How many men would post revenge porn on the internet after a (nasty) breakup?

[noname223]

The Internet is full of porn. A lot of porn is probably uploaded without consent. And some of it might be even revenge porn.

Would women Do something like that? I think in the most cases no. I am not sure why. I think nudes of women get more sanctioned and judged by the society. A woman has more to lose maybe because she can be called a slut for it. There is the trend of sextortion. And young males are the primary target. Men who are desperate when dating apps frustrate them.

I think women can also be manipulative and out for revenge after a breakup. But they just choose different weapons.

I met a woman from a Dating App at the start of the year. It did not last long. We became intimate one time. She was pretty crazy when it came to sexual stuff. She sent me a ton of nudes. We had webcam sex. Most of the nudes where only visible one time. There is a Feature in WhatsApp for that. I promised her not to take photos. I think Screenshots would also not be possible. She noticed I would prefer to store them permanently because I liked to look at them. And she asked me whether I want them permanently. I told her no. I can fully understand why she does not want to send them permanently. And I did not send her any pics of me. Not even without face. Eventually, she send me two Pictures of her permanently without asking for it. I also asked her why and she just said she wanted to. There Was a time I considered to send her hot Pictures of me. And she sort of talked me out of it. I think she anticipated that she will ghost me and how hurt I would be. Honestly, this could have fucked me up seriously.

Soon after our first and last date. She started to ghost me in a very weird way. She manipulated me, lied to me and gaslighted me. It was all pretty unpleasant. But it was part of her illness. She had Borderline.

Despite the fact it hurt like hell. I never considered to post them online or show my friends as form of revenge. I don't want to be this kind of man/person. I would feel disgusted by myself. But I also did not delete them. She never asked for that. It was a crazy time for me and have good memories with me.

I cannot think of circumstance where I would upload revenge porn. Maybe if someone would Do the same with me?

Do you think people are aware how much damage they cause when they upload revenge porn? Is it something emotional to feel better or shall the other person suffer as much as possible?

I read in Germany 25% of all men have payed at least once for sex. How many have uploaded revenge porn I don't know.

 

[zardoz]

Would women Do something like that? I think in the most cases no. I am not sure why.

Not sure I agree with this (I'm male btw, so what do I know :-) But a male friend of mine had a female upload revenge porn of him out of spite. Wasn't even that bad a breakup apparently, my friend is a thoroughly nice bloke.
I think both sexes are equally capable of doing it. If I'm honest, I think women perhaps more so. "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned" as the saying goes...

I think women can also be manipulative and out for revenge after a breakup. But they just choose different weapons.

Possibly, probably, maybe. Idk. But they are certainly capable of doing their best to inflict public humiliation on ex partners.
My ex once told me that if I ever cheated on her (I never did - actually that's not true, but she never found out - she would walk into a work meeting I was in (she had nothing to do with my employer then, she didn't work for them) and pour something over me (beer, curry, paint, idk) and make a big scene as to why. She meant it and had the balls to do it too. This was before they days of social media and revenge porn being a thing, which she is probably capable of doing.

Do you think people are aware how much damage they cause when they upload revenge porn? Is it something emotional to feel better or shall the other person suffer as much as possible?

No, I don't think they do. It can be devasting for the people affected, especially for younger people.
I think the perpetrators don't stop and think in the heat of the moment, and probably regret it later on, but by then it can't be undone.
As people say, once uploaded to the internet, it's there forever.

I don't think revenge porn is something I would ever do myself.
I'm not that petty. And you can get in serious trouble with the authorities for it now, there are specific laws against it (UK).

 

[Dejected 55]

Men and women are each capable of being horrible in and out of relationships. Consider the recent Tea app fiasco where someone created an app for women (and only women) to go on and share information about men they had dated OR were considering dating. Ostensibly the app was meant to "protect" women by allowing them to network in a private setting and if you were about to date a guy that was known to be a bad actor you could find out before you get hurt.

Problem is... as with all potentially good ideas, it got corrupted in a hurry. Women were posting stuff about guys including phone numbers and addresses and it wasn't just about guys who were rapey or abusive... just a guy who wanted to go half on a date might get raked through the mud on there.

Then, in a twist... the makers of the app were kind of incompetent and had been storing LOTS of info about its women members including contact info, photos, and private messages to each other on the app completely unencrypted... and someone found out where that info was and posted it. So simultaneously women were completely exposed and doxxed on an app supposedly meant to protect them AND many of those same women were exposed for being petty and not at all protecting each other from dangerous guys, but just slamming benign guys too.

The whole thing is a mess. Men and women both come out of this looking kind of horrible.

Back to the OP's topic... there are clearly men who post revenge porn. I honestly don't understand it. I mean, if you're hurt because you liked this girl, how does "shaming" her make you feel better? I argue against revenge of any kind all the time because whoever hurt you still hurt you even if you hurt them back... your hurt doesn't go away.

Revenge porn whether real or fake is just bad... and honestly, whatever your partner did to hurt you, IF you do this to them to retaliate, you only prove you are no better than them. Women might not post revenge porn of men, because society perceives men differently... although, if a man has body image issues, then posting nudes of a man could be harmful to him too in some cases.

Honestly, since I've never been in a relationship I speak mostly in theory... but honestly, if I'm with a woman I wouldn't want nude pictures of her. Why? If we are in a relationship, presumably we are intimate sometimes and I have a brain and can remember things... I wouldn't need nude pictures of my girlfriend/wife. And, if I don't have them because they don't exist, then there's no way I could be hacked and have them stolen either. I would be mortified on her behalf if I had any pictures from her like that and they got leaked/hacked... so I'd rather just not have them in the first place.

 

[wham311]

My ex lied to my community and said I was abusive and on drugs and cancelled me out of my hobby and city but she didn't post revenge porn

 

[psp3000]

my answer to title/something it reminded me of (also there were sites similar to TMZ but for internet celebs used to do this too (mid and late 00s I think) but I forgot the names of the websites, besides just TMZ):

Wikipedia page about the website: Is Anyone Up?

 

[EvisceratedJester]

My ex lied to my community and said I was abusive and on drugs and cancelled me out of my hobby and city but she didn't post revenge porn

My dad's ex did a similar thing. She went around, lying to people about him abusing her after they broke up. The thing is, she was the one who abused him. He ended up confronting her about and it had to go around and clear things up with all the people she lied to.