I am on the pathway to being a loser in life and it scares me

[dune7263]

when I was younger, I thought I would have a wife, good job and a family, now I am 20 and that isn't even possible for me

 

[amomentspeace]

20 is rather young to be sure you wont have those things, how can you be so sure

 

[DivineSpark]

You are still young compared to me...you still have chance to make your dreams come true...

 

[dune7263]

20 is rather young to be sure you wont have those things, how can you be so sure

I am severely mentally ill ( i don't want to pass it on genetically), I have body dysmorphia, and psychical health issues

I wish my parents were responsible when they decided to have kids, I will forever resent them for it

 

[amomentspeace]

I am severely mentally ill ( i don't want to pass it on genetically), I have body dysmorphia, and psychical health issues

I wish my parents were responsible when they decided to have kids, I will forever resent them for it

We're on a similar situation then, welcome to the club. Though I'm still holding onto hope, maybe that's an error on my part

 

[DivineSpark]

I got no profession, no family, no wife....and I am twice of your age...I am real loser...

 

[Permanoir]

I got no profession, no family, no wife....and I am twice of your age...I am real loser...

What keeps you going?

 

[DivineSpark]

What keeps you going?

Well, I am blessed with kind and supportive family. I also got some good friends, but I dont have family of my own (kids, wife and such)

 

[Lo$t95]

I am in the middle of you two - 30 years old. Never had a meaningful relationship- but got lucky with BTC so career faded in significance (was the only thing I was good at).

Career isn't everything but the lack of a family or relationship really fucks me up.

Loneliness hits like a brick wall.

when I was younger, I thought I would have a wife, good job and a family, now I am 20 and that isn't even possible for me

20 does seem a bit young the more I think about it but honestly I attempted at 15 so don't want to be hypocritical.

 

[grapevoid]

20 is very young to have your life together and have achieved all of those things.

For what it's worth, genetics alone do not determine mental health issues. Depending on what you have, the percentage can vary and often genetic mental health markers are triggered by environmental factors. It's possible you do not pass on your mental health disorders to your children if you are mindful in parenting and control their environment. (This is not meant to pressure anyone into having children, just information in the case it is helpful for you to know)

 

[pauly369]

When I was younger, I had a wife , good job and family.
My wife cheated on Me and ran away with my so - called best friend.
My well - paid job became so stressful that my anxiety turned into depersonalisation disorder.
My so - called loving family turned their backs on me when I became homeless.
Society brainwashes us into believing that We need certain things to be happy, and that we are are not a complete human being without them.
Yet sometimes we are actually better off without these things.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

Dude, you are 20. Most people don't even start trying for a family until their late 20s to early 30s, so you still have plenty of time. Plus, even if you go on to never start a family of your own then who cares? A lot of people are opting not to do so nowadays due to all the issues surrounding us today, from climate change to unaffordable housing.

 

[Ligottian]

I beat you to it!