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StrawberryRed

StrawberryRed

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Oct 16, 2024
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Basically they were complaining that I worked too slow and had an "attitude". That I always looked bored or like I didn't care about/ like my job and that I never smiled. Also cause I was "rude". The funny thing is that I genuinely like my job until my manager came up to me and went on a long complaint about my "behavior". After that was when I actually started hating my job because I started noticing all the backhanded and rude things they would say to me for no reason. I would get a headache just thinking about running into the manager or the store owner. I HATED my job. Talking to any of my bosses was like pulling teeth, they became so demeaning , rude and nitpicky. I couldn't even have a break in peace without them coming in and telling me that I was breathing slightly wrong earlier. I worked in the back of a grocery store, cutting vegetables and baking products so it wasn't a costumer service issue cause I never saw costumers. I was planning on quitting mid next week anyway so im not sad, Im just kinda mad. Also I had been working there for less than a month, I started on the 4th. The grocery store was new so my first 2 weeks was helping set up the store , so I had only really been working my job for like a week 😭😭. And they already had everybody running whole departments ( deli, bakery, produce etc ) by themselves. I didn't even have the TIME to smile.

My manager would also ALWAYYSS read into everything I did. Like one time I was outside the freezer and he was inside and he said something to me,, but I didn't hear him. So I said "What?". He started getting mad and says " Am I talking to loud for you?!". I guess he thought I was mocking him or something ( cause he was trying to talk over the sound of the vents and I said " What " kinda loud) but the music in the store was genuinely so loud, and my coworker pointed that out for me. He then EXITS THE FREEZER TO CHECK THE VOLUME OF THE MUSIC HIMSELF. Shoots me a look and then mumbles that he'll turn it down later. All this aggression and all I said was " What?" 😭😭. It happened so often that I just stopped correcting or defending myself and resigned to the fact I would get fired. I would just stare and then change the subject. Everday I would get a lecture for daring to ask a question. 😔😔

Anyways, kind of a rant, but my depression, monotone voice, and resting bitch face got me fired 😭😭. Also probably being a black woman, so everything I do must be aggressive ig. Its irritating me because my boss admitted himself there was nothing wrong with my work, it was just my "attitude". Ig unhappy people aren't allowed to have jobs anymore?? 😭😭. It just reminded me how much of your life we are all just expected to fake for the sake of other people, which makes me even more depressed. Im supposed to be upbeat and excited for 8 straight hours?? Really??? Your really just ment to be a robot, ahve only 1 mood. I cant do this for 60 more years yall. Damn 😔😔
 
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Pale_Rider

Pale_Rider

Enlightened
Apr 21, 2025
1,031
Yeah people are stupid. Prolly sound arrogant saying that, but when it comes to mental illness it really is the truth.
 
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wine is fine but

whiskey's quicker
Jul 26, 2025
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and yet, they probably have mental health awareness posters all over the tea room
 
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aria_of_a_dream

aria_of_a_dream

we all go a little mad sometimes…
Aug 16, 2025
29
Sorry this happened to you :(
 
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Kali_Yuga13

Kali_Yuga13

Warlock
Jul 11, 2024
703
It's easier for some legitimately disabled yet happy people to hold down a job than a visibly depressed person. It's hard to sell yourself when you want to erase it.
 
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monetpompo

monetpompo

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Apr 21, 2025
440
i'm so sorry this happened to you. this is what's holding me back from having a job, since my resting bitch face is really present even in interviews. i have a hard time maintaining eye contact and don't really emote my voice. sometimes i worry what people will think of me so i just give short responses, which makes me look even more rude. i don't think that someone like me deserves to get a job if i think that people will just want to judge me for the way i act.
 
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lastsummer_yay

lastsummer_yay

I have bad vibrations
Aug 20, 2025
15
I'm so sorry. T_T People can be such idiots. I used to think that I wasn't liked just because I wasn't likable. They used to say about me, like, "it's like she has a headache." Of course the famous "SMIIILE!!!" Sooner or later the pointless aggression starts. Sometimes it's just because people don't know how to actually use their mouth, and I'm not a mind reader.
 
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nool

nool

He who has not tasted grapes says sour
Aug 17, 2025
38
I'm sorry that happened to you. People can be so rude. Probably on a power trip and saw you as an easy target. God forbid someone doesn't have Spongebob-level enthusiasm for their job. Smdh
 
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ConstantPain

Sorry but cats are so much better than people
Jun 9, 2022
299
I'm also sorry this happened to you too. I have to agree that there's really no accommodations made for mental health issues in the workplace and it's so wrong. I have been with the organization I work at for 9 years, but from 2020-January 2025 I worked from home. Now, they want me in the office for no good reason and I am taking days off left and right. Chances are I am going to get fired too. That will probably be the last straw for me because not making money will be too much. It's crazy that an employee can break a leg and go back to work in a cast. If they can't move quick enough will they get fired? Probably not. Even worse, if the employer said you needed to remove the cast because it looks bad for the company, would that ever be allowed? No because the worker could sue and likely win. That's never the case with mental health.
 
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Kali_Yuga13

Kali_Yuga13

Warlock
Jul 11, 2024
703
Of course the famous "SMIIILE!!!"
I just got a taste of this bu$hit today as a CUSTOMER! I was buying some vegetables at the farmers market and the chipper girl running the stand said "how's your day?" Me - "ok", Her - "Are you having a super fantastic day?!" Me "uh hu". They ask it in a way where it's implied that if you're not having a super fab-fukin-tastic day there's something wrong with you. The happiness police. The black boot is on my face forcing me to smile :D
 
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dontwakemeup

Warlock
Nov 11, 2024
779
I'm sorry you had to experience this. Let me give you a hug🥰. Where do I begin? I totally understand what you're saying as I'm also a black woman as well. People don't realize how hard we try just to do the simple things. Getting out of bed, showering, working etc, when all we want to do is die! Society has told us to basically shut up and keep going because what we want is not normal.

We do our best at these jobs and not there for friendships and small talk, we just need to pay our bills. We don't want to discuss our lives, we don't want to hang out, we are simply there to do our jobs and go home!

The problem isn't us, but others! They welcomed themselves in our life and insist on knowing who we are.Why? Just focus on your wonderful life and mind your business! As soon as you're not part of the "crowd," you're considered rude, angry, etc, etc.

I suggest at your next job, learn from this and try to change a little. You actually never done anything wrong. I would simply acknowledge everyone with a simple greeting and focus on your job. Sometimes I think we are placed in positions and situations not because we need help, but others may needs us. I don't believe in coincidences, so I always think, why am I here and what is my mission? I'm quiet at work and engage if someone persists. We don't owe anyone anything, but sometimes people see more in us than we think. I have a suicide survivor tattoo and only people who know the symbol will recognize it. It's often a conversation starter.

Anyhoo, not to make this too long. I once again want to apologize for today. Remember, perception is reality! Learn from this and move on. Wishing you the best❤️
 
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lastsummer_yay

lastsummer_yay

I have bad vibrations
Aug 20, 2025
15
I just got a taste of this bu$hit today as a CUSTOMER! I was buying some vegetables at the farmers market and the chipper girl running the stand said "how's your day?" Me - "ok", Her - "Are you having a super fantastic day?!" Me "uh hu". They ask it in a way where it's implied that if you're not having a super fab-fukin-tastic day there's something wrong with you. The happiness police. The black boot is on my face forcing me to smile :D
Omg. If not? That's a strange question from a stranger. XD
 
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kopebaldy

Experienced
Jul 5, 2025
245
No employer likes hiring a visibly depressed person. Some will do it because they need personnels but most will try to replace us asap.

We're liabilities and eyesores to them. Either learn to mask it or learn to tie the noose.

This world ain't ours lol, we're uninvited guests.
 
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