Venting I HATE MY MOM SO MUCH SHE ISN'T MY MOM ANYMORE (Possible financial abuse?)

[AngelTear]

Ranting about my folks, my mom in particular again the fucking bitch.
So my dad got his disability check recently and by recently I mean yesterday. That money is all gone now and you know what else is not here? Groceries. My mom didn't buy us ANY groceries at all, just fast food which doesn't last one bit. She couldn't even be bothered to read my text where I sent her with items to get and only the 2nd one because she only reads the notifs instead of pulling up the text app. I brought this up to her- what are we gonna do? And she talking about her same old "I don't know, don't worry about it, I'll think of something but I'm gonna sleep right now," DON'T WORRY??? WOMAN I'M FUCKING STARVING OVER HERE, I FEEL LIKE SHIT AND YOU DON'T WANT ME TO WORRY???

Also let's keep these things in mind too:
>She didn't want to apply for her OWN UNEMPLOYMENT BENEFITS and we (my dad and I) had to harass her to do so but every time we brought it up this shit would happen. She was fired in August of 2025. On top of that I found out MUCH LATER that this woman could've kept her job if she simply upgraded her PC which she could've done while she was still working. (Fyi her job was working from home)
>Says she doesn't want to work anymore. I don't even know if she's looking for a job at all (I am but I have the WORST FUCKING LUCK EVER.) But I do know she scrolls on fucking Facebook.
>Will NOT apply to foods stamps, I had to be the one to apply since my dad couldn't because his disability was "too high". I'm all out now and I need to renew which I hope I'm eligible for. Also she would ask me for MY food stamp card instead of getting her OWN FUCKING CARD.
>Will NOT go to any food pantries or food banks due to many of them being owned or ran by churches since it's against her God (Jehovah's Witness). I can barely fucking drive so I can't go anywhere or else I'll have a panic attack and crash.
>If I have a little change she will ask me, yeah me, the guy who doesn't have a job yet because this world is bullshit.
>Has been borrowing money from relatives for many months, probably even a year or more since we were financially struggling EVEN WHEN she had a job.
>Has lied to me about getting a raise, about getting more hours and such while she was employed.
>She has NO hobbies, NO friends, and sleeps all day except when she goes to the meeting

I know this is about my mom but my dad does fuck all either. I mean yeah he's disabled and can't work but damn...he's just a 60 yr old man baby now who relies on hi unreliable wife for everything ever.

Do not try to coddle my mom either, she and my dad have effectively ruined my fucking life. They had me for no reason and were very neglectful of my mental and emotional needs my ENTIRE life. Despite being hospitalized a few years ago and suffering from anxiety (most likely OCD but not diagnosed) they have NEVER done and single thing to help me. And I bet you if you came to them and told them that they'd be like "But we fed you, clothed you-!!!" Yeah like parents are supposed to fucking do. another thing they might say is "But you're up in the room all the time and never talk to us," Fucking idiots, still totally ignorant and oblivious to why I NEVER want to talk to them and keep to myself entirely when home. Y'ALL MADE ME THIS WAY, but no their just a bunch of dumbfucks.

They kept me alive for absolutely no reason at all. I am the youngest of 2. My brother got to live in relative financial security and move out around the age of 30. I'm 11 years younger, I'm 24, and I have not had a single chance to even stand on my own to feet and the people who were supposed to help me be independent didn't. I HATE MY ENTIRE FAMILY.

EDIT: This was another thing I thought of that my mom does. She doesn't take my fear of contamination or food illness seriously. I have severe emetophobia which led to me starving myself so bad I lost ~100lbs in a year. But that's a whole other story to get into. I'm bringing this up bc she will leave food out for hours and not put it in the fridge which freaks me out or somehow forget to close the fridge door all the way leading to the interior getting warm which really scares me. She is careless and has done that to man under many instances although not an everyday thing.

 

[struggles_inc]

I might have missed that in the post, but do you yourself have a disability or any condition that doesn't allow you to move out/feed youself? I see that your father has one.

 

[AngelTear]

I might have missed that in the post, but do you yourself have a disability or any condition that doesn't allow you to move out/feed youself? I see that your father has one.

All I'm diagnosed with is depression and anxiety and I'm suspecting OCD too but I haven't ever been able to get properly diagnosed or anything so no I'm not on disability checks rn. The main thing keeping me here is finance and no transportation, I have no money to leave and no car or much driving skills. Though being mentally ill and becoming suicidal on and off definitely contributes. Also no there's no one who I can stay with either so I'm quite literally alone.

 

[violetforever]

i relate to a lot of what you wrote. we even have the same age. i only live with my mom now but she's very similar to yours. i watched the video you linked and my mom goes on the same type of rants making herself the victim.

my mom hasn't worked in years and has always relied on my grandparents financially. she's finally seeking work for the sole reason that my grandparents are getting closer to death and she admits she will be left with nothing when they're gone. she even has to rely on me for stuff like using my debit card because she can't get her own. at least she is getting her life together now but it's for a sick and lazy reason. i wish she cared enough about me when i was still a child to do that but nope. the responsibility to take care of her children wasn't of that much importance. she has ptsd from my abusive dad and takes medication for anxiety but that's not an excuse.

my mom also has no friends, spends all of her time on facebook and her only hobbies are buying junk she doesn't need with money she barely has and deluding herself into thinking she's a good person by being religious. i also try to avoid being around my mom as much as i can too because i honestly dislike her. she complains that i don't talk to her but why would i want to? the last time we argued i brought up how being with a man, not even one of redeeming qualities at least, has always been more of a priority to her than her children. all she did was make herself a victim and claimed that i said it was her fault she was abused? i obviously don't believe that all. i know she was just saying that in an attempt to win the argument because i haven't even talked to my dad in years and i never will again. i don't forgive him for what he put our family through. she's very aware of that. that's just one of many instances and behaviors to show how unlikable she is.

my mom hasn't helped me become independent either. she's practically useless as a parent because she couldn't even afford to be one in the first place without my grandparents. even now that i'm learning how to drive she's not the one teaching me. i'm so grateful to have another family member that will though. all my mom has taught me in life is what NOT do. my worst fear is being anything like her.

lack of money and having nowhere else to go is why i stay with my family too. i'm so sorry you're going through this. like i said in the beginning, i understand most of the situation. i wish you had someone to be there for you in your depression and teach you skills like driving. do you not talk to your brother or have a relationship with him anymore?

 

[AngelTear]

i relate to a lot of what you wrote. we even have the same age. i only live with my mom now but she's very similar to yours. i watched the video you linked and my mom goes on the same type of rants making herself the victim.

my mom hasn't worked in years and has always relied on my grandparents financially. she's finally seeking work for the sole reason that my grandparents are getting closer to death and she admits she will be left with nothing when they're gone. she even has to rely on me for stuff like using my debit card because she can't get her own. at least she is getting her life together now but it's for a sick and lazy reason. i wish she cared enough about me when i was still a child to do that but nope. the responsibility to take care of her children wasn't of that much importance. she has ptsd from my abusive dad and takes medication for anxiety but that's not an excuse.

my mom also has no friends, spends all of her time on facebook and her only hobbies are buying junk she doesn't need with money she barely has and deluding herself into thinking she's a good person by being religious. i also try to avoid being around my mom as much as i can too because i honestly dislike her. she complains that i don't talk to her but why would i want to? the last time we argued i brought up how being with a man, not even one of redeeming qualities at least, has always been more of a priority to her than her children. all she did was make herself a victim and claimed that i said it was her fault she was abused? i obviously don't believe that all. i know she was just saying that in an attempt to win the argument because i haven't even talked to my dad in years and i never will again. i don't forgive him for what he put our family through. she's very aware of that. that's just one of many instances and behaviors to show how unlikable she is.

my mom hasn't helped me become independent either. she's practically useless as a parent because she couldn't even afford to be one in the first place without my grandparents. even now that i'm learning how to drive she's not the one teaching me. i'm so grateful to have another family member that will though. all my mom has taught me in life is what NOT do. my worst fear is being anything like her.

lack of money and having nowhere else to go is why i stay with my family too. i'm so sorry you're going through this. like i said in the beginning, i understand most of the situation. i wish you had someone to be there for you in your depression and teach you skills like driving. do you not talk to your brother or have a relationship with him anymore?

No my brother is what I suspect to be a narc and my first bully. He loved picking at me so I avoided him too. When he finally moved out and got a fiance/married I was genuinely so relieved. I swear he makes you feel bad for asking him for help.