how the fuck does anyone make friends

[47a920]

i'm seriously so sick of only having myself to talk to and i see tons and tons of people similar to me who like the same shit that i like but will never know of my existence because everyone already has friends. How The fuck do u do that. i'll be honest right now i do completely isolate myself after trying to have a stable connection with at least a few people who understand me and failing. Basically i've accepted that socializing is pretty much impossible for me, especially because nobody i know in person can relate to me in any way. But it still drives me crazy to open up social media every day and watching everybody else have someone except me. I'm socially fucked it makes me feel so stupid that i don't even have a single friend because the whole world already does. What the hell do i do at this point bruh Where do u go to make friends online who take interest in the same shit

 

[HangMan123]

Not the whole world, because I'm here .
Needless to say, I feel the exact same way. I'm too awkward to socialize with anyone. I'll hear people talking about things I'm interested in but I can't just butt into their conversation like that; me listening in on them is already creepy, no? At least that's what I tell myself.
Anyway, enough about me. I'm sure there are chat rooms out there for things you're interested in. I mean, my 80-year-old calculus teacher talks about her calculus teacher facebook group. If she can find something, I'm sure you can.
What I'm trying to say is that you're not completely alone in this, even if it feels like you are. I'm sure there's something out there for you if you search hard enough. Keep your head up and maybe you'll find something!

 

[soul2realm]

Making friends is one thing but friends that stay with you during the lows of life is another. I am sure you will be able to make friends somehow but getting quality one's is the important thing. Social media is nothing but plain illusion- the people like their own reflections on screen yet are traumatized when alone.
Like you mentioned, its hard to find people relating with you, well welcome to SASU most of us here go through the same thing on daily basis. But people here are kind.
So hang in there, someone that values you will enter in your life.
Sending you lots of hugs and blessings.

 

[StoneCellaiver]

Social media is nothing but plain illusion

Comparison is the thief of joy, as they say. Most people there never display their worst moments.

Where do u go to make friends online who take interest in the same shit

The hard part for me is always committing, I keep flaking out, friendships I find are built with gradual increase of interactions and time in a specific area.

 

[ImNotRuby]

this resonates, have been yearning for human connection beyond my immediate partner and to talk about my hobbies. problem is, there's nobody irl to talk to where i live and any attempts to socialize online is met with the brick wall of them having far better things to be doing than forcing a conversation with me. socializing feels impossible now. i still have all these old friends from my teenage years online, but i dont relate to any of them anymore and can hardly talk to them.

it feels hopeless trying to socialize but i try anyways, i dont even know why i do, i guess the yearning is that powerful. i hope one day i succeed, and i hope one day you succeed too.

 

[47a920]

this resonates, have been yearning for human connection beyond my immediate partner and to talk about my hobbies. problem is, there's nobody irl to talk to where i live and any attempts to socialize online is met with the brick wall of them having far better things to be doing than forcing a conversation with me. socializing feels impossible now. i still have all these old friends from my teenage years online, but i dont relate to any of them anymore and can hardly talk to them.

it feels hopeless trying to socialize but i try anyways, i dont even know why i do, i guess the yearning is that powerful. i hope one day i succeed, and i hope one day you succeed too.

the both of us will find good people who understand us to talk to soon and i hope ur doing the best u can with ur partner right now ^.^

 

[pax420]

Put yourself out there and talk to people friendship just happens. Give me a shout I'll talk to you

 

[hurb]

the issue is we r all in different spots in the world , different ages too. what we need is people our age around us. sure discord with group of friend can help , but what if u dont click with large group of people. people like us take baby steps one person at a time which is even tougher. i would give anything in this world for someone that lives around me going through the same thoughts while being same age. but see ? i sound so fucking picky. if we were in twitter soleone would say shit : see thats why u got no friends

 

[Steph99]

One tip is to avoid doing things that might put people off interacting with you. I'm pretty old and maybe old fashioned but I wonder whether a language change might help? Swearing can put some people off so maybe make that small change? Sorry I can't be more help.

 

[haihaihai]

so real but it's like probably my fault lol... i talk to people friendly but never put myself out there to speak outside of regular settings like school. tbf neither do they, so i'm kinda stuck.

 

[gravestone]

I can relate. Loneliness and isolation have haunted me since childhood because of my social anxiety and inability to communicate. Even when I overcome my fear of socializing, people often call me boring and weird because it always turns out that we have no common interests or that they know more about my hobby than I do.
Now I am haunted by the same problem. I have zero friends, despite two full-fledged moves to other cities and unsuccessful attempts to go to places where people usually go outside of work and school. I tried volunteer events, church, sports clubs, and a place to train counselors for summer camp, and I failed at all of them. Now I go to university and the situation is roughly the same, but over the years of these attempts, my anxiety has grown several times over, and I have increasingly begun to push people away so that they don't hurt me, as they did before.

Sorry for the long post, I just want you to know that you are not alone in suffering from this problem

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P.S. English is not my first language, so there may be some oddities in the text.