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schohei

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Apr 19, 2024
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Im just wondering how long will it impact my family after I'm gone ? I think it might be less long than some say maybe one or two years and then they accept it and move on. I truly hope so, I will not keep suffering a miserable life to not bother anyone and make them sad for a while, I mean I already make them sad by being sad all the time myself. I'm a failure that didn't and will not achieve anything in life I can't have people watching me slowly deteriorate like I am right now that will inflict more pain than just ending it.
 
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L'absent

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The length of time people remember us after we die varies depending on personal relationships and the impact we had on their lives. Close people, such as family and friends, may remember us throughout our lives, while acquaintances may forget us more quickly. The shared experiences and bonds we build can leave a lasting impression, both positively and negatively. Even small, everyday actions can affect how we are remembered. In some cases, such as the grief of losing a partner to suicide, the negative impact can be equally powerful, leading to feelings of resentment and misunderstanding. A partner who chooses to leave in this way knows that he will be hated, but he also knows that he will be remembered, making himself in some sense similar to eternity. This reminds us that our actions, whether positive or negative, have the power to profoundly impact the lives of others and how we will be remembered over time.
 
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death_bed221

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Sep 23, 2024
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For my mom probably forever, everyone else will be actually sad for a day max, then they will pretend to be sad while actually dont giving a fuck.
 
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dontwakemeup

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Nov 11, 2024
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How long will people mourn you depends on what type of person you were and the impact you made on people.

I can say my mother died years ago and I will always mourn her, i have bad days and i have terrible days. I'll never stop greiving her and thinking about her.

I also think the manner you die plays a role as how people will process your death. Suicide is tough on people you leave behind because they will always have questions, feel guilty, and some will blame themselves. Grieving the death of someone is a lifelong process. There isn't a "normal" amount of time someone should grieve you. The holidays will be hard for your family, and birthdays etc. If you plan on leaving it's probably a good idea to make great memories with the ones you love. Least they will have those last memories to cherish.
 
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Forveleth

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No one can answer this question because it is different for every person and every situation. Some family members may move in within months while some may grieve the rest of their lives. There is no way to know.
 
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TheHolySword

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a lifetime for some, some maybe not at all
 
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Something I want to note on this thread, is that a person's own perception of how much others may remember them, may be colored by certain biases such as the psychologist's fallacy & projection.

Grief affects many people differently, and maybe it will still be remembered deeply & critically within someone's heart even if their life appears functional and moving on from the outside.

I disagree with the idea of this binary of "moving on" and "grieving". Some people never stop grieving, they just grieve in a different way than when they first heard the news and passed through the first period of bereaving.

But regardless, it is certainly a crucial thing for anyone having such an idea to consider with, because it is a key part of calculating morality of such an action. It is made even harder by the fact that people may sometimes forget to demonstrate the manner of their care, due to personal modes of expression or societal norms. Just noting this all.
 
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