Venting how to be okay with loneliness

[HowlingCoyote]

i feel like i always need someone in my life. i fill my time with partners, friends, situationships, fwbs, fuckbuddies, just to feel something. i need someone. i cant be alone, being alone makes me feel like i'm not worth anything, like i don't have a purpose. i want to be okay with being alone but i just cant. i cant be alone. when people inevitably leave me it feels like drowning until i find the next person to occupy my time. it makes me feel bad, like im using these people, but i cant help it. the feelings feel real but maybe its just my brain tricking me.

 

[violetforever]

you have to like yourself to withstand being alone. i used to be like you. i always needed someone there because i truly didn't like myself. other people offered validation and distraction from that. now i love being alone. i enjoy listening to my thoughts and talking to myself and doing things i like that interest me or make me happy, just for me. the point obviously isn't to completely isolate yourself and try to overcome needing socialization, but to become better at it with a healthy approach. you feel purposeless because you are socializing out of desperation right now.