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sydel sushi

sydel sushi

sinning very bigly with this one
Nov 15, 2024
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Been preparing for a week now, everything is ready. Not impulsive at all, actually feeling very calm like i'm about to board a train home. But then i feel hesitant to continue with my CTB plan. Is this normal?
 
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Jun 13, 2025
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I think feelings differ from one person to another.
 
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gothbird

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Mar 16, 2025
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Yeah, it's normal.

What you're describing is part of the process. It's called suicidal ambivalence. People can feel both certain and unsure at the same time. It doesn't mean your decision is impulsive or invalid. It means your survival instinct is still doing its job, right up until the end.

Survival instinct is physiological. It's your body doing what it's wired to do which is keeping you alive at all costs. It doesn't care about your quality of life or long term suffering. It can show up as physical symptoms: racing heart, shallow breathing, nausea, dizziness, or sudden panic even when your mind is calm.
Cold feet, on the other hand, usually comes from psychological uncertainty. It sounds like: "What if this gets better?" or "What if I regret this?" or "I'm not sure I've really tried everything." It's cognitive. If you're sitting there evaluating your reasons, rethinking the plan, wondering what might happen to people around you, that deserves time and reflection.

Most people feel this. Take your time. Breathe through it. No shame in feeling both ready and afraid. No shame in rethinking and putting plans on pause.
 
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Praestat_Mori

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May 21, 2023
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It's normal.

CTB isn't easy at all. 🫂
 
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bankai

bankai

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Mar 16, 2025
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It's a bit different from survival instinct. I mean, if whatever issue is making you feel like taking the bus gets a little bit better, then you might want to postpone, right? It's normal. Fluctuations in mood are enough to make one rethink CTB.

I don't think it's a decision anyone should take lightly though. So it's good actually if you keep putting it off, eventually if you go through with it, then it would be a pretty patient , careful and less impulsive decision.
 

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