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kasa

kasa

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Sep 18, 2025
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these days even the smallest talent can lead to success, but i truly don't have anything i'm good at.
it's not because i have low self-esteem. objectively, seriously, i don't have a single thing I do well.
people say effort makes you better, but I think that only applies to those who had potential from the beginning.
so envious!! i don't know how long i'll have to keep feeling this way
 
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SomewhatLoved

SomewhatLoved

I now know the depths I reach are limitless
Apr 12, 2023
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what is sth?

Also, it's easy to look at people who are proficient in certain things from the outside and chalk up their success/skill to something like "talent", but the truth is people aren't born good at things and everyone starts out bad. Some people might learn more quickly than others, but anyone who as successful at anything has put in lots of time and effort to get to where they are. Don't forget it! Often online/on social media we only see the success/positive side and not any of the struggle. But it's always there.
 
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Forveleth

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Guess what, those people sucked at those things when they started. It takes weeks, months, or years of dedicated practice to be "talented" at something. You can be amazing at something if you apply yourself.
 
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Forever Sleep

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I weirdly agree and disagree with the two above member's comments. I do actually agree with you that, an initial predisposition to be good at something helps. I imagine we get that through genes.

But- for example, there are certain things others seem to do with ease- even for one of the first times- say in school, that we struggle enormously with. So- it's far more likely they will enjoy the activity to begin with so- have the incentive to do more of it.

Both because they can recognise themselves that they can do it well and, that they are likely receiving praise. If all we end up with is consecutive failures then- we may well not even enjoy the activity. And, what's the point in doing something voluntarily you end up despising?

That tends to mean that, not only did these other people get the genes that made them good at something, they may well also have been practising at it since childhood. So- if it's any kind of competitive activity- and many are. Even with creative endeavours, we'll be comparing ourselves to others- they will have had the jump start.

On the flip side though- I'd point out that even highly talented people aren't always happy. I had just about enough talent to scrape by in a creative job but- it's constantly under threat. Creative people are often obsessed about their work too. So, if we aren't able to do it as a job- so- the majority of the time, we can become horribly miserable. And, 'doing it as a hobby' doesn't tend to cut it always.

Plus, we're always comparing ourselves to others. So, no matter what level we might reach, we may still feel inferior in some way. It's hard to describe really- it can be a curse as much as a blessing. I actually know very few creative people who are happy with their work. We all tend to agonise over all the faults we see in it.

Do you feel like you've tried everything you can think of? Or, fancy doing? Are there activities you enjoy, even though you're not the best at them? Doing creative or other activities could probably still be enjoyable, if only we could remove the pressure to create something good at the end.

I'm always disappointed by the amount of people who say they aren't creative- because they can't draw. (I was actually taught how to draw but, I'm still technically crap at it!) But then, you find out they can cook or, you admire how they arranged their living space or some flowers or some other thing. I think people can be creative in ways they don't even realise or acknowledge. They may have an eye for colour or composition. They may be able to accurately immitate a tune.

The really annoying thing is when we don't have enough talent in the thing we really want to do. I do actually tend to agree that some people at least have the potential to go further than others. Maybe because their brain/ body seems more able to grasp that particular skill. I do tend to believe we aren't all born equal in that regard. I noticed that when we were set a particular project at uni. Some people seemed to sail through. Others of us- including me, just couldn't get our heads around it. And, it wasn't through lack of effort. We all turned up and did our best. I'm not sure it was through practice either. I don't think many there had prior experience in that particular thing.

What's worse is when that then leads to a block. I have multiple things I know I'm not so good at. I have to try really hard to push beyond: 'I can't do that' to- 'I'm not so great at this'- I'm going to need to just do my best, give myself more time, find ways to aid myself or maybe find another way of doing something.
 
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kazatte

kazatte

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Sep 1, 2025
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what is sth?
i believe it's just an abbreviation for something

also i feel for you so hard :( i'm so sorry you're experiencing this; this type of jealousy is so awful. and then when people tell you to just try it's so frustrating because, like, you DID
 
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HortEr162

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Feb 12, 2025
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What is "talent" exactly? No one is born being a master in anything or having special skills. No one is born having "potential" that others don't have. I don't understand where people got this idea, it looks like something out of fiction.

Talent is just interest in a certain thing, that's it. That interest makes people want to get better at it/succeed at it. But everyone still has to work hard to get good at something. All of this is literally basic psychology. Everybody has to suck at something first to get better later.

Do you have any interest on anything? Great. You have talent. Now, stop with the excuses and go and do something with it. (...of course keeping in mind it takes time).
 
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zizzou

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Sep 25, 2025
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What is "talent" exactly? No one is born being a master in anything or having special skills. No one is born having "potential" that others don't have. I don't understand where people got this idea, it looks like something out of fiction.

Talent is just interest in a certain thing, that's it. That interest makes people want to get better at it/succeed at it. But everyone still has to work hard to get good at something. All of this is literally basic psychology. Everybody has to suck at something first to get better later.

Do you have any interest on anything? Great. You have talent. Now, stop with the excuses and go and do something with it. (...of course keeping in mind it takes time).
Well you can be genetically and biologically predisposed to be good at things, there are even people who seem to be good at everything and can pick up things really quick. Singing for example, either you have a nice voice which you can improve on or you don't and can't do anything about it.
 
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HortEr162

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Well you can be genetically and biologically predisposed to be good at things, there are even people who seem to be good at everything and can pick up things really quick. Singing for example, either you have a nice voice which you can improve on or you don't and can't do anything about it.
Again, that doesn't exist. Sure, genetics can influence intelligence and other things a bit, but you still have to work hard to succeed at anything like everyone else. No one is good at anything for no reason.

And same thing with singing. Just ask anyone thar knows about the topic, everyone can sing with enough practice and hard work. Of course, you can be born with a good, natural voice, but if you don't train hard like EVERYONE ELSE, you won't get anywhere.

For example, have you noticed that artists get a bit mad when they're told "wow, you're so talented!"? Because IT ISN'T TALENT. It's years of hard work and skill.
 
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zizzou

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Again, that doesn't exist. Sure, genetics can influence intelligence and other things a bit, but you still have to work hard to succeed at anything like everyone else. No one is good at anything for no reason.

And same thing with singing. Just ask anyone thar knows about the topic, everyone can sing with enough practice and hard work. Of course, you can be born with a good, natural voice, but if you don't train hard like EVERYONE ELSE, you won't get anywhere.

For example, have you noticed that artists get a bit mad when they're told "wow, you're so talented!"? Because IT ISN'T TALENT. It's years of hard work and skill.
You're referring to mastery. There is natural talent. Whether it be in academics, sports, music, or art.