Help i did something extremely inappropriate

[violetforever]

im so socially awkward with men because i have none in my life and im rarely around any so when i feel comfortable and familiar with one, i just feel excited about it to the point that my behavior towards them comes off as nervous and flirty. thats embarrassing enough but today i really crossed the line with my literal teacher who is married with a child. i dont even want to get into details, i just touched him playfully and the entire situation seemed like an excuse to touch him. we were alone in the classroom which makes it worse. like great now i think im going to get in trouble or something. i dont know how im going to face him in the next class this week. i think he already assumed i like him because of how i act and speak with him. i dont even like him though, at least not consciously i think? whats wrong with me? why do i always have to act like this with any man older than me? its like i demand the attention. god violet you better hope your awkwardness is seen as endearing and that youre considered cute and young enough to have a fucking schoolgirl crush incident like this taken as inoffensive.

 

[Rainork]

Try not to overthink it.
You said you touched him playfully and I'm sure that's all he took from it- don't let yourself get overwhelmed by 'maybes' if you can help it.
We are all human, things happen sometimes and that's okay

 

[Hvergelmir]

...a fucking schoolgirl crush incident like this taken as inoffensive.

As a man, my advice would be to stop worrying about it.
Men are not nearly as easily offended as women, when it comes to those things. I think it's the physical advantage and the culture that stems from that, that makes it much less threatening.
Unless you were both overtly sexual and highly persistent, both you and him, are probably fine.

 

[violetforever]

Try not to overthink it.
You said you touched him playfully and I'm sure that's all he took from it- don't let yourself get overwhelmed by 'maybes' if you can help it.
We are all human, things happen sometimes and that's okay

thanks :( i can tell he was caught off guard and didnt know what to say after i touched him though. i immediately regretted it and felt so weird that i just tried to get out of there as quickly as i could. i know its not ok to randomly touch people like that, especially someone who has authority over me. i seriously interact like a 12 year old. i just misconstrue compliments and attention from men and assume it means they like me which influences this behavior i guess.

As a man, my advice would be to stop worrying about it.
Men are not nearly as easily offended as women, when it comes to those things. I think it's the physical advantage and the culture that stems from that, that makes it much less threatening.
Unless you were both overtly sexual and highly persistent, both you and him, are probably fine.

thank u for the male perspective on this lol it reassured me a little. im scared of mens attraction to me and try to ignore it but then i also invite the attraction by behaving this way. i just want to never leave my room again until i learn how to get my brain to function normally.

 

[Uncounted1846]

Awareness of a problem is a huge first step so kudos for recognizing you do it! Now all you have to do is stop touching people. It's that simple. :)

 

[violetforever]

Awareness of a problem is a huge first step so kudos for recognizing you do it! Now all you have to do is stop touching people. It's that simple. :)

thanks im embarrassed by my childlike behavior and nature. i havent done this since i was like 13 :/ i hope my teacher is understanding and will just move past it.

 

[Uncounted1846]

thanks im embarrassed by my childlike behavior and nature. i havent done this since i was like 13 :/ i hope my teacher is understanding and will just move past it.

As someone who used to do the same thing (touching to form a connection, overanalyzing it afterwards) he probably didn't think twice about it.

 

[BradGuy123]

You didn't say how old you are - if this is high school or college. My guess is that the teacher is going to be professional about it, pretend it never happened, and never bring it up again. I don't think you have anything to worry about.

 

[violetforever]

You didn't say how old you are - if this is high school or college. My guess is that the teacher is going to be professional about it, pretend it never happened, and never bring it up again. I don't think you have anything to worry about.

im in college i hope thats what happens.

 

[whywere]

Do not even think about it, water over the dam.


I was in business world for over 50 years and have situations where a lady has bumped into me or jokingly grabbed me and I never thought nothing of it ever.

I would rather have someone want to touch my arm instead of hitting me.

Think nothing of it at all and move on, I bet 100% he has.

Walter

 

[violetforever]

Do not even think about it, water over the dam.


I was in business world for over 50 years and have situations where a lady has bumped into me or jokingly grabbed me and I never thought nothing of it ever.

I would rather have someone want to touch my arm instead of hitting me.

Think nothing of it at all and move on, I bet 100% he has.

Walter

thank u so much ur words mean a lot to me and i feel less nervous about going to class again.

 

[BradGuy123]

im in college i hope thats what happens.

I can almost guarantee that's what happens. Most college professors are professional. They want to keep the professor/student boundary in place. Fraternizing with a student in his class is likely grounds for termination of employment. Very few professors are willing to risk their jobs over this. I say don't sweat it. He will act like it never happened.

 

[Proceed]

Eh don't beat yourself up about it.

 

[violetforever]

Eh don't beat yourself up about it.

i honestly think this simple reply with ur george costanza pfp just healed me entirely about the situation)

 

[Pluto]

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

If George Constanza isn't enough, let Dolan Duck reassure you too. If anything it was more awkward than deeply inappropriate. It's not like you propositioned the guy or full-on groped him or anything. And as a man it's not even remotely weird for a woman to briefly touch us playfully or whatever. It happens all the time. Unless you're an incel. Probably.

 

[violetforever]

If George Constanza isn't enough, let Dolan Duck reassure you too. If anything it was more awkward than deeply inappropriate. It's not like you propositioned the guy or full-on groped him or anything. And as a man it's not even remotely weird for a woman to briefly touch us playfully or whatever. It happens all the time. Unless you're an incel. Probably.

ok lol thank u c: i can handle awkward i guess. i actually do really well in this class, i have a perfect score (or i did until i just got a C on a quiz ugh) so at least my teacher knows i take the class and my work seriously…