.

If you want to actually talk to someone without the layers of irony, then I'd say to think about who you think you can really trust to talk with. If you feel you can't trust someone to talk with you honestly, then they don't need to know. Also make sure that anyone you feel you can trust is able to handle heavy shit. If they feel uncomfortable then that's not their fault.

Take everything I say with a grain of salt, cuz I have little idea what I'm talking about and I'm just someone on the internet at 5AM. Hope you're able to find whatever help you need.

 

[cyclicism]

Suicide jokes don't work as a cry for help beacuse people have no idea you're not really joking. I get it, though, I really do. Adding humour is the only way to get even a bit of the interal turmoil out. However, in doing so you remove the gravity behind the statement, and you can't blame others if it's interpreted as how it was portrayed: just a joke.

It's not helped by the fact that it seems that everyone makes suicide jokes nowadays. :/